Family, Friends & Fellow Officers Remember...

Trooper Philip Joseph Lamonaco

New Jersey State Police, New Jersey

End of Watch Monday, December 21, 1981

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Reflections for Trooper Philip Joseph Lamonaco

Hi Daddy,
Here we are again. Another year. It has been 27 years. It is strange that is how old I am. Today we remember you and all you stood for. A Husband, a Father, a Trooper, and most of all a HERO. Dad, I miss you so much today as I do every day. It is so sad to me that I have to visit you at your cemetary yet, I know you are not there. I know you are in the sky with God watching over me and everyone..We had your meal again tonight, and I have your candy bar that I will leave for your tommorrow. I look at your picture as I write you and it is as if you are looking at me. I see you in me in so many ways and I love it.I know I didnt know you for long and I dont remember alot if any but you were a great Dad, many told me and it showes. I will see you one day.Until then watch over me and the family and protect us... I love you Daddy and I miss you with every beat that my heart takes each day. I will Honor you tommorrow and everyday after...Dont worry about Mommy, I am taking care of her for you.. See you in my dreams Dad, Rest in peace...XOXOXOXO
Love always
Your little Girl
Sunny Sarah

Sarah Lamonaco
Proud Daughter

December 21, 2008

Donna and Sarah, just wanted you to know that I will be thinking about you tomorrow, just as I am on every December 21 since I have met both of you amazing women and learned of your tragedy. You both are very special people to me and I am very glad to have you both in my life. Your husband/dad was a hero and you should be so proud of that. Know that you are not alone today or any day. You have "family" in me and my parents and we love you! Love, Denise

Denise Zimmerman
Surviving Spouse of NJ State Trooper Bert Zimmerman

December 20, 2008

Tomorrow will mark the 27th anniversary of Trooper Philip Joseph Lamonaco's death. He was slain by persons viewing themselves as revolutionaries. People who would have you believe they were doing something for the public good. They weren't. They were killers. Murderers. People who would shoot another by surprise and flee. Then hide. Like rats in the woodwork. But, they werre hunted down. It took years to conclude. But they were captured and brought to justice.

Eash of us in law-enforcement should ponder this incident, along with many others, and pay tribute to this hero and many like him. They stood the front line. They paid with their lives. Least we forget that what has occurred will no doubt occur again. And, again. Our defense, at best, is to recongnize how vulnerable we are while doing our job. Sadly, any safety practice, any skill and constant vigilance is not enough. Little can defend us from a sudden attack by those who would kill us by surprise. We work as soldiers of the law serving the public. Not as warriors.

What we can do is exactly what the New Jersey State Police have done in the case of Trooper Phil Lamonaco. They never gave up. They pursued his killers until they were caught. They stomped on the floor, and kept stomping, until they flushed the vermin out.

Trooper Phil Lamonaco stood for law and for justice. He was a model for many who would follow. And who continue to follow. He is a lasting hero to all of us who have retired and believe as he did-- in law and in justice. He chose the front line over any other job in law enforcement. He stands as a model for all who accept the challenge of being a law officer. What he faced would be a nightmare for any of us. What his fellow troopers faced in tracking down his killers was an almost impossible task. Like Trooper Phil Lamonaco, they accepted the challenge. They demonstrated a lesson in honor, brotherhood, diligence and knowledge. A warning that to strike at one of us is to strike at all of us. May this mind-set continue in law enforcement everywhere. Forever.

Cpl. Ralph D. Fiorenza (Ret.)
Pennsylvania State Police

December 20, 2008

Hi Daddy,
How are you? I can't believe that it is Nov.18th. Today I am going in to the city to see White Christmas. You know I love plays and I have never saw this one before. Mommy said I saw the movie but I dont remember. So It will be a fun day. Keep the snow up there until I get home. Hahahah.. Christmas is right around the corner. I started to do some shopping but I am not done yet. I am sorry I didnt go see you this week. I will be there next week Promis!! Aunt Debbie should be coming up soon and we will be decorating your memorial. It is so pretty with all the Christmas bows and all. Can't let people think we forgot about you because that will never happen. Things are good with me, I am feeling so much better then I was this time last year.. Just have to take care of myself and I will cheat when I have Grandma's meatballs in front of me, hahahahha. Please watch over all of us as we remember you everyday. I have to go get ready now, just wanted to say hi to you and let you know you are on my mind.. I love you miss you and I will talk to you later tonight.

Love Always,
Your Little Girl
Sarah Lamonaco

SARAH LAMONACO
PROUD DAUGHTER

November 18, 2008

Hi Dad,
How are you? I just wanted to say hi to you and let you know I am thinking about you and that I love you... Hope all is well. I will talk to you soon.
Love always
Your Little Girl.

SARAH LAMONACO
PROUD DAUGHTER

October 17, 2008

R.I.P. GONE BUT NOT FORGOTTEN! DONNA AND FAMILY, YOU ARE IN OUR PRAYERS. EVERY TIME I PASS BY THE HIGHWAY, YOU ARE REMEMBERED

P.O.
RUTGERS POLICE

October 16, 2008

i pass his memorial every day and say a prayer for his family he had kids the same age as mine i think about him each day as i pass it is a sorry thing what happened but it is like he says hello each day i come by i saw the first sign on the east bound lane and finally stopped to read it then saw the one on the west bound then i saw a monument park and stopped to see that also i never knew him it is a little strange to say this

frank berkey

October 15, 2008

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Former Police Officer
District Heights, MD Police Dept.

October 4, 2008

Hi Daddy,
Well Today is Aug 1st. Where is the time going. Today is Renea's wedding. I am so happy for her and Brandon. We are leaving in a little bit to get our hair done and get ready for the big day. I know you will be with her mom today as you both look down on her as she becomes Mrs.Fox.
Things are good down here. Work is good, life is good and I am very happy. I am feeling alot better health wise, so that is really good. I miss you so much dad. Know I love you and a day does not go by that I dont think about you.. Talk to you later.
Love always
Your Little Girl
Sarah

SARAH LAMONACO
PROUD DAUGHTER

August 1, 2008

HI MY LOVE,
DID YOU THINK I FORGOT ABOUT YOU....NEVER....HOWEVER I HAVE NOT WRITTEN TO YOU IN AWHILE AND FOR THIS I AM SORRY....THIS YEAR HAS BEEN SO CHALLENGING FOR ME IN SO MANY WAYS...THAT WELL, AT TIMES I HAVE JUST FELT LIKE I HAVE FAILED....YOU AND ME AND WHAT OUR LOVE STANDS FOR...OUR SARAH HAS HAD MEDICAL ISSUES, NO HONEY SHE IS OKAY NOW, BUT FROM NOVEMBER TO MAY SHE HAS GONE THROUGH PAIN, EMBARASSMENT AND HUMILATION....AND I DID NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO....BECAUSE OF HER WORK SHE HAS NO HEALTH INSURANCE AND AFTER 3 HUGE TESTS AND SEVERAL DR VISISTS....MONEY ACCUMLATED AND I WAS LITERALLY ROBBING FROM PETER TO PAY...WELL THE BILLS....THERE WAS AN OUTREACH OFFERED, BUT AFTER MUCH EMBARASSMENT AND SECRETACY'S AND WELL YOU KNOW WHERE YOU STAND WHEN THINGS LIKE THIS COME OUT...WE FOUND OUT...AS USUAL I SUCKED IT UP AND BETWEEN SARAH AND I WE WILL HANDLE IT OURSELVES...AND TO EVERYONE ELSE...WE ARE FINE.

IT JUST ENFRUIATES ME THAT AFTER ALL IS SAID AND DONE...THE TRUE HONEST FRIENDS WELL YOU FIND OUT THE BEST AND WORSE IN BAD TIMES...AND IT HAS MADE ME FEEL LIKE I HAVE FAILED...I'M TRYING OF ALWAYS STRUGGLING FOR MONEY,...TIRED OF EVERYTHING GOING THE RIGHT WAY OR THE BETTER WAY FOR OTHERS AND I JUST STRUGGLE. HONEY YOU KNOW I HAVE NEVER COMPLAINED AND I'M SORRY FOR DOING SO NOW...BUT MY FEELINGS HAVE BEEN HURT SO MUCH THESE LAST SEVERAL MONTHS AND I HAVE BECOME VERY CAUTIOUS OF MANY PEOPLE I THOUGHT WELL AT LEAST IF THEY DIDN'T LIKE ME AT LEAST WAS ON MY SIDE....SO NOT TRUE...ITS AMAZING HOW SO MANY IN OUR "LINE OF DUTY" FAMILY HOW THEY JUST DON'T GET IT...AND THAT REALLY BLOWS MY MIND....
ANYWAY ENOUGH OF MY PITY POT....YOU NEVER LET ME STAY ON IT LONG AWAY NOT THAT I HAD TO OFTEN...SO NEXT WEEK OUR HEART 911 ORG. IS GOING TO FLORENCE NJ TO BUILD FROM THE GROUND UP A NEW HOME FOR A STAFF SGT MARINE THAT WAS IN A HUM V WHEN IT WAS BLOW UP AND IS NOW WHEELCHAIR BOUND AND HE AND HIS WIFE NOW NEED A ABILITY HOME AND AFTER "HOME FOR THE TROOPS" GOT THE LOT AND MATERIAL, WE ARE BUILDING THE HOME. I CAN'T WAIT....IT IS THINGS LIKE THIS THAT KEEP ME GOING... I KNOW, OUR KIDS SAY, BUT MOM ARE YOU GETTING PAID FOR THIS, HOW MUCH ARE YOU SPENDING ON GAS AND TRAVEL...OH HONEY THE REWARD IS SO MUCH MORE THAN MONEY COULD EVER BUY AND EVEN THOUGH I JUST SHARED MY FINANCIAL PITY POT...I WORK HARD AND CONSERVE MY MONEY AND TRY TO KEEP THE BILLS PAID....THIS...THIS IS SO MUCH MORE THAN ANY PAID STAMP COULD GIVE.

I JUST WENT TO THE HOMES AND THEN VIEWING AND FUNERAL OF DWAYNE KELLY, NJSP AND MARINE THAT WAS KILLED IN IRACQ. THEY GAVE...YOU GAVE...AS FOR ME EVERY DAY IS A GIFT WHICH I SHALL PROUDLY CHERISH IN WAYS THAT WILL HELP THOSE THAT NEED....BECAUSE WHEN IT'S ALL SAID AND DONE WHEN I'M IN YOUR ARMS...THAT'S WHEN MY REWARD WILL BE COMPLETE.

SO BABY THINK OF ME NEXT WEEK AS OUR GROUP BULDS THIS HOME WITH THE HEART OF VOLUNTEERS AND THE MIND OF THEIR TRAITS THAT THIS YOUNG COUPLE WILL HAVE A HOME TO COME BACK TO NJ IN THAT IS ALL THEIRS.

UNTIL I TALK TO YOU IN MY DREAMS...I LOVE MORE THAN YESTERDAY AND AM SO PROUD TO HAVE BEEN YOURS..

LOVE YOUR LITTLE PATUCH

DONNA WIFE OF
wife and best friend

July 10, 2008

Hi Dad,
How are you doing? I am sorry that I have not written in sometime. I have been busy with work and all. I have had you on my mind alot. Not one think, just in general. This summer is going so fast. I am not sure where the time is going. All is the same down here. Keeping busy. The 4th of July was this past weekend. We had some family and friends over so it was nice, but of course it rained. Hahah it always does when we have a BBQ. Things are good though. Mommy is doing good she is busy as always. I went with her to her 40th High School Reunion. It was fun and she has a great time seeing everyone.You know me, I just talked to everyone. Hahah. But we are all doing well, I hope you are too!. I love you dad and I will try to not let so much time go bye with out writting you. I miss you and I love you with all my heart and all I am,,I will talk to you later tonight,
Love always
Your little Girl
Sarah(Sunny)

SARAH LAMONACO
PROUD DAUGHTER

July 8, 2008

Trooper Philip Joseph Lamonaco,

I was on duty the day you died and recall the shock created in the area at the PA/NJ line as we scrambled for information to assist in the capture of the vermon that took you life. I was at your funeral, along with many, and we will filled the church to capacity...spilling into the community for miles.

I recall specifically the state police speaker mentioning that a terrible mistake was made by our Creator...words that only those in law enforcement, or their family, could accept not in anger with Him, but true words of hearfelt grief that a mighty hero had be taken from us. Surely He knew your courage. He knew your bravery. He knew your willingness to give your life for others. In fact it was His commandment you followed. We have a hard time understanding it, but He does not...nor did you.

The fact that you have a family who loves you as illustrated in the penetrating messages written by your wife and daughter is clear proof that you are much alive, and dwell in our midst. You are fortunate indeed to have instilled such undying love and devotion in the people most near to you. Many a person, living a much longer life, has not been able to achieve this precious wonder. It is only part of your reward.

So I can tell you this... as you stand among the legion of heros who have died enforcing the law, we will look toward the sky at night and, among what others see as stars, we will catch the glint of your badge. You have not only brought honor to yourself and the entire law enforcement community, but you have brought a very special honor to a loving family who feels your presence. Well done, trooper, ... well done.

Cpl. Ralph D. Fiorenza (Ret.)
Pennsylvania State Police

June 29, 2008

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY. I MISS YOU AND LOVE YOU SO MUCH. HOPE YOU HAVE A GOOD DAY.. XOXOXOXXOXO
LOVE ALWAYS
YOUR LITTLE GIRL
SUNNY SARAH

SARAH LAMONACO
PROUD DAUGHTER

June 15, 2008

Trooper Lamonaco you are not forgotten, rest in peace brother, and god bless you. You will be remembered by all. To Trooper Lamonacos family, god bless you all, the law enforcement community stands behind you.

JI
South Plainfield NJ PD

May 23, 2008

Hi Dad,
How are you doing? We got back from DC a few days ago. It was a nice trip, we all had a good time. Just to see your name, reality sits in.. Tommorrow is the memorial in Ocean Grove. Then it is back to work. Dad, I am giong thorugh a rough spot. I just feel that I can not et a break in aything. I know that I have so much more then alot of other people but it seems the one thing I want in lfe is so hard to fine. Please be with me and stand by me and get me through this as you have done in the past .
My health is much better. I have to go back in June for a check up and see if all the stuff they gave me and have me on is working. So as long as I do what I have to do I am better. Thank you for being there for me and helping me. I love you dad and I wish for one second that you could tell me everything is goin to work out for me in everything. I am sure it will but a break would be nice. Put a good word in for me to the man in charge.. I will talk to you soon Dad. I love you with all my heart until me meet be with me. I love you Daddy.
Love Always
Your Little Girl
Sarah

SARAH LAMONACO
PROUD DAUGHTER

May 19, 2008

Hi Dad,
How are you doing. I am doing well and felling much better. I go tommorrow to see a nutrisionist.I am excited, but I am doing better. Getting ready for DC. There is alot of people going down this year that I know so it will be a good time. Jen is going down with me, Mommy,and Aunt Debbie. It is her first time and I think she is just what I need with me down there. She is the best sister in law.. So we are all doing that and as you know May is a busy month. I have off of work a few days of work when I get home so hopfully we can get the pool opened. Just wanted to stop in and say hi and that I love you. Thanks dad for everything you have done for me over the past few months.Life has been given me some curve balls and some how I am making out ok.. of course you are a huge part of it. I will talk to you later tonight Dad. I love you sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much. xoxoxo

SARAH LAMONACO
PROUD DAUGHTER

April 28, 2008

Hi Dad-
How are you doing? It is late sat night and I am getting ready to prep for the procedure for Mon. They found out that I have celiac but my stomach is still inflamed so they want to do another test to make sure everything else is ok.I have to drink this really bad tasting stuff tom and I go in 7am on Mon morning. I am a little scared.I have to be put under and that freaks me out more then the procedure. I will just put myself in a happy place maybe I will go to the islands(hahaha). My Dr is doing it and she is really nice, all of them are. I see them enough so it is like we are family. Lets hope after this, I wont have to go through any more. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE be with me. I know you will be. Ok I am going to eat now, I have to fast all day tom, well except that yuck stuff! So I have to go eat hahaha.. Ok dad I love you and I will talk to you tonight. Thanks for everything. You always seem to make everything ok. I love you. xoxoxo

Love your little girl
Sunny

SARAH LAMONACO
PROUD DAUGHTER

April 5, 2008

DEAR SARA,

KNOW THAT YOU ARE A WONDERFUL AND BEAUTIFUL PERSON, YOU HAVE A KIND SOUL. I WILL ALWAYS BE HERE FOR YOU. YOU DESERVE THE BEST THINGS THAT LIFE HAS TO OFFER. YOU WILL BE TAKEN CARE OF BECAUSE YOU DESERVE IT.

DO NOT EVER LOOK DOWNON YOURSELF, YOUR MOTHER SHOULD BE PROUD THAT SHE RAISED A KIND AND CARING PERSON IN YOU.

WHATEVER ME AND MY FAMILY CAN DO TO ASSIST YOU AND MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER WE WILL!!!!!!!!!!!

I LOVE YOU LIKE A SISTER.

XO
LISA A. SCALES, WIDOW, TROOPER CHRISTOPHER S. SCALES, NJSP 12-3-02

Lisa A. Scales, Widow
NJSP Trp. I Christopher S. Scales, EOW 12-3-02

March 20, 2008

Hey Dad,
Happy St Pat's Day to you. How are you doing? I am doing well, We were with Grandma, Aunt Di, and Aunt Deb this weekend at the Union parade. It was really good. The Troopers and the pipes did very well. I have to go back tom to the Dr. and get more test done. I wish they would just figure out what is wrong Dad. It is playing an emotional game on me. I really dont want to write alot about it but I want to write you and say THANK YOU for being with me, I didnt think I was aloud to bring your picture in with me. When I first went in I hid it and one of the nurses saw it and just smiled. Be with me tommorrow again and stay with me. The last IV it didnt go to well. Please let it go as smooth as it can. Mommy will be with me again but she cant come in with me. Be with her as she has to put up with me (hahahahaha..). I love you Dad and I miss you so much. I will talk to you night and tom, I will write you soon.
Have a great Saint Pat's Day!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Love always
Your little Sunny

SARAH LAMONACO
PROUD DAUGHTER

March 17, 2008

This past Thursday I picked up a lady in Scranton, Pa to bring her to Morristown, NJ. Traveling eastbound on I-80, I stopped her from working on her laptop, pointed out the memorial site to her and told her the story of your murder. When I was done, I told her to continue her work and how sorry I was to distract her. I told her I had to point this out to her and pass your story along. She said, "thank you for telling me about him and his family. He deserves it." On the way back to Scranton, she asked that I stop so she could view the site. She was quite impressed.
Later that night, about 9:30, I took my niece to view the site as she has wanted me to take for some time. She was very impressed and quite sad. She just stood and stared and kept saying how beautiful it is.
I will continue to pass your story along to everyone I meet. You are a HERO, and everyone I meet along the way will know that.

Sarah, Donna and family, all my best to you.

Trooper Lamonaco, Never Forgotten.

Jim Sweeney Civilian New Jersey
A friend to our Police Officers

March 9, 2008

Lars from Holland, Kitty, Jack Rusher and all others who leave these wonderful reflections for Trooper Lamonaco.
Trooper Lamonacos daughter, Sarah, is a hair stylist who is the only stylist who I allow to cut my hair. She is a wonderful person and a great stylist. I visited her today for a haircut. In the course of our conversation, she mentioned all of the people, complete strangers who leave reflections for her brave Dad. It touches her and her family knowing that so many people know of her Dad and take the time to visit this page and honor him.

To all of these people, I would like to take a moment to honor you and THANK YOU for your kind words that make this family, especially Sarah, feel good and proud of their HERO father and husband. May God Bless each and everyone of you.

Sarah, I am praying for you today, and hope all works out well with the tests. You are in good hands and I'm sure there is nothing to worry about. I'm as anxious as you are to know the results.

Trooper Lamonaco, Never Forgotten.

Jim Sweeney Civilian New Jersey
A friend to our Police Officers

March 6, 2008

Today I had occasion to mention Trooper Lamonaco's name while speaking with an officer of the Livingston, NJ PD. The officer was well aware of Trooper Lamonaco and his story and I was struck by how easily the officer knew of him and his fate.

I recall Trooper Lamonaco's murder quite clearly. It sent a shock through the community at large as well as those in law enforcement. At that time I was the personal friend of a NJ State Trooper, Trooper Robert Delaney, who was then living across the street from me in Brick Twp. NJ.

It was said by those who knew him that Trooper Lamonaco had a certain knack for pulling over suspicious vehicles. I wish he had been able to protect himself that day in Dec. 1981. He was a fine, brave officer who met his end way too soon.

My sincerest & heartfelt sympathies go out to his famiy & friends. He is a true New Jersey hero.

Jack Rusher
Friend of all policemen & men in arms.

March 3, 2008

Hi Dad,
I have to go to the Dr again tom, please be with me. Let them fix whatever it is so I can feel better and normal again.
I love you,
Sarah

SARAH LAMONACO
PROUD DAUGHTER

March 3, 2008

To : Everyone who writes to my Dad and all of us,
Thank you all so much for writing wonderful things about my father. It means so much to myself as well as the Lamonaco family. God Bless all of you.

SARAH LAMONACO
PROUD DAUGHTER

March 3, 2008

Hi, Just wanted to send my condolences....I was an 11 year old kid when your dad was killed...I remember because my dad worked as a State of New Jersey Treasury Special Agent for 37 years. I remember him crying and talking to my mom about it clear as day. Although he did not know him personally he worked closely with the N.J. State Troopers because of his job and took his death very personally. What prompted me to send this email was I was driving from Pennsylvania on I-80 and saw the sign in tribute to your brave dad....my father passed away suddenly last Christmas and I thought back to how sad my dad was when your father died. I told my daughter in the car about your brave dad as she had no knowledge of who he was. You are all in my thoughts and prayers and your dad always....may god bless you all and may he and my dad also fellow law enforcement rest in peace. With Regards, Kitty

Kitty

February 21, 2008

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