Family, Friends & Fellow Officers Remember...

Lieutenant Monica Carey

Clayton Police Department, North Carolina

End of Watch Friday, September 14, 2001

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Reflections for Lieutenant Monica Carey

Ten years seems like such a long time, but feels like yesterday. Missing you.

Angela Lee
Clayton PD

September 14, 2011

We'll here I go again the same sore sad reminder I get every year about this time. I will never get over it. I am thankful for all the times we shared as friends on and off duty it meant alot to me and you taught me alot. I'm sticking with my schooling just as you did. I try to keep contact with Meg and Justin they have grown up great you would be so proud I know I am. I know you and Joe have had alot of catching up to do and he doesn't miss you because he is right beside of you now.

I hope you know how much I miss you and I worked so hard that day alone when you left us. I did not forget what you said to me that morning and all I can say is thanks and I did.


Crissy Oravits
Former TC of Clayton PD/Family Friend

September 13, 2011

Oh Monica you are still so missed and thought of. I can't believe you have been gone from us for a decade, that morning will live with me forever. Your kids have grown into adults and are both wonderful, I am am sure because you have been there looking over them. I miss you and it is a lesser world without you here. Til we meet again my friend.

Deputy S.P.Lapsley
Wake County Sheriff's Office

September 13, 2011

Hugged Meghan (aka Monkey) and shook Justin's hand yesterday at Capt. Carey's funeral service in Kinston. You would be proud of those kids (young adults). They are so respectful. They are doing well.


February 12, 2011

Finding comfort today...Sad to hear of Joe's passing , but comforted to know that you and Joe are together in heaven.

Clayton PD Animal Control Officer/Friend

February 9, 2011

Sad news to report about Monica's husband, Joe Carey. We have received word that he has passed away, and will soon be buried next to Monica. I will post funeral service information when it is received.


February 8, 2011

"Hey Girl"
Who knew that those two words would set you on fire that day long long ago! I thank God every day that you found it in your heart to forgive me and give me a chance. How many people have a letter that starts off "Thanks for your application to this department...." and then turn around and get hired after all! I know it turned into a joke between us but trust me, I got the message! I never got around to saying it... Thank You.
I saw Megan the other day at the PD, She stopped by and talked with Jon G and I for a long time. She has grown into you...not quite as tall but she sure does have your fire!
I wonder every day just how different life would be around here if you were still here. Lots of new faces and a bunch still the same.
We miss you.

Lieutenant J.L. Owens
Clayton Police Department

January 21, 2011

Thinking of you and all of your loved ones today. Continue to keep watch over all of them, protect them from harm. You have not been forgotten.

"When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure." Author Unknown

Bob Gordon
Father of Chicago Officer: Michael P. Gordon, EOW: 8/8/04

September 14, 2010

Thinking about you today Monica. We miss you down here. Rest in peace sister and thank you for your sacrifice. Matthew 5:9

Gordon Hobbs
NC Game Warden

September 14, 2010

Well nine years ago today while we were still rocking from the 11th your last day with us happenned and really brought pain and loss to our door steps. Me and my family are in constant contact with Justin and Megan and I hang out with Justin probaly more then you would like but they are both great kids and i know you are very proud of them. We miss you and talk of you often.

Wake County Sheriffs Office

September 14, 2010

This is a song I recently wrote and recorded with you in mind.

Beautiful Angel

What a beautiful life she had to look forward to
What a beautiful smile a heart meek and mild forever true
She was not that very old does exactly what she wants to do
What a beautiful angel she will make for you

Heaven's not that far away for my angel to be
I'm glad I had the chance to have her for as long as I did
Our hearts may be broken now
But one day I'll look back on this and know
I did all that I could
What a beautiful angel she will make for you

What a beautiful life she lived
Even though it won't very long
What a beautiful voice she sang her heart out for everyone
The heart broken side of wants to keep her you see
I don't understand
With faith and love everlasting I know I'll see her again.

Words/Music/copywritten by
M.R.C and S&H studios Crissy Oravits

former co-worker/family friend

August 29, 2010

I finally got the courage to go to the cemetary with my family and place a nice arrangement for you there a while back. Then we do as usual and spend some time with Ms. Kitty Mr. Bill and your kids. Joe came by and that was a nice treat to visit with him again. I still often think about you and wonder if you are still proud of me. I miss your encouragement and nice long talks me mostly listening to you. I learned alot from you and I try to apply it to my life and education now. Thanks for being my friend and confidant when I really needed it there. I am sorry you are gone but happy where you are now- I'm sure of.

Crissy Oravits and family
long time family friend

April 10, 2010

Hey Monica. Just wanted to check in. You were a special person and I will never forget our days working together at WPD. It sounds like your kids are doing great. I remember when they were born, Man, I'm getting old! You are truly missed and your supreme sacrifice will never be forgotten. Rest in peace sister. Matthew 5:9

Gordon Hobbs
NC Game Warden

January 14, 2010

I just wanted to let you know you are not forgotten. I think of you everyday, and want to let you know that you were a good cop. I realize that when we first met I was a bit suspicious of your intentions but found out what kind of woman you were. I miss you so much!!


January 13, 2010

Thinking of you today. Hoping your family gets thru it as best they can.... We will visit this weekend and leave a nice flower for you....

crissy and family
lifetime friend

September 14, 2009

September 14, 2009
It has been 8 years since the tragic accident and yet it still seems like yesterday all over again... I made you a new fall bouquet and a fresh arrangement and a bouquet of pink roses from Justin & Meghan and we went and put them at your resting place... We have a rose bush thats called a knock out rose bush that gets real full of roses. I guess you can look down and see them... I will never get over you leaving us but I know your life in Heaven is so busy....Joe came by after leaving the cemetery and spent the afternoon with us.. We really were grateful of him being here...Justin and Meghan are grown up and doing great... Justin is now with the Sheriff's Dept. and Meghan is in college pursuing her career in the medical field..
Please continue to watch over our family and the Clayton PD and here in the Wilmington Police Dept. where you first started in Law Enforcement as a Cadet working your way up.
We miss you terribly but know your doing your job in Heaven to help with the grief of the 9/11 families.
Please know that I feel your presence every day and one day I'll be with you again.
Until then rest well my sweet girl.
Love, Momma & Daddy

Bill & Kitty Williams
Momma & Daddy

September 14, 2009

Well, another year has passed. It is so hard to believe that it was 8 years ago today that we lost you. I still miss you, and will never forget the sacrifice you made. Megan and Justin are such good kids, they would make you proud. Till we meet again my friend.....

Angela Lee
Clayton PD

September 14, 2009

Lt. Carey,
Maam, On today the 8th anniversary of your death I would just like to say thank you for your service and sacrifice for the citizens of Clayton. And to your family and loved ones, I wish to extend my deepest sympathy.



September 14, 2009

Thanking you and all our hero angels out there watching over our men/women in uniform as they continue to protect and serve. You will always have a special place in my heart as my friend and I will always be thankful for that.

God Bless your family and may God give them peace and comfort to carry on. Until we meet again my friend...

crissy oravits
friend forever

July 22, 2009

Ever since your passing I have lost many friends in the war on terror. But I just wanted to let you know I still think of you and your mom and dad and your two kids. You were so kind to me and at the time telecommunicators and I will never forget that.


Civilian Dean Chrismon

July 22, 2009

I always stop by from time to time just to let you and your family know that I think about you often, pray for your family as well as mine and remember all the good things you taught me... I miss our conversations we used to have and all the fun we had as an extended family. I know in my heart you never that far away... I want you to know I kept true to my word...

Crissy Oravits
family friend

March 3, 2009

Hi Monica:

It's hard to believe you've been gone seven years. Wow. I still think of you and remember what a nice lady, mother, wife, sister, daughter, friend, officer and person you were and still are in the hearts of many. I know your family is ok but no doubt will never stop missing you. Reat easy sister.

Cheif John Millan

September 15, 2008

It was 7 years ago that you left us,3 days after the 9/11 tragedy. I could not conceive why it happend and then I realized that you were needed in Heaven to help out with so many in New York that morning and thats why God chose you my sweet daughter.. As we came to your gravesite to bring flowers Mike Clemmons drove up and met us. He has been such a wonderful friend and has supported us with love and understanding through all of these 7 years.Justin is now going through BLET and is following right behind you in law enforcement.. Meghan is on the other side pursuing a medical profession. The town of Clayton still mourns you as we do. You were so well thought of and loved and gave so much of yourself. The other day I was at Walmart and a very nice man drove up to my car(actually your car)and had read the ODMP magnet with your picture in it and said he was Agent Sneed with the SBI in Raleigh and remembered you and he just wanted to let me know that you will never be forgotton and what a fine officer you were. Tears came as I said "thank you, I appreciate it so much". As he left there was such a peaceful feeling that came over me and I knew for some reason that you could possibly have sent him to let me know you were still with us and looking over us. God had a plan that day to choose the most worthy and hard working person and that was you.. I feel cheated sometimes and then I understand.I am so proud of you my sweet little girl and I know I will see you again. Please continue to watch over our family, friends and especially the officers in Clayton. We love and miss you.
Love, Momma & Daddy

Bill & Kitty Williams
Mom & Dad

September 15, 2008

Seven some ways it seems like just yesterday and in others like a hundred. Well last night at just before midnite the eight of us on night shift pulled into the PD parking lot and ran our blue lights while i lowered the flag to half-mast. Tamara put fresh flowers in your memorial and we all met over there and talked about you for a while. You are not forgotten, ever !

Clayton Police Department

September 14, 2008

Today, September 14, 2008, was just as hard for me as it was 7 years ago. The thought of driving your husband from Wilminton to Wake Med running emergency traffic the entire distance. Then once we got there, having to face the inevitable, your parents. I remember that day like it happened yesterday. I know you're aware but I've become really close to your family especially your parents. They are like family I've never had. I wish I had gotten to know them better under different circumstances. I'll keep praying for them and help you watch over them.

Friends for Ever,

Sgt. Michael Clemmons
Wilmington NC Police Department Good Friend

September 14, 2008

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