Family, Friends & Fellow Officers Remember...

Lieutenant Monica Carey

Clayton Police Department, North Carolina

End of Watch Friday, September 14, 2001

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Reflections for Lieutenant Monica Carey

Monica was always such a wonderful person so full of life. My stepfather was a Lieutenant in Wilmington and even though I was very young, I can remember the Carey family.
A wonderful mother, wife, officer and friend.
She will always live on through her family and the many people whose lives she touched. God Bless the Carey family.

Jenn W.

September 14, 2006

We remember... we will always remeber.

September 14, 2006

It is hard to believe that five years have come and gone. It still hurts to know that you are not here with us. We still miss you and know that you are with us in spirit. God truly has a special angel up there or he would not have called for you so early. He really needed someone as sweet and good hearted as you. We pray for your family and visit them often still. They are a big part of our lives more than ever now. God bless them all William's family, Carey family and the rest...We will always hold your memory near and dear to our hearts always.

the oravits family
forever friends

September 14, 2006


5 years ago today,we lost you. Today I still find it hard to imagine that you are gone. your memory lives on in our hearts and minds every day. Your children have grown up , and you would be so proud of them. I see you so much in them. Thanks you for the friendship you gave me as well as the advice, both professional and personal. you are missed today and always. Angie

Angela Lee "419"
Clayton PD/ACO

September 14, 2006

"The guardian angels of life sometimes fly so high as to be beyond our sight, but they are always looking down upon us." - Jean Paul Richter

Monica ...
It's been five years today. You're not forgotten.

A Citizen of Clayton

September 14, 2006

To my former Supervisor, Partner and Pal,

It's been five years and A lot of folks still miss you. Ive had the opportunity to see you family a few times since your passing. The kids are getting older, your parents still miss you everday and so do the former crew. Ive gotten older in a lot of ways and now have a wonderful little boy who means the world to me. He loves what I do and tells me to be careful everday I leave home to fight crime. The other team members also have children now and I know they feel the same way I do. I still remember all the fun and of course the seriousness of the job we shared together. I will stop by and visit you today like I have since you left us. We all miss you.


Police Officer
Former Carolina Beach PD and Partner

September 14, 2006

May you be ever Blessed and may your family be ever comforted.

September 14, 2006

Tomarrow is going to be the saddest day in our United Stated as it will be the 5th year anniversary of the 9/11 bombing... Three days later God looked down to see who was most worthy of becoming an Angel to help with the grieving and loss of so many families during this horrible week and he picked you my sweet daughter. In the midst of all the grieving, the anguish and the empty feeling we all felt and still do, I have realized that God needed you for help..It is still so very hard to realize you are not here but I feel your presence when I need you most.We love and miss you so much and I look forward to the day we will be together again.Until then rest well my sweet little girl.

Momma and Daddy

Bill and Kitty Williams
Momma and Daddy

September 10, 2006

The policeman stood and faced God,
Which must always come to pass.
He hoped his shoes were shining,
Just as brightly as his brass.

"Step forward now, policeman.
How shall I deal with you?
Have you always turned the other cheek?
To my church have you been true?"

The policeman squared his shoulders and said,
"No lord, I guess I ain't,
Because those of us who carry a badge
can't always be a saint."

I've had to work most Sundays,
and at times my talk was rough,
and sometimes I've been violent,
Because the streets are awfully tough.

But I never took a penny,
That wasn't mine to keep
Though I worked a lot of overtime
When the bills got just too steep.

And I never passed a cry for help,
Though at time I shook with fear.
And sometimes, God forgive me,
I've wept unmanly tears.

I know I don't deserve a place
Among the people here.
They never wanted me around
Except to calm their fear.

If you've a place for me here, Lord,
It needn't be so grand.
I never expected or had too much,
But if you don't I'll understand.

There was a silence all around the throne
Where the saints had often trod.
As the policeman waited quietly,
For the judgement of his god.

"Step forward now, policeman,
You've born your burdens well.
Come walk a beat on Heaven's streets,
You've done your time in hell"


March 18, 2006

i saw a lovely memorial was placed in your honor at the tragic site you gave your life to save others. although it is a sore sad reminder when ever i drive past that location. i will always feel a great sense of pride knowing that your fellow officers have not forgotten you and felt the need to place such a nice memorial in honor of you. i miss you dearly and i thank the people who graciously placed that in memory of our dear friend. with love and respect you are never forgotten.

crissy oravits

January 26, 2006

Four years have gone by and our losing you still hurts our hearts. That will never change as you are loved and missed very much. I still look to you for guidance even though I cannot go around the hall to ask and often question why such a wonderful person. I then realize it is not my duty to question. It IS my duty to honor you and you are well deserving. Even though you are not physically here, your presence is still felt in our town and you are remembered and loved.

Investigator Tamra Allen
Clayton Police Department

September 14, 2005

Monica and I worked together at Carolina Beach PD years ago. She was a great Sergeant and a good friend. She really cared for her crew. In life remembering dates and people etc. is a hard thing to keep up with. But I remember 9/14/01 as do her former crew. I just wanted to pay a visit while she was on my mind so that on Wed 9/14/05 I can just reflect on all the good times we shared.
Jon (Boo-Boo) Knoll

Officer Jon Knoll
NHRMC Special Police

September 11, 2005

wish you were here a song that was sung at a local church i attend reminded us of what you probably are doing...we love you still and think of you often as ususal another year gone by not forgotten our friend...

wish you were here it's such a beautiful place.
wish you were here nothing but clear sunny days.
it never rains and no one complains and i don't have to shed one tear.
i'm having a good time in heaven and i wish you were here.
i can just see you walking on the shores of heaven.
you're having a good time talking with friends and family.
one day we all plan to go there and stay forever.

the oravits family

July 28, 2005

When God Made Peace Officers

When God made Peace Officers, he was into his sixth day of overtime when an angel appeared and said, 'You're doing a lot of fiddling around on this one.' And the Lord said, ' Have you read the spec on this order?

A peace officer has to be able to run five miles through alleys in the dark, scale walls, enter homes the health inspector wouldn't touch, and not wrinkle his uniform. ' He has to be able to sit in an undercover car all day on a stakeout, cover a homicide scene that night, canvass the neighborhood for witnesses, and testify in court the next day. 'He has to be in top physical condition at all times, running on black coffee and half-eaten meals. And he has to have six pairs of hands. '

The angel shook her head slowly and said, 'Six pairs of hands ... no way.' 'It's not the hands that are causing me problems,' said the Lord, 'it's the three pairs of eyes an officer has to have.' 'That's on the standard model?' asked the angel.

The Lord nodded. One pair that sees through a bulge in a pocket before he asks, 'May I see what's in there, sir?' (When he already knows and wishes he'd taken that accounting job.) ' Another pair here in the side of his head for his partners' safety. And another pair of eyes here in front that can look reassuringly at a bleeding victim and say, 'You'll be all right ma'am, when he knows it isn't so. '

'Lord,' said the angel, touching his sleeve, 'rest and work on this tomorrow.' 'I can't,' said the Lord, 'I already have a model that can talk a 250 pound drunk into a patrol car without incident and feed a family of five on a civil service paycheck.'

The angel circled the model of the peace officer very slowly, 'Can it think?' she asked. 'You bet,' said the Lord. ' It can tell you the elements of a hundred crimes; recite Miranda warnings in its sleep; detain, investigate, search, and arrest a gang member on the street in less time than it takes five learned judges to debate the legality of the stop ... and still it keeps its sense of humor.

This officer also has phenomenal personal control. He can deal with crime scenes painted in hell, coax a confession from a child abuser, comfort a murder victim's family, and then read in the daily paper how law enforcement isn't sensitive to the rights of criminal suspects. '

Finally, the angel bent over and ran her finger across the cheek of the peace officer. 'There's a leak,' she pronounced. 'I told you that you were trying to put too much into this model.' 'That's not a leak,' said the lord, 'it's a tear.' 'What's the tear for?' asked the angel. 'It's for bottled-up emotions, for fallen comrades, for commitment to that funny piece of cloth called the American flag, for justice.'

'You're a genius,' said the angel.

The Lord looked somber. 'I didn't put it there,' he said.

- Unknown

Officer Mark Click
Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police Department

June 19, 2005

I first learned of Monica's sacrifice when I moved to this town a few years ago. I was employed with her best friend from childhood. That meeting was no accident. Her friend and I had one thing in common--we had both lost people we loved dearly to a line of duty death. As I got to know Monica's friend, I got to know a little bit of Monica. I admire her strong, caring, legacy in this town. Each day I drive to work and pass the place where she was killed. I think of her family often and say a prayer for them.

Dana, Resident of Clayton, NC
Surviving Spouse of an Atlanta Police Officer

March 17, 2005

god bless you. i think of you everyday and pray for your family. thank you for watching over me i needed that extra angel.

life long friend

February 13, 2005

I salute you for your service and honor you for your sacrifice.

A hero never dies...

Rest in peace, hero.

December 23, 2004

Still miss you and think of you everyday. You are forever an inspiration to me.

Angela Lee, Animal Control Officer
Clayton Police Department

September 15, 2004

In loving memory of Monica Carey:
It is with a heavy heart that I read all these reflections and I just feel so much sorrow for her husband and her children left behind. I know her parents and other relatives have such a huge void also, not to mention her co-workers from departments near and far. 3 years isn't long enough to heal, it may take a lifetime, but my thoughts are with you. We lost a deputy here in Whatcom County on Sept. 13, 2001 and I know that many still grieve that loss. God be with you in your pain and may your broken hearts continue to heal.
Lynn Kole
Bellingham, WA

September 15, 2004

Three years have gone by so fast,it doesn't seem to be that long. We are still thinking about you and pray for your family as well. We miss you dearly but one thing is for sure you're never far away you're always in our hearts.
We will meet again one day so save a couple pair of wings for us in heaven.
Love always,
Chris,Crissy,Austin and Colby Oravits


September 14, 2004

You are a true hero who made the ultimate sacrifice. May the memory of your service, heroism and sacrifice remain forever. May God bless you, your family and brother/sister officers. AC

Pennsylvania State Police

July 1, 2004

I stop by this website often after the death of two dear friends with the NCSHP (Troopers Calvin Taylor E.O.W. October 3, 2001 and Anthony Cogdill E.O.W. May 30, 2003).

It is obvious from the reflections that Lieutenant Carey was a wonderful Officer and great friend.

We all grieve over the lives lost in the line of duty. I hope you can find some comfort knowing that there are countless prayers that go out for your family.

These are senseless tragedies that never seem to stop. God Bless the men and women who continue to serve their communities in our great Nation.

...Gone, but never Forgotten....

Marti (EMT-Paramedic)
Haywood Co EMS (NC)

April 5, 2004

Rest in peace officer, watch over us, we continue on.

Senior Trooper
Virginia State Police

September 14, 2003

It has been two years ago today that the biggest family in the world, the Law Enforcement Family, lost a loved one. She has been truely missed by all that knew her and loved her. She might not be physically with us, we do know that she is here with us. She will live forever in our hearts and minds.


I read of a man who stood to speak
At the funeral of a friend
He referred to the dates on her tombstone
From the the end.

He noted that first came her date of birth
And spoke the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years.
(1934 - 1998)

For that dash represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth...
And now only those who loved her
Know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not, how much we own;
The cars...the house...the cash,
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard...
Are there things you'd like to change?
For you never know how much time is left,
That can still be rearranged.

If we could just slow down enough
To consider what's true and real,
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.

And be less quick to anger,
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we've never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect,
And more often wear a smile..
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while.

So, when your eulogy's being read
With your life's actions to rehash...
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent your dash?

Monica, you are missed by all who knew and loved you.

Your Friend,

Sgt. M.L. Clemmons
Wilmington Police Department

September 13, 2003

It has been almost exactly 2 years to the day that you were taken from us. I still miss you terribly and think of you every day. This week-end, like so many other week-ends, I will visit the place where they laid your body to rest. Once again..alone in the silence of that place I will sit there by the grave that bears your name and talk with you, as I did so many times before, when you were alive. The only difference now, is that you are not here to share that smile with me, or offer advice and encouragement anymore. My tears for my fallen collegue and friend are still here, after 2 years. But the honor of having known you is what keeps my head held high..for I know that I will see you again my friend. Missing you still......419

Clayton Police Department

September 12, 2003

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