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Patrolman Allen William Gibson, Jr.

Waverly Police Department, Virginia

End of Watch Saturday, April 25, 1998

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Reflections for Patrolman Allen William Gibson, Jr.

For some time I have been wanting to reconnect with you but life happened and before you know it time escapes. I never doubted you would be of service to others, to me you will always be the strong, flawless, kind, compassionate and loving super human I remember. I must be dreaming, has my search for you really lead me to this page? I can't imagine a world your no longer a part of. I will say a special prayer for your entire family especially for your daughter Crissana. I will hold with adoration the pics of your beautiful contagious smile and crazy antics and think fondly of the time in Parris Island S.C. 1994; You were always in sight despite the filled fields of camouflage. Your tenacity, intense take charge zest for life attitude will forever be engraved in my heart. We never said goodbye dear friend and never will. I was blessed to have met you.

Your unforgettable I will remember you always
Margie Salas RN, AKA Feliciano

Margie Salas, RN
Long lost Friend and Travel RN from New York/California

August 10, 2021

Rest in peace sir. Your sacrifice will never be forgotten... And to your wife Laura. You will forevermore be in my thoughts and prayers. Reading your writings is by far one of the hardest, and sweetest things I've ever come across. I'm so sorry for your Loss and continued heartache. Your husbands bravery and the loss will be in my thoughts for the rest of my law enforcement career. God bless you and your family

Officer Recruit David Muncy
Hopewell Police Department

February 18, 2021

Happy anniversary, my love. I can’t wait till you kiss the tears right off my face as you walk me through those gates. Feel your heartbeat next to mine and we make up for lost time. I love you ❤️

Laura
Wife

April 27, 2020

I miss you. I dreamed about you last night. Like so many other dreams, it leaves me so sad and missing you. I dreamed I found out you were still alive and just in the hospital. I rushed to you. You were smiling. I told you I was taking you home now. I was so glad you were alive. Omg it’s so crazy to miss someone this much after all these years. I love u so much. Keep sending me dreams and signs. I’m watching for them. xoxoxo

Laura Gibson
Wife

September 30, 2019

Rest in peace Patrolman Gibson.

Rabbi Lewis S. Davis

August 22, 2019

Happy birthday! I hope you are celebrating in Heaven today. Miss and love u so much! xoxoxo

Laura
Wife

May 4, 2019

I still hate 4/25. I can’t believe you have been gone 21 years. I still miss and love you. Happy anniversary 4/27. Enjoy Heaven and we will be together soon.

Laura
Wife

April 27, 2019

Happy Birthday, Allen. You would have been 46 today. I will celebrate your birthday and Cinco de Mayo by having your favorite Mexican dish! :) Hope you are celebrating in Heaven. I'm sure you and Dad are up to something lol. Watch over us from above. xoxo

Laura
Wife

May 4, 2018

Happy anniversary. It would have been our 22 :’(
xoxoxo

Laura
Wife

April 27, 2018

Yesterday was hard. I can honestly say that even after 20 years the pain is still right there. Until we meet again, I will keep you alive in my heart.

Laura
Wife

April 26, 2018

"Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God."
Matthew 5:9

Marshal Chris Di Gerolamo
Federal Air Marshal Service

April 25, 2018

Some days if feels like an eternity...some days like it was yesterday. I'm in a much better place now than I was almost twenty years ago, there's no doubt about that. And although I don't go around grieving all the time, the grief is still there...and always will be. And although some wouldn't understand this, I am glad it's there. I never want to forget. I may never be "normal", but this is my "normal". It is who I am and that is okay. -xoxo


I read this online and loved it so much. This “old guy” gets it. He really, really gets it. He puts into words what I have tried my whole life to. God bless this man and his words of wisdom. Here’s what he wrote about grief:

“Alright, here goes. I’m old. What that means is that I’ve survived (so far) and a lot of people I’ve known and loved did not. I’ve lost friends, best friends, acquaintances, co-workers, grandparents, mom, relatives, teachers, mentors, students, neighbors, and a host of other folks. I have no children, and I can’t imagine the pain it must be to lose a child. But here’s my two cents.

I wish I could say you get used to people dying. I never did. I don’t want to. It tears a hole through me whenever somebody I love dies, no matter the circumstances. But I don’t want it to ‘not matter.’ I don’t want it to be something that just passes. My scars are a testament to the love and the relationship that I had for and with that person. And if the scar is deep, so was the love. So be it.

Scars are a testament to life. Scars are a testament that I can love deeply and live deeply and be cut, or even gouged, and that I can heal and continue to live and continue to love. And the scar tissue is stronger than the original flesh ever was. Scars are a testament to life. Scars are only ugly to people who can’t see.

As for grief, you’ll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first wrecked, you’re drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe it’s some physical thing. Maybe it’s a happy memory or a photograph. Maybe it’s a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is float. Stay alive.

In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don’t even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you’ll find the waves are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come, they still crash all over you and wipe you out.
But in between, you can breathe, you can function. You never know what’s going to trigger the grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a cup of coffee. It can be just about anything…and the wave comes crashing. But in between waves, there is life.

Somewhere down the line, and it’s different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or Christmas, or landing at O’Hare. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare yourself. And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again, come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you’ll come out.

Take it from an old guy. The waves never stop coming, and somehow you don’t really want them to. But you learn that you’ll survive them. And other waves will come. And you’ll survive them too. If you’re lucky, you’ll have lots of scars from lots of loves. And lots of shipwrecks.”

Laura
Wife

October 17, 2017

Happy Father's Day in Heaven.

Laura

June 18, 2017

Thinking of you as Police Memorial Week rolls on. Seeing your name on the wall in Washington seems so permanent. It's still just so hard.

Laura
Wife

May 16, 2017

Happy Birthday!! You would have been 45 today. I hope you are enjoying a wonderful celebration in Heaven today. I still remember your last birthday. You were 25 and we had a wonderful time celebrating your birthday at your favorite restaurant. Of course we had no idea it would be your last. I guess the words to this song says it best: "And now I'm glad I didn't know, the way it all would end, the way it all would go. Our lives are better left to chance. I could've missed the pain, but I'd of had to miss the dance." And I wouldn't have missed that for the world. Happy Birthday and thank you for all the memories.

Laura
Wife

May 4, 2017

Happy anniversary!! 21 years ago today, we said I do. 19 years ago today, I was sitting in a funeral home planning your funeral and picking out your casket. I never knew my heart could be so happy and break so completely on the same date. I will never ever understand why you had to go.
<3 always

Laura
Wife

April 27, 2017

4/25/98 – 04/25/17……I love Danny Gokey’s song and official video “I will not say goodbye”. He gets it. It might be 19 years today…but I refuse to say goodbye. I just can’t. :’(

here are the words to the song

It changes everything you've been
And all that's left to be
Is empty, lonely, broken, hopin'
I'm supposed to be strong
I'm supposed to find a way to carry on
I don't wanna feel better
I don't wanna not remember
I will always see your face
In the shadows of this haunted place
I will laugh
I will cry
Shake my fist at the sky
But I will not say goodbye
They keep saying time will heal
But the pain just gets more real
The sun comes up each day
Finds me waiting, fading, hating, praying
If I can keep on holding on
Maybe I can keep my heart from knowing that you're gone
Cause I don't wanna feel better
I don't wanna not remember
I will always see your face
In the shadows of this haunted place
I will laugh
I will cry
Shake my fist at the sky
But I will not say goodbye
I will curse
I will pray
I'll relive everyday
I will shelter the blame
I'll shout out your name
I will laugh
I will cry
Shake my fist at the sky
But I will not say
Will not say goodbye
I will not say goodbye

Laura
Wife

April 25, 2017

Rest In Peace, Sweetheart. The pardon for your killers was denied by the President. Thank God justice has prevailed.
Love you always,

Laura
Wife

January 12, 2017

Remembering you on this Veteran's Day. I will never forget you nor the sacrifice you made for our country.

Laura
Wife

November 11, 2016

My heart is broken for the fallen officers and their families (both blood and blue). Please send strength to those left to carry on in Dallas. And to all of us whose wounds are being reopened because of these events. I love you :(

Laura
Wife

July 8, 2016

Tonight I will be leaving and making the trip up to Waverly for the opening of The Allen W. Gibson Jr. Park! I am so excited and happy to know that the town of Waverly is still keeping your memory alive. I will be meeting up with Summer and Pam and they will be with me for this wonderful dedication. It is so hard to believe that you have been gone for so long, but I know that you will always be in our hearts and that you watch over us everyday. Your two beautiful granddaughters will be the first kids to play at the park and they are beyond ecstatic to play at "papaw Allen's park" as they call it. I know that you will be there with all of us tomorrow. We love and miss you so much and I know that we will see you again someday!

Crissana Gibson
Daughter

June 25, 2016

I never really knew who you were but I had talked to you on the phone when u was in boot camp with my brother. A lot of years later I met this beautiful young woman,this beautiful young woman is your daughter.I got to know a lot about you and take pride in who you were and what you stood for. You have two beautiful grand daughters and even though we are not together anymore we both make sure they know who their papaw Allen is and truly what a man u were.I want to thank you for what u did and for letting me be a part of your daughter and grand daughters life.thanks love n miss you father in law.

Rodney summers
son-in-law

June 22, 2016

Happy Birthday, Allen. You would have been 44 today. :(

Laura
Wife

May 4, 2016

04.27.96 – 20 years ago today, I became your wife and this was our song.
The moon and stars aren't mine to give
Neither is eternity
But I'll give you a promise tonight
That I can keep-

Long as I live
Long as I breathe
With every heartbeat
I'll need you near me
I won't leave you behind
'Til the Lord says it's time to go with him
I'm yours…long as I live

04.27.98, on our 2nd wedding anniversary, I picked out your casket. I remember the pain I felt. I thought I was going to die it hurt so much. I remember crying and screaming and praying to God it was a nightmare…but it wasn’t. It was my reality. You were gone. Life has been hard, but God has helped me through it. Now, I try to help others in my situation. Those young women left behind to make sense of everything. I try to give them hope. Let them know they will make it through this with God’s help. No, it won’t be easy and it won’t be overnight, but it will get better. I hope I make you proud. Thank you for all the laughs and many memories. Until we meet again,
Love Always,

Laura
Wife

April 27, 2016

04/25/98 - 18 years ago today, you were tragically taken from us. I have no new words to say. Life sucked for a really REALLY long time, but thankfully I am in a much better place now. I will always keep your memory alive in my heart and never forget your sacrifice. Enjoy Heaven and give my dad and brother a hug for me. I miss you all so very much.
Love Always,

Laura
Wife

April 25, 2016

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