Family, Friends & Fellow Officers Remember...

Major Jay Russell Memmelaar, Jr.

Goldsboro Police Department, North Carolina

End of Watch Thursday, February 16, 2017

Leave a Reflection

Reflections for Major Jay Russell Memmelaar, Jr.

This is his daughter, I want to thank everyone who has left kind words. I wish for you to know the kind man that raised me. He was honorable at work and just as honorable and even more compassionate at home. He was always patient and loving with me and encouraged me to do my best in everything I do. He cared deeply about his officers and wished the best for them. He is sorely missed but his love and memory carries on through those he helped. Stay Strong and True. Love to my LEOs

Maria Memmelaar

February 4, 2022

Jesus Christ, during His Sermon on the Mount, proclaimed, “The peacemakers are blessed,
for they will be called sons of God.” [Matthew 5:9 HCSB]

Chaplain Steven R. Closs, D.Div, MSBS, NCCA
Ordained/Licensed Independent Christian Clergy
Ministering to Law Enforcement Nationwide
Merrimack, NH 03054

Captain Steven R. Closs (Ret.)
Nashua NH Police Department

March 3, 2021

Rest In Peace

Mark Mottola

February 16, 2020

Rest in peace.

Lieutenant Raymond Flores

February 16, 2019

Thank s to all that have left messages. Jay was my brother and mentor. I would have never joined the brotherhood if it wasn’t for him being the ultimate role model. My brother affected so many lives. He was a God fearing man and lived his life for God and Family. I miss him dearly and think of him every day. I know he is with me protecting me and watching my six. Love you Jay!!!!!

Lieutenant Nathan Memmelaar
Smithfield Police Department

December 9, 2018

Dear Memmelaar family, friends and fellow officers,
I rode my bike 75 miles yesterday with Major Memmelaar's information on my wrist as part of the annual Texas Heroes Ride in Conroe, Texas. Every one of the other +100 riders did the same with another fallen officer's name. My faith is that we are all connected in the mystical body of Christ's church. I have further connection with Major Memmelaar in that I suffered a heart attack 2 years ago while on a bike ride and my Son-in-law is a LEO with the Temple Texas Police Department. HIs father was also on this ride with me.

Please know I am praying for Major Memmelaar's deliverance into heaven, for peace and comfort for his family and safety to all first responders. God Bless,

Ryan Colburn
Texas Wheels of Justice (a 501c3 not-for-profit)

October 14, 2018

On behalf of my family, I extend our sincerest condolences on the grievous loss you suffered when Jay died in the line of duty after many years of service..

To the Memmelear family, fellow officers, and all who call Jay beloved, my heart goes out to all of you and may you find comfort in your loved ones and your strength in your faith. When my son was killed, the entire law enforcement community in our area embraced us in a circle of love and support, and I know you will receive the same support. It makes the unbearable less torturous, and I pray for your solace.

This reflection is sent with the utmost respect for the dedicated service Major Memmelear gave to his community and the citizens of North Carolina , and for the supreme sacrifice he and his family made on February 16, 2017.

Phyllis Lasater Loya
mom of fallen Pittsburg Officer Larry Lasater, eow 4/24/05

September 19, 2018

I hope everyone will find comfort in Acts 24:15 - "And I have hope toward God, which hope these men also look forward to, that there is going to be a resurrection of both the righteous and the unrighteous." Until we see our loved ones again on an earthly Paradise, please accept my condolences.

A.W. Montgomery
Concerned Citizen

August 24, 2018

Major, I am wearing a Memorial band with your information enscribed on it in your honor for police week 2018 and on. I will also be running the Lakeland Florida Police Memorial 5k in your honor. God speed sir, your sacrifice is not forgotten. Detective W Marrone #168 Lakeland PD Florida.

Detective Wayne Marrone
Lakeland Police Department FL

May 17, 2018

5 miles in your honor Sir. You are not forgotten.

Detective Michele Nelson
Riverside County Sheriff's Department

February 16, 2018

Whatever our duty, or wherever we serve, we are all brothers and sisters in this most honorable calling. We have lost yet another brother who we must never forget.

My deepest sympathy to both his family and his law enforcement family. My thoughts and prayers are with them. May he rest in eternal peace.

Sgt. Tom Waller, Retired
Cincinnati P.D., Ret.

October 2, 2017

The Durham County Sheriff's Office and Detention Services Division sends our deepest and most heartfelt condolences to the Family, Friends, and Co-workers of Major Jay R. Memmelaar, Jr..

During this time hold close to the memories and good times shared as a source of comfort. Being ever mindful of the pride he embraced when wearing his uniform.

RIP, Major Memmelaar

Respectfully Submitted, Lt. Alicia S. McKinney Basic Detention Officer Training, School Directer. Durham County Sheriff's Office Durham, NC

Durham County Sheriff's Office

May 25, 2017

Rest in peace brother and thank you for your service. As you join our brothers and sisters in the hall of heroes, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

Vires et Honorem

Ptlm FrankKapusta
Mohawk PD

May 4, 2017

Every morning I go to my knees. During that time I pray Psalm 91 over all LEO’s and this prayer also:

“Lord, Be with all law enforcement officers. Keep them safe and free from harm. They are Your soldiers on the front line of the battle against evil. If one should fall this day - wrap their family in your loving arms. Surround them with Your angels, loving family, friends, neighbors and caring people to comfort them. Ease their pain. Help them to mourn well. In Jesus' name and for Your Glory, Amen.”

Feel His presence as God answers the prayers of many who have fallen to their knees on your behalf. Since the day of my son's death, I have carried every law enforcement officer and their family in my heart.

I have lifted your family to God every morning for over six years. I pray that Jay's life and death will bring glory to His name.

Trust those prayers. God is with you; He knows and will ease your pain.

Our faith helps us to see beyond the grave.

Pamela Hotsinpiller
Mother of
Deputy United States Marshal
Derek W. Hotsinpiller
EOW 2-16-2011

April 1, 2017

Rest in peace Major Memmelaar. I ask Our Heavenly Father to comfort and watch over your family, friends and the Goldsboro Police Department. Thank you for your dedication and service. God's speed brother.

Chief Jack Cavanaugh
Lee County Port Authority Police Department

March 20, 2017

God's peace and speed Major Memmelaar. Thank you for your many years of brave, dedicated service. R.I.P. Brother.

P/O R. Popelka #7903
Chicago Police Department

March 7, 2017

RIP brother in blue.

Lieutenant Ray Waters
Pitt County Sheriff Office, NC

March 1, 2017

Rest in peace brother. Thoughts are with your family both blue and blood during this difficult time. Thank you Major Memmelaar for your 25 years of service and dedication to your community.

Detective Sergeant David Post
Reno County Sheriff's Office Hutchinson, Ks

February 27, 2017

My thoughts and prayers are with Major Memmelaar's family! God Bless You all! Rest In Peace Sir!

Survivor Melanie Richardson
Lafayette county Arkansas Sheriff's Office

February 26, 2017

Session 1 of the Albany Police Academy sends its deepest condolences to the Memmelaar family and the Goldsboro Police Department. Rest in Peace Major Jay R. Memmelaar, Jr.

Albany Police Academy
Albany Police Department

February 26, 2017

"The Final Inspection"
The policeman stood and faced his God,
Which must always come to pass.
He hoped his shoes were shining.
Just as brightly as his brass.
"Step forward now, policeman.
How shall I deal with you?
Have you always turned the other cheek?
To My church have you been true?"
The policeman squared his shoulders and said, "No, Lord, I guess I ain't,
Because those of us who carry badges can't always be a saint.
I've had to work most Sundays,
and at times my talk was rough,
and sometimes I've been violent,
Because the streets are awfully tough.
But I never took a penny,
That wasn't mine to keep....
Though I worked a lot of overtime
When the bills got just too steep.
And I never passed a cry for help,
Though at times I shook with fear.
And sometimes, God forgive me,
I've wept unmanly tears.
I know I don't deserve a place
Among the people here.
They never wanted me around
Except to calm their fear.
If you've a place for me here,
Lord, It needn't be so grand.
I never expected or had too much,
But if you don't.....I'll understand.
There was silence all around the throne
Where the saints had often trod.
As the policeman waited quietly,
For the judgment of his God.
"Step forward now, policeman,
You've borne your burdens well.
Come walk a beat on Heaven's streets,
You've done your time in hell."
Author Unknown

Sergeant Chad Miner
Powell WY Police Department

February 24, 2017

Rest in peace brother.


February 23, 2017

God bless Major Memmelaar's family, friends and coworkers and give them strength and peace to get through their grief and pain. Thank you for your service brother.

Sergeant Clark O. Parry
Cattaraugus County Sheriff's Office, New York

February 23, 2017

Rest in Peace Major Memmelaar. May the Lord grant peace to your family, friends and co-workers during this difficult time.

Parole Supervisor Howard C. Wykes
arizona Department of Juvenile Corrections

February 23, 2017

Rest easy, Sir. We've got it from here.....

Nancy A. Richards
Aux. LEO, ret, Michigan

February 23, 2017

Want even more control of your Reflection? Create a free ODMP account now for these benefits:

  • Quick access to your heroes
  • Reflections published quicker
  • Save a Reflection signature
  • View, edit or delete any Reflection you've left in the past

Create an account for more options, or use this form to leave a Reflection now.