Family, Friends & Fellow Officers Remember...

Police Officer Robert J. Stanze, II

St. Louis Metropolitan Police Department, Missouri

End of Watch Tuesday, August 8, 2000

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Reflections for Police Officer Robert J. Stanze, II

You and your family remain in my thoughts and prayers.

July 6, 2005

Hey Bob!! Miss you - Happy 4th -
Please keep watch over everyone, especially Mike.

July 1, 2005

Hey bob! I've been dreaming about you alot lately, it's been really nice to have the "visits"! I appreciate everything you've "said"!! I miss you and love you always.

June 23, 2005

Just thinking about you and wanted to say HI!!

June 23, 2005

Just thought I would say hello and let you know that you are never forgotten.

June 22, 2005

I have been missing you even more than usual lately. I wonder if things will ever get better or if a day will go by that I don't think about you and that day? We are so fortunate to have met so many wonderful people through this horrible situation. You really had some great friends who have been so good to our family. It means so much to know other people cared so much about you. I know what a good person you were but it sure means the world to me to know other people feel the same way. I guess even though we lost you our family has expanded through all of your friends. Well, I just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you---I could use a sign.

June 6, 2005

Just thinking about you today and how everything was. No matter how many times we say it, it still holds true, it's not the same without you. Even though so many things have changed and it is hard to accept at times, we are so fortunate that our now SMALLER and tight group of family and friends can stay together through everything. I can see through other officers pages that is not always the case. It will always be hard when there are different ideas and opinions, but there will always be one common ground. We all love you and miss you. We all share the task of teaching your children all about you and what you meant to us all. I wish the other officers family would remember that.

May 21, 2005

I've felt you around me a lot lately. I guess you can tell I've been having a hard time. I don't like to bother you all the time asking for help, but I guess you know me better than I know myself. It's nice to know you're here for me, even when I don't outright ask you to be. You're the greatest and I miss you a lot.
Love Ya

May 21, 2005

Hey Bob. I was visiting your site and decided to say "hey". The weather is great BBQ weather, sun is shining and beautiful.

The "bad" months are here for the family....May, June,July and August. They are supposed to be the fun times of the summer. I mention June because not only is Doug graduating, but he will also turn 18. It's a hard time for him, I think, but he is staying strong.

You would be so proud of your kids! They are too cute and are growing up fast. When "Grandpa" takes Wil to the cemetary, they stop at the $ store and put spinners for the appropriate season on each grave. The adults, on the other hand, pour beers!

Just keep an eye on us.
Your "glow" is welcome anytime.

Just know that we are thinking of the "3 of you" and need to get through this hard time.

Keep us safe!
xo Aunt Carol

May 17, 2005

Dear Uncle Bob,
I miss you so much!!!!!!!!!!!! I know you died like a hero and I respect you so much!

I love you,
Alex D'Agostino

Alex D'Agostino

April 27, 2005

Happy Anniversary!
Love,
Me

April 26, 2005

Bob,

We just heard some awful news. That highway patrol officer is someone we know, from Baden. Please help him out and his family. God, this brings us back to that August afternoon. He was alot like you. Everyone's friend. Great father and husband. Full of life they say. It's really sad to that once again a "good guy" is taken. Thanks for listening. We all miss you so much.

Lisa

April 20, 2005

Bobby,

Thanks for taking care of your Dad yesterday. He sure gave us all a scare. He said he bet you were getting tired of watching out for him and I assured him that would never happen. We miss you so much and I know he misses your talks. Please continue to watch out for all of us. We love you!

April 17, 2005

Bob

I miss you and our talks so much. Please put in a good word in regards to the problem I talked to you about the other day.

April 15, 2005

Michelle and family,
I still remember the news footage when Bob was taken away from all of you.
I remember hearing how you had a young son and were expecting twins and I thought how terrible for you and your babies to not have their daddy everyday.
Four years later my family lost my cousin Nick Sloan. Now my heart breaks for Gavin to not know Nick as he grows up. I have two year old twin girls myself. I can't imagine the handfull you must have. My girls and I say our prays every night to Uncle Nick,and all the mommies and daddies in heaven who can't physically be with their babies. I check this site often and sometimes come to Bob's and it has brought me to tears many times. As a mother and as a family member who has lost someone so unexpectedly my heart goes out to you and your family. You are in our prayers.Michelle Gantner

Michelle Gantner
Nick Sloan's Cousin

March 27, 2005

Just thinking about you and miss you so much. Happy Easter!!

March 27, 2005

Happy Easter! It will be a quiet day today. It doesn't seem much like Easter as it is cold and rainy. A good day for a fire though. Just thinking about you and as always, wishing you were here to brighten our day. Miss you always!

March 27, 2005

For some reason I kept reliving that awful day over and over today. Sometimes it hurts so bad I don't know if I will ever make it through another day. Some days are not as bad as other days, but the loss I feel is ALWAYS there. Maybe someday you can help me to understand why this had to happen. I know I should be happy for you because you are in such a better place, but I can't. All I feel is such sadness. I miss you. There is no one here to give me trouble like you did---just to let me know you cared. I am so proud of you, I only wish I told you when I had the chance.

March 21, 2005

Wow! Can you believe it. Six long years, and what a day it was. (a long day!!!) I wish you could be here for it. It's not the same without you to share the memories with.
Love you tons!!

March 18, 2005

daddy
i love you. i miss you so much. i wish i could see you every day. tell papa i miss him too. say hi to him for me.
love,
wil

wil

March 16, 2005

Bobby,

Over the last few days, I have heard or read the words "Officer Robert Stanze" repeatedly. Those words carry an official tone and demand a certain level of respect. The formality and respect are appropriate for the job he was performing. His job was serious business and, tragically, deadly business. In spite of this, Officer Robert Stanze will never sound right to me. To me, I will always remember him as Bobby. Not Robert, not Bob, not Officer and not Officer Robert Stanze - just Bobby.

Bobby was my nephew and I am proud of it. He was quick with a joke and quicker with a smile. He loved family and holidays, but what he really loved was being around family on holidays. Although he never told me this, I am pretty sure his favorite Holiday was Christmas. He and his brother Mike could recite the lines from "It's a Wonderful Life" verbatim. Bobby's Jimmy Stewart impression is the best ever! He loved that movie and it is so ironic how the theme of that movie applies to Bobby's death. Clarence the Angel told George: "Each man's life touches so many others and when he isn't around he leaves an awful hole".

Bobby's death will leave a huge hole in the hearts of FAMILY and FRIENDS. That void will be greatest around the Holidays, especially Christmas. However, I know Bobby will be with us every Christmas Eve, when his Dad, his Uncles and his Cousins gather to toast another Merry Christmas to Uncle Bob and now...to Bobby.

I didn't say this to you enough when you were alive and I wish you were here so I could tell you now...I love you Bobby.

Rest in peace and keep smiling.

This letter was written to Bobby by his Godfather/Uncle Stu, on August 10th, 2000...

We know Bobby, that you, Danny and your Uncle Stu are now smiling down on us and we will see all of you soon!



March 16, 2005

Bob

Hope You, Danny and your Uncle Stu are enjoying a few cold "GREEN" beers.
Here's to you guys!!

Bob Stanze

March 16, 2005

Bob,
The other day I ran across some pictures of you and Mark. They were of you two and your boat and then when you both took the Escort on a road trip in a blizzard. As soon as I saw them, I almost started crying. I can't believe you are really gone and that you and Mark will not have anymore adventures together. People that say that the 2nd year is the worst are wrong. Every year is the worst. We all live with this great big void in our lives that will never be filled. It is hard for people that are outside of our group to understand the magnitude of our loss. Although we were not technically family, you were like a brother to all of us. (since you were this high, ha ha) We are not the same since that day. Mark especially. A part of him died that day too. I know your around us all, pulling us up when we feel really down. Please keep watching over all of us, especially your brother. I know how much your Mom worries about him.

March 2, 2005

Bobby please watch over Michael and help keep him safe!

February 25, 2005

You will never be forgotten!!!! May you rest in peace and may you family stay strong.

February 16, 2005

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