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Trooper Philip Joseph Lamonaco

New Jersey State Police, New Jersey

End of Watch Monday, December 21, 1981

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Reflections for Trooper Philip Joseph Lamonaco

Hi Dad,
I just got done reading the message that will be below mine, and I have to say that it is amazing that people from all over the world know of you. What an honor, and that was very sweet of them. This weekend I went to grandma's. Aunt Deb,Aunt D,Grandma, Mommy, and I all went to the movies. It was so much fun. I brought my blanket like I always do and good thing Grandma and Aunt Di got cold. Hahaha. It was a nice night. As you know we are getting a snow storm but of course,,, it is my birthday. It alwasy snows on my b-day but that is ok. I like the snow. I have to work Wed for my b-day but we are all going out after. Some family, friends and a few from work. Things have been good day but I am a little down. I know you know why. I am doing my best to stay positive about everything but I dont know how much more I can handle. I just need a break. But I know everything happends for a reason so I am just waiting it out. Just be with me. I know you are hearing me everyday and everynight and to be honest you are one that I feel I can truly talk to, I guess because you will lead me in the right direction and get the through it all. So I will hang in there until you point me in the direction. I am just missing you so much. I was talking to Aunt Di tonight and she said that she can see you in me in so many diffrent way. It made me smile. I am proud to be your daughter and I will love you forever. I PROMIS! Ok dad. I am going to go relax for the rest of the night. I hope all is well with you. I love you and miss you so much. I will talk to you in a little bit.
Love always
Your little Girl
Sunny

SARAH LAMONACO
PROUD DAUGHTER

February 11, 2008

I just saw a show on Dutch television called "The FBI" files, where they showed a sort of reconstruction of your murder, and everything happening since then, untill they caught everyone involved with it. I thought I'd look you up on the internet, and I found this site with all these responses from loving relatives to complete strangers, so I thought I could leave one as well. It is good to see that you are still so strongly remembered and revered by loads of people. I don't have much else to say, except that I wish your family all the strength in the world, because I know the death of a loved one will affect you even after 27 years!

Best wishes,

- Lars

Lars
from Holland

January 30, 2008

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO DADDY
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU

HAPPY BIRTHDAY DADDY! I LOVE YOU AND I MISS YOU SO MUCH. YOU ARE THE BEST DAD A GIRL COULD HAVE. I AM SO PROUD TO BE YOUR DAUGHTER. ONE DAY WE WILL MEET AND I CANT WAIT. HAVE A GOOD DAY AND I WILL TALK TO YOU TONGIHT. ENJOY YOUR DAY!!!!!
LOVE ALWAYS
YOUR LITTLE GIRL

SARAH LAMONACO
PROUD DAUGHTER

January 21, 2008

I grew up in a town not too far from where you were murdered. I was too young to remember the incident, but I have driven past your memorial site many times on Route 80.

I graduated the Somerset County Police Academy on December 21, 2006...25 years after those cowards took your life.

Rest in peace...your service will never be forgotten.

Ptl. Michael Whitmore #215
Lawrence Township Police Department (Mercer County, NJ)

January 18, 2008

HAPPY NEW YEAR MY LOVE
WELL HERE WE ARE ANOTHER YEAR, I DO HOPE THIS ONE IS BETTER THAN 2007. IT WAS PROBABLY MY MOST DIFFICULT TRYING YEAR I HAVE HAD IN A LONG TIME AND AM JUST GLAD IT'S OVER.

MY GOAL IS TO HAVE OUR BOOK FINISHED AND INTO SIMON AND SCHUSTER WITHIN THE NEXT COUPLE MONTS, SO PRAY FOR MY PEACE AND PATIENCE TO COMPLETE THIS VERY IMPORTANT BOOK.

AS OUR YEAR STARTS OUT IT WOULD NOT BE PERFECT IF I DID NOT SEND MY LOVE TO YOU AND ASK FOR YOU AND GOD'S WISDOM AND GUIDANCE OVER ME AS I BEGIN A NEW.

I HOPE AS IN THE PAST, I WILL MAKE YOU PROUD OF ME IN ALL THAT I DO, AND ATTEMPT. SENDING MY LOVE TO YOU STRONGER THAN EVER AND NOT OR NOTHING BUT....HOW ABOUT MY GIANTS!!!

LOVE YOU BABY
YOUR PATUCH

DONNA YOUR LOVING WIFE

January 7, 2008

Rest in Peace TROOP, you and your family are always in my prayers, sorry I didn't get a chance to write on the anniversary of your death,I never met you but I think of you often, please watch over all of our brothers and sisters.

Kevin T Ryan
Ex-New Jersey Cop

December 27, 2007

Good Moring Dad,
It is the moring of Christmas Eve. I cant believe that it is hear already.First off I want to thank you for being there for me on the 21st... Dad, so many people stopped at your site as we were waiting for 4:17 and all of us went to your cemetary. It is truly amazing how much you are loved.Some say gone but not forgoten but other mean it..It was an ok day, it was good to be around people and I heard about 5 new stories about you by a trooper who worked with you alot as well from Jeff and his wife.Renea and Brandon came over when I got home and we all jut laugh and cried..You are missed dad. I hope you liked the card that I got you. As you know we are going to grandma's.. Mommy, Anthony and I are going.( grandma calls Anthony Frank hahahah) Thank you for getting him home safe last night with all the fights delayed. Our day is going to start at 2. we are all going to go see grandpa and then head to the house for a day full of fun, laughter and good times. Freddy Jenn and the Baby will be there later and it is just want I wanted to Christmas to be with all of the ones I love, and you will be there too!. If I see a meatball or a shrimp fall on the group I will pick it up for you. It will be a fun night.Tommorrow we are all going to Bonnie's and I may be going around with Anthony to see all his family and friends before he leaves.But again anohter day that will be fun. Ok Dad. I have to run and I am goin to do my best to write you beofre New Years Eve, if I dont. HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!!. Oh and I know that I ask alot but you know I turn to you becasue I know you will do your best. Anthony is leaving Jan 2. for Iraq until Aug. I am trying to help him believe that he will be ok but this is his thrid time so we are all worried..Guide him and protect him and bring him back to us safe..Thank you Dad. I miss you so much, I wish I could talk to you, I need a Dads advice on so much stuff but I pray and talk to you every day and night,,, I am just waitin for your sign!!!! MERRY CHRISTMAS DAD AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!
LOVE ALWAYS
YOUR LITTLE GIRL
SARAH

SARAH LAMONACO
PROUD DAUGHTER

December 24, 2007

HI MY LOVE, WELL THE DAY IS ALMOST OVER. I DO HAVE TO SAY IT WAS NOT THAT BAD. NICK ROSS AND NINO MIKE JENN, JEFF JABLON SARAH AND I MET AT YOUR SITE AT 1 PM FOR A CD UNVEILING. HONEY I HAVE BEEN WORKING WITH NINO AND NICK FOR A YEAR ON THIS SONG THAT WAS INSPIRED WHEN NICK PASSED TOM HANRATTY'S SITE A YEAR AND A HALF AGO. FROM THERE AND IS 45 PAGES OF THOUGHTS TO NINO, TO JOHN PALLATO TO ME THE SONG WAS WRITTEN AND JOEL SINGS IT. NICK FELT IT ONLY FITTING TO HAVE THE UNVEILING TODAY ON YOUR 26TH YEAR OF "REMEMBERANCE". THE CD IS CALLED FALLEN NOT FORGOTTEN AND THE WORDS SAYS IT ALL FROM THE PAST 25 YEARS. WHAT A GREAT HOBNOR FOR HIM TO WANT IT UNVEILED TOADY.

ANYWAY, AFTER THE PRESS CONFERENCE WE WENT TO LUNCH AND THEN JEFF, DIANE A FORMER TROOPER STEVE SARAH AND I DID ARE USUAL. THE SIGNS THE SITE HOPE FIRE STATION AND THE CEMENTARY. HONEY DO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH YOU ARE STILL LOVED BY SO MANY? WHILE AT THE SITE LARRY APGAR STOPPED BY AND ON THE WAY TO THE CEMETARY TOM DEFEO CALLED.

OH HOW I MISS YOU, YES IT GETS BETTER, UNTIL TODAY, BUT TOMORROW WILL BE BETTER AGAIN, I'M SORRY I HAVEN'T WRITTEN FOR AWHILE, BUT YOU DO KNOW I NOW BELONG TO HEART 911 OUT OF NEW YORK AND WE JUST CAME BACK FROM WORKING IN NEW ORLEANS. ACTUALLY ST BERNARD PARISHM A TOWN EAST OF NEW ORLEANS THAT IS JUST SO DEVASTED, YET. WE HAD A TEAM OF 43 FROM NY, PA, NJ AND 10 FROM OKLAHOMACITY, WE WORKED ON 14 HOMES AND FINISHED 7. THAT'S AMAZING, BUT I WALKED AWAY FROM THERE WITH SUCH A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE ON MY LIFE. THOSE THAT DON'T "GET IT" OR FAIL TO ADMIT THEY DON'T CARE TO "GET IT", IT IS NOW THEIR PROBLEM. I AM NO LONGER SWALLOWING, TURNING THE HURT CHEEK OR APPEASING THEM OR THIER IGNORANCE. SO, MY ENERGIES GO TO SARAH FIRST AND FOREMOST AND ALL MY TRUE FAMILY AND FRIENDS.

IT'S A TOUGH MOVE ON MY PART BECAUSE YOU KNOW HOW IMPORTANT PEOPLE ARE TO ME, BUT I'M TIRED AND THE REWARD OF KNOWING SOMEONE WILL BE BACK IN THEIR HOME, SOON, BECAUSE OF WHAT I MAY HAVE HELPED WITH, IS WHERE MY ENERGIES GO,,,TO PEOPLE WHO SEE THE NEED, RESPECT THE EFFORTS AND ENCOURGE. I DECIDED TO NOT BE WITH SAD, NASTY, BITTER, UNHAPPY, FALSE PEOPLE. I MAY BE LONELY, BUT NOT REALLY.

OUR LOVE WE HAD HOLDS ME STRONG AND GIVES ME THE HEART TO BEAR MY ADVENTURES AND ALL MY NEW FACES AND PLACES I WALK. SARAH HAS BEEN THE ONE THAT HAS ALWAYS BEEN THERE WITH ME, BY ME AND FOR ME WITH NO EXCEPTIONS OR FALSE PROMISES YOU CAN BE SO PROUD OF HER MY LOVE. SHE HAS OUR HEARTS AND BEATS AS ONE.....

I COULDN'T SLEEP LAST NIGHT THINKING OF OUR LAST NIGHT TOHETHER, WHICH OTHER THAN BEING A SUNDAY AND CHRISTMAS PROGRAMS AND MY CATADA, OUR NIGHT WAS "NORMAL". HOLDING EACH OTHER AND TALKING ABOUT THE DAY AND THE CHILDREN AND CHRISTMAS AND FALLING TO SLEEP TOGETHER IN EACH OTHERS ARMS. JUST HOW WE DID EVERY NIGHT, I WOULDN'T CHANGE A THING, AND THOSE 6 YEARS OF THAT "NORMAL" AND HONEST LOVE IS WHAT CAN SUSTAIN ME FOR THE NEXT 26 YEARS.
I'M VERY FORTUNATE AND OH HOW I MISS YOU. HOLDINGYOU LAST NIGHT IN MY DREAMS WAS.....NOT ENNOUGH....BUT IT WILL BE.

I LOVE YOU SO TENDERLY AND GENIUELY FOR EVER AND ALWAYS.
HAPPY ANIVERSARY AND MERRRY CHRISTMAS MY ANGEL OF LIGHT....MAY YOUR BLESSINGS FLOW LIKE THE CLOUDS ON A BRIGHT DAY AND SHELTER ME WITH ALL THAT LIFE HAS OUT THERE. TILL WE MEET ..... I SEND MY LOVE....
DONNA YOUR LITTLE PATUCH

DONNA LAMONACO
wife and best friend

December 21, 2007

You are remembered today and thank you Sir for your service

VanDenBerghe
Manchester, NH

December 21, 2007

Donna, Sarah & family:

My thoughts and prayers are with you today on this, the 26th anniversary. Alaway know that others will always remember and share your loss. Sarah, you will be OK, I know your dad is watching over you. You are remembered in prayer each day , you will make it through today even though it will not be an easy day.
Donna - always know I care .

Howard (Maine DPS/BLE-retired)
12-21-2007

Howard E. Cooke, Jr. (ret.)
Maine DPS/BLE

December 21, 2007

I pray that our Lord watches over your family during this season. I salute you on the anniversary of your tragic death. Rest well Trooper, you deserve it!

Trooper
Pennsylvania State Police

December 21, 2007

Donna, Sarah and Family,

You are in our thoughts and prayers especially today. We know how you relive the moments from the time your personal heartbreak began. Both of you have demonstrated such strength for the rest of us that we know we can live with pain and heartache. With everyone around you so joyous with the season, it is doubly hard to smile through the pain. You and Sarah have been an inspiration to all of us.
Phil would be proud how you have helped so many people whom otherwise would have never met you two without having suffered the same tragedy. God Bless you all.

Love,
Vicki & Carmen Petrelli

Vicki Petrelli
MIL Trp. Zimmerman, EOW 2-5-04

December 21, 2007

Here we are again sir, one year later honoring and remembering you as always. Merry Christmas to you and your family!

Cpl/1 Steven Rizzo
Delaware State Police

December 21, 2007

Hi Daddy,
Tommorrow is your dad, and tonight is not much better for me. I went to work and went out for a few after work. Dad, I dont want tommorrow to come. I hate being reminded that I dont have you. I am missing you so much. We are going to your site for a press confrence and then there again at 4:17pm. Make this pain stop. Please be with me tommorrow and help me be strong from everyone else. Stay with me,guide me and protect me. I love you dad and I Will be missing you and thinking of you all day as always.
Love always your little Girl.
Sunny Sarah

Sarah Lamonaco
Proud Daughter.

December 20, 2007

Hey Dad, How are you doing? Time is flying but I am so ready for 2008. I am so far behind on Christmas this year. I have not done one thing. I will do it next week, better late then never. hahahah. We had snow the other day not so much but it was sleeting, raining and snowing. Went home and made a fire. I went to the Dr the other day had some test done. I am ok just in a lot of pain. Protect me and make me feel better, because sometimes the pain is so bad. Your day is coming and it will be hard. I dread it dad. I dont want to keep being reminded that you will not be with me. Please watch over me and give me the strenght I that I need right now. I love you dad and I am missing you so much. words can not even explain.
Love always your
Litle Girl
Sarah

Sarah Lamoanco
Proud Daughter

December 14, 2007

The Badge"

He starts his shift each day
To respond to calls unknown.
He drives a marked patrol car.
A police officer he is known.

He's paid by the citizens' taxes
To make it safe on the streets.
But he usually has a second job
'Cause a waitress has his salary beat.

Now he doesn't know a holiday
'Cause he works all year round.
And when Thanksgiving and Christmas finally arrive
At his home he cannot be found.

He's cursed and assaulted often,
The one whos blood runs blue.
He seldom ever gets a thanks,
To some he's just a fool.

His friends are always other cops
'Cause people just don't understand
That underneath his badge and gun,
He's just another man.

He knows there might not be a tomorrow
In this world of drugs and crime.
And he gets so mad at the court system
'Cause the crooks don't get any time.

And each day when he leaves for work,
He prays to God above.
Please bring me home after my shift
So I can see the ones I love.

But tonight he stops a speeding car,
He's alone down this ole' highway.
It's just a little traffic infraction.
He does it everyday.

Well, he walks up to the driver's window,
And his badge is shining bright.
He asked the guy for a driver's license,
When a shot rang through the night.

Yes, the bullet hit its mark,
Striking the officer in the chest.
But the Department's budget didn't buy
Each officer a bullet-proof vest.

So he lay on the ground bleeding.
His blood wasn't blue - His blood was red.
And briefly he thought of his loved ones
'Cause in a moment the officer was dead.

In the news they told the story
Of how this officer had died.
And some who listened cared less,
But those who loved him cried.

Well, they buried him in uniform
With his badge pinned on his chest.
He even had his revolver,
He died doing his best.

Written By:
David L. Bell
Sergeant
Richland County Sheriff's Department
Columbia, South Carolina
Used with Special Permission of the Author
Copyright © 1999 - All Rights Reserved
and may not be duplicated without permission

Investigator David L Bell
Richland County Sheriff's Dept., Columbia, SC

December 12, 2007

YOU ARE MISSED AND LOVED BY ALL

December 9, 2007

Kevin,
the name of the movie is:
In the Line of Duty: Hunt for Justice (1995) (TV) you can google it to find out more.
My heart breaks when I read the reflections, what an honorable man Trooper Lamonaco was (and is).
A friend

Anonymous
just a friend

November 29, 2007

Hey Dad,
How are you doing? We had our first snow of the year. We got about 6 inches. Not to bad but it was fun to see it.The time is flying by. Thanksgiving is Thur and we are having 20 people over,it will be crazy but hey that is our family hahaha. Christmas will be here before we know it, and it is going to hard once again with out you but you will be with us.We are going to grandma's for Christmas Eve so that will be a blast as always. Work is good and we are all doing good. We have the survivors tree lighting coming up so we can see your name hanging on the tree as well as all the others. Please watch over Mommy this time of year. I know that it is so hard for her but I know you will be there for her and all of us as we go through this hard time. I miss you and I love you so much and I would give anything to hear you, see you or hold you for one second. I love you Daddy. Have a good day and I will talk to you latter tonight.
Love always your little girl
Sarah

SARAH LAMONACO
PROUD DAUGHTER

November 20, 2007

What a wonderful tribute to your husband and father. I know this time of year is very hard for all of you. Please know we keep you in our thoughts and prayers.

Tiffany (Hendershot) Mahan

Tiffany (Hendershot) Mahan
old friend...

November 19, 2007

Trooper Lamonaco and family, Your memory will never be forgotten. Please know that people you will never even know in your lifetime think about you and your family. I cannot even imagine how hard it must have all been. May God Bless you all

Easton PD Wife

October 3, 2007

HI DAD,
HOW ARE YOU? WELL TODAY IS THE DAY ED IS COMING HOME FROM OVER SEAS. MOMMY IS DOWN IN NC WITH THE FAMILY TO WELCOME HIM HOME. DO TO WORK I WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO GO BUT HE IS ON OUR GROUNDS NOW AND IT IS AN AMAZING FEELING TO HAVE HIM BACK. I KNEW YOUR TRIANGLE I GAVE HIM WOULD BRING HIM HOME. THINGS ARE OK WITH ME, I HAVE A HORRIBLE COLD AND JUST FEELING A LITTLE DOWN, BUT I KNOW YOU ARE THERE FOR ME AND WITH ME TO KEEP ME GOING. SOMEHOW YOU ALWAYS MAKE THINGS WORK OUT FOR ME AND I KNOW THIS TIME YOU WILL ALSO. FALL IS COMING AND I LOVE IT. IT IS GETTING A LITTLE COLDER OUTSIDE SO I THINK THAT IS MAYBE HOW I GOT THIS COLD BUT IT IS GETTING BETTER. WORK IS GOOD AND EVERYTHING ELSE IS THE SAME BUT YOU KNOW THAT. I HOPE YOU ARE DOING WELL AND PLEASE KNOW THAT I KNOW YOU ARE WITH ME AND THAT I FEEL YOUR LOVE AND I THANK YOU FOR THAT. OH DAD HERE IS A STORY FOR YOU...I HAVE YOUR PICTURE ON MY CELL PHONE. I WAS OUT THE OTHER NIHT AND SOMEONE SAW IT AND SAID IS THAT YOUR DAD. LONG STORY SHORT THEY KNOW YOUR STORY AND SAID TO ME,,, YOU ARE DADDY'S LITTLE GIRLS. I SMILED AND SAID I ALWAYS WILL BE. IT WAS A CUTE MOMENT. I HOPE YOU HAVE A GREAT NIGHT AND WATCH OVER EVERYONE DOWN IN NC AND I WILL TALK TO YOU TONIGHT. I LOVE YOU SOOOOOOOOOOOOO MUCH DAD AND I MISS YOU.
LOVE ALWAYS
YOUR LITTLE GIRL
SARAH.

SARAH LAMONACO
PROUD DAUGHTER

September 18, 2007

HI DAD,
HOW ARE YOU DOING? TOMMORROW IS THE FIST DAY OF SEPTEMBER. WHERE DID THE TIME GO. TWO WEEKS AGO MOMMY AND I WENT TO THE SITE AND CLEANED ALL THE WEEDS UP, THIS TIME I DID NOT GET POSION IVY. THANK GOODNESS! HAHAHA. LAST WEEKEND WE HAD A BBQ AND AUNT DEBBI AND GRANDMA CAME UP. WE AHD A GREAT TIME. I TOLD GRANDMA THAT I WOULD MAKE HER WHAT EVER SHE WANTED SENCE SHE ALWAYS MAKES ME A GREAT MEAL. WANT TO KNOW WHAT SHE ASKED FOR??? A HOTDOG! I SAID NO PROBLEM I CAN HANDLE THAT. SO SHE GOT HER HOTDOG... THE WEATHER WAS NICE AND WE ALL ENJOYED OURSELVES. THINGS ARE GOOD WITH ME. WORK IS GOING REALLY WELL. THIS TUE IS OUR SURVIVOR GOLF OUTING, SO THAT COULD BE FUN THE WEATHER IS TO BE NICE. OTHER THEN THAT THINGS ARE THE SAME HERE. MOMMY IS DOING GOOD KEEPING BUSY AS ALWAYS. WELL I AM GOING TO GO TO BED NOW. JUST WANTED TO STOP IN AND SAY HI TO YOU. HAVE A GOOD NIGHT SLEEP AND I LOVE YOU WILL ALL MY HEART. SWEET DREAMS DADDY. I LOVE YOU.
LOVE ALWAYS
YOUR LITTLE GIRL
SARAH

SARAH LAMONACO
PROUD DAUGHTER

August 30, 2007

God bless

Detective
Cranford Police Dept (NJ)

July 19, 2007

DAD,
HEY DAD HOW ARE YOU DOING? THINGS ARE GOOD HERE, I CAN'T BELIEVE THAT SUMMER IS ALMOST OVER.THE WEATHER IS BEAUTIFUL. HAD ALOT OF RAIN BUT THAT IS OK. WE ARE ALL DOING WELL AND WE WENT TO GRANDMA'S THE OTHER NIGHT. AUNT SHIRLY AND UNCLE DALE CAME ALONE. OF COURSE WE HAD A GREAT MEAL. AFTER DINNER WE ALL SAT OUTSIDE AND JUST TALKED. WE HAD A GOOD TIME. I AM GOING TO THE SHORE WITH JENNY TOMMORROW. I THINK WE BOTH JUST NEED A DAY TO RELAX AT THE BEACH HAHAH OR THAT IS JUST AN EXCUESS TO GET GO. MOM IS GOING WELL STAYING BUSY AS SHE ALWAYS DOES. BUT SHE MISSES YOU AS, ALWAYS WE ALL DO. I HOPE YOU ARE DOING WELL AND I WILL TALK TO YOU LATER TONIGHT. I LOVE YOU DAD, I KNOW I SAY IT ALL THE TIME BUT THAT IS ONE THING YOU WILL HEAR FOREVER. ONE DAY IN PERSON. I LOVE YOU SWEET DREAMS.
LOVE ALWAYS
YOUR LITTLE GIRL
SARAH

SARAH LAMONACO
PROUD DAUGHTER

July 14, 2007

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