Family, Friends & Fellow Officers Remember...

Bob, You deserve better than you ever got. I pray for you and your children everyday. No matter what you will always live in the hearts of many.

February 13, 2005

OK Bob here I was getting kinda bummed thinking people were forgetting you, then this week that changed. We've given two of your scholarships out this week, tomorrow we give out the third. The parents especially have been so excited, kind, and appreciative of you especially. Today, the mother of one cried while thinking about your sacrifice. Doing this has really helped all of us. I took your Mom to one on Tuesday and I think it really made her feel good to meet the student and his parents. You are touching so many lives even today.
We sure do miss you, everyday!

February 3, 2005

To the Stanze Family,
I would just like you to know that we think about Bob a lot. He will never be forgotten with our family. We all have shirts that have Bob's name on them that we still wear. Also, whenever I go to visit Nick, I also stop by to say hi to Bob and say a prayer for your family.

I was thinking back to Bob's funeral and I was with Nick when he watched it on t.v. He said that it such an honor for Bob and his family for all of the officers and community to be there to help support the family. Little did I think that Nick and our family would be going through the same thing a few years later.

I just wanted to know that we have not forgotten Bob and that I am sure that he was there to welcome Nick.

Kelly Brown
Nick Sloan's sister

January 31, 2005

"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."

You will never, ever be forgotten...the love we all feel for you seems to grow stronger each and every day. We are so very proud of all of your friends who work to keep your memory alive as well as reach out to do good for others in your name. We miss you just as much as we did the day you left us. Pray for us all as we continue to go through another year of "firsts" with the loss of your Uncle Stu. Hugs from us all...we love you!

January 22, 2005

Hey bob! it's going to be a grey cold day today--I can already tell it will be one of those days when you're on my mind most of the day. I miss you so much & love you always.

January 22, 2005

Gone but NEVER forgotten.

January 21, 2005

Hey Bob,
We've been busy with the final details of your scholarship. I hope this makes you proud. It bums us out that just 4 years later so many people say, "Bob who? Oh yeh, I remember something about that." You went from being front page news for a few months to a vague memory for this community. That's what drives us. We can't seem to let you go and want so many others to remember you the way we do. When I read the newest officers reflections I just think that their friends and family are in for a long bumby road. I would have never imagined this is where we would all be today. Keep watching over all of us, especially all the kids.

January 18, 2005

Dear Bobby....it's sometime the first of January and it is snowing big time....you would love it....just like your Uncle Butch..

I miss you,
Danny and your uncle.....soooo much

I am so sorry I haven't visited this site more often.....

Just know that I love ya'll very much

xo Aunt Carol

January 7, 2005

Bobby, I hope this new year brings so many of us peace in our hearts and minds. These four and a half short years have been so hard for everyone that know and love you. So many people do things to keep your memory alive and for that we are thankful. Miss you.

January 4, 2005

Happy New Year, Bobby!

I just spent an hour leaving you a great story to be included in your reflections, and somehow it got deleted. So just let me say, you are truly missed and not a day goes by that we don't think about you.

The only thing that helps me get through it all is knowing that ya'll are up there having a great day and one hell of a party. Knowing the "three of you" as I do, you can't wait for football to start today.

As much as I don't care for the game, I may just grab a Bud Light and suffer through it in honor of ya'll.

I was one of the fortunate ones that you came to visit and thank God, Uncle Butch confirmed that. I know now, you really came to see him, but I loved seeing the "blue glow". Hopefully you'll be back.

Love to you all and know we miss all of you very much

Happy New Year, Bob

Love
Aunt Carol
xo

January 1, 2005

Happy New Year! I can't believe another year has come and gone without you. Please continue to watch over us and send us a sign to let us know you are okay.

January 1, 2005

Bob,
Another Christmas has come and gone. Holidays are hard, but not really harder than any other ordinary day of the week. I still can't go 10 minutes without thinking or talking about you. You are always on my mind. I know you understand me, and I hope that you are proud. After you were killed, I wanted to die too, but not anymore. We will all be together again some day, it's inevitable. We will all eventually end up where you are, so I've come to see time here as a gift...a limited one. I want to enjoy every minute I can with friends, family, and especially the kids. I want to be with them for as long as I can, and hopefully be around to meet our grandkids. I know you'll be there for me when it's over, and I know just how it will be when I get there. Until then, I still leave the lights on all the time. (which irritates Mark as much as it did you!) The only difference is now they're on for you instead of me. I can't get to where you are yet, But...

"every light in the house is on,
the backyards bright as the crack of dawn,
front walk looks like runway lights,
kinda like noon in the dead of night,
every light in the house is on,
just in case you ever do get tired of being gone,
Every light in the house is on."

Love you mostest,
Shell

December 29, 2004

Merry Christmas Bobby!!! I miss you.

December 25, 2004

Merry Christmas Bobby,
This year without you will be just as hard as the first. That is one thing that will never change.

December 23, 2004

Bob, I can't believe another holiday has come and gone without you. It does not get eaiser without you here. It seems to get worse and it is harder and harder to see everyone move on and I still feel as miserable and I did that day four years ago in August. Help me to accept thing or at least find peace with the way things are....

December 3, 2004

Just jotted down a reflection for my cousin Nick and I thought I'd pay you a visit too. Hope you two guys will be watching over your families this holiday season. It never gets easier for those you leave behind....

Pat Carpenter
officer's father's co-worker

December 3, 2004

Bob it sure is hard to believe we will be celebrating another Thanksgiving without you. My heart continues to ache---this still seems so unreal. I guess you will have another person added to your table this year. Just like always I will save the wishbone for you. Miss you more then ever.

November 24, 2004

Bobby,
Watch over us all during this holiday season. It is not the same without you, but I guess you already knew that. Will this feeling ever go away?

November 23, 2004

I just read the memorial for Officer Stanze and my thoughts and prayers are with your family. This is terrible when someone is doing their job, they get their life taken by a complete idiot! I hope your wife and kids are doing well! I'm sure you are keeping an eye on them from up above! I am sure you can see what a great job your wife is doing raising your twins! Keep helping her from up in Heaven! I did not know you, but I have read your reflections and I can tell that you were one hell of a guy! To your wife and kids, I hope some day you find peace and happiness! You're in my thoughts!

St. Louis Citizen

November 20, 2004

I really miss you. I'd give nearly anthing to talk to you again. Please look out for all of us. Love Ya.

November 9, 2004

Bob been thinking about you a lot lately. I guess I have been going through a difficult time and I just keep thinking about that day all over again. I wonder if it will ever get easier? I pray everyday that you are okay and have found peace and happiness---I only wish I could as well.

October 30, 2004

Happy Birthday. I wish we could spend it together. Hopefully you can have a beer or two with Papa. Please take care of him, and show him the ropes. Give yourself and him a hug and a kiss from me. Love Ya.

October 29, 2004

Happy Birthday Bobby. Can't believe it is the fourth one without you here.

October 28, 2004

Happy Birthday Bob,
I hope where you are there is a cold beer waiting for you. Miss You!

October 28, 2004

Bob I could really use a sign. Please let me know everththing is going to be okay. I miss you so much. I don't think life will ever get easier without you.

October 18, 2004