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Special Agent Jay P. Balchunas

Wisconsin Department of Justice - Division of Criminal Investigation, Wisconsin

End of Watch Friday, November 5, 2004

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Reflections for Special Agent Jay P. Balchunas

A hero is not made by circumstance, a hero is born.

March 25, 2006

It is clear to all by the many reflections left by Jay's family, friends and many who never even met him, that Jay was a remarkable young man. Having known him personally, I can attest to that fact.

Jay became the person he was due to his upbringing. Jay, and his siblings, were taught the values of compassion, honesty and hard-work. He was truly a selfless individual, always willing to lend a hand (especially if it involved using his grandfather's tools!) and always there when he was needed, whether it was in the middle of the night, on a holiday, or he had just gotten home from his day job.

Jay was like this because he has remarkable parents who are always willing to give of themselves and help others. Thank you Don and Mary Kay for raising this incredible person, thank you Linda (and family) and Dan for embodying these same fine qualities and thank you Jay for having such an impact on so many lives. We should all strive to be like you.

March 25, 2006

Dear Agent Balchunas ~ Jay,
I had the honor of meeting Luann, a few days ago. Since that meeting I can't get you out of my mind. I think about what's happened everyday. How senseless how horrifying.
When I approched Luann she was speaking to someone else, but I felt compelled to speak to her and I tapped her on the shoulder, she turned around and I introduced myself to her. She shook my hand with such warmth and I told her that I was an MPD officer and had been following your case and that I had meet you on a few occasions. I continued to say that I think about you and the wonderful police officer you were and shared what impact you have made on my life. She smiled a beautiful smile, like she was well aware and already knew the inside information, and with tears in her eyes, said "yes" as tears continued to fill her eyes she spoke of you, how lucky she is to have had you in her life and how proud she is of you. It was evident the amount of love she has for you in her heart, it was brimming. She was so humble and sensitive to the impact that you have made on countless officers, civilians and those that you love and love you. She continued speaking with me and then gave me a hug and left me with some words that I will never forget. I was so touched that I went home to my wife and shared with her this encounter. I wept that night. It has made me realize how precious life is and how much you continue to touch people from heaven.
I'm writing to tell you how your life and legacy of service and dedication and Luann speaking to me, a nobody in your life, has encouraged me as a police officer and husband. It is evident the reasons you love and loved her and she you.
Jay, I will never dishonor the badge and will always work with the knowledge that the best have gone before me.

To Luann, the Balchunas Family, friends, partners and those that love Jay:
Your loss cannot be compared to anything in this world. I wish you the peace that only the loving Lord can bring. Rest in the warmth of his love.
Know that Jay is still thought of daily and continues to change the world from heaven. He was a most special man and officer.

The family in blue, and especially I, keep you in our prayers as you walk this journey. May you all take Jay in your hearts for eternity.

LEO Friend

March 24, 2006

"I'll lend you for a little time, a child of mine," He said. "For you to love while he lives, and mourn when he is dead.
It may be six or seven years, or twenty-two or three, but will you till I call him back, take care of him for me?
He'll bring his charms to gladden you, and shall his stay be brief, You'll have his lovely memories as solace for your grief.
I can not promise he will stay, since all from earth return, but there are lessons taught down there I want this child to learn.
I've looked the wide world over in my search for teachers there, and from the throngs that crowd lifes lanes, I have selected you.
Now will you give him all your love, nor think the labor vain, Nor hate me when I come to call to take him back again."
"I fancied that I heard them say, Dear Lord, Thy will be done, for all the joy they child shall bring, the risk of grief we'll run.
We'll shelter him with tenderness, we'll love him whilst we may, and for the happiness we've known, will ever grateful stay.
But shall the angels call for him much sooner than we planned, We'll brave the bitter grief that comes and try to understand."

March 24, 2006

Your loved ones left a reflection on my friend's page.

I'm so sorry they had to lose you the way we lost Pete. I tell myself over time it will get easier for Becca and for everyone who knew and loved Pete. It's still so fresh. It feels like yesterday. Today, we celebrate a year since we lost him. Your mother and sister were so sweet to stop by Pete's page.

Thank you for your sacrifice. I'm sure you and Peter are having a blast in Heaven together!

LEO Fiancee and friend of Peter Grignon EOW 3/23/05

March 23, 2006

A Tribute to the Heroes Among Us

Our hearts go out to you and your families. You’re in our thoughts and our prayers. Thank you just doesn’t seem like enough for men and women who are heroes when we need them, but invisible, ignored, and unappreciated when we don’t.

You rescue us, save our possessions, our lives and our families. You are the heroes among us. You are always there for us in the most traumatic moments of our lives. No matter when we call, we just expect that you will come and do whatever it takes to help us. Your selflessness and dedication are awe-inspiring. We show our appreciation with low pay in many parts of the country, little respect, and indifference for the issues in your lives, most of the time. As young children, we want to grow up and be you until we get older and realize the risk isn’t worth the reward.

As outsiders, we envy you secretly. You have benefits in your careers that our jobs just can’t provide. Your work is not the same old thing every day. You get the opportunity to be heroes every time you go to work. You obviously love what you do, and you’re a family. You have a oneness the rest of society longs for. You care about and support each other. You know each other’s families, share each other’s lives. The rest of us face life’s trials and tribulations alone. You are never alone. You have each other, always.

It is our loss not to know you better. This world, this country, your individual towns truly are better places because of you. To lose one of you is a great tragedy, an irreplaceable, immeasurable loss for society. We should be grateful for and to you, and honor you regularly for all you do for us day in and day out without a word of thanks or praise.

We should be ashamed of ourselves; and yet, you continue to do all you do for us in spite of our behavior, which speaks to the people you are. How many of us are willing to do a job knowing we may not go home at the end of the day?

Maybe one day in the future, you will all be recognized for all you do with better pay, and the community support and respect you so richly deserve. Until then, hang tough together, and God Bless You and your families.

March 12, 2006

"The guardian angels of life sometimes fly so high as to be beyond our sight, but they are always looking down upon us." - Jean Paul Richter

March 12, 2006

There is so much love in the reflections to you. They are so beautiful. I pray that God continue to give your family strength to go on until you meet again.

Carol Espinoza, Mother of
Officer Isaac Espinoza, SFPD
EOW 4/10/04

March 1, 2006


February 24, 2006

Yesterday I watched news coverage of the convictions of the two men who murdered my high school friend Jay Balchunas. This tragedy never seems to end.
I hope however that this will bring peace of mind and some semblance of closure to Jay's family and loved ones. After all they have been through, they deserve it.
I pray that the spirit of Jay continue to watch over us all, and guide us with the courage, compassion and love that was so characteristic of this fallen hero.
I send all readers of this reflection blessings of peace,

Kenneth Kaminski

kenneth kaminski

February 24, 2006

They each got the maximum sentence for your death, Jay. They will be spending 60+ years in prison in addition to the time that they are currently serving. I think that is as close as we can come to justice for you. You would have been humbled by the number of people who were there today to hear the sentences handed down, and I think that Judge Hansher handled it very well.
I hope that you are able to rest a bit easier knowing that these two men will never again bring pain and anguish to anyone else's family.
We love you and miss you.

February 23, 2006

The day has finally come. We are all praying for you, Jay.

February 23, 2006

We Do Not Need A Special Day

I do not need a special day
To bring you to my mind.
The days I do not think of you
Are very hard to find.

Each morning when I awake
I know that you are gone.
And no one knows the heartache
As I try to carry on.

My heart still aches with sadness
And secret tears still flow.
What it meant to lose you
No one will ever know.

My thoughts are always with you,
Your place no one can fill.
In life I loved you dearly,
In death I love you still.

There will always be a heartache,
And often a silent tear,
But always a precious memory
Of the days when you were here.

If tears could make a staricase,
And heartaches make a lane,
I'd walk the path to Heaven
And bring you home again.

I hold you close within my heart,
And there you will remain,
To walk with me throughout life
Until we meet again.

(Author Unknown)

February 9, 2006

Hi Jay,
I saw Miss Chause tonight and she of course asked about you. She was very relieved to hear that both men who took your life have been convicted and hopes (as we all do) that they will never again be free men. Just wanted to let you know that some things never change - you have always been her favorite!
Love ya, Linda

February 2, 2006

Well Jay, it appears that the court battle may finally be over! Bolden was found guilty on all 4 counts today, the most important being the felony murder charge that pertained to your case. He and Reynolds will be sentenced together on February 23, and both can spend the rest of their days rotting in a prison cell. Obviously no amount of time will bring you back to us, but we can hope that they will never again be free men.
Hopefully you can rest easier knowing that the 2 men responsible for your death have been convicted and justice will be time anyway, when they meet their maker.
We love you and miss you tons.
A, B, C and L

January 30, 2006

He was yours to give,
and yours to call home,
please stand by his brothers,
so they don't feel alone,
dry the tears of his family,
so they clearly see:
that he gave his all,
so all could have peace.
Blessed are they,
the children of God,
with heavy hearts,
and honor-they trod,
to pay their respects,
to give their salute,
and to ask for your mercy,
on heroes in Blue.

January 21, 2006

Happy 36th birthday, Jay. We love you and miss you. You will never be forgotten and will live in our hearts forever.

January 18, 2006

Hi Uncle Jay,

Happy birthday! We love you and miss you so much. It is not fair that you aren't here with us anymore.

Andy and Bryan

January 18, 2006

Happy birthday, Jay! You should be 36 years old today. We wish you were still here so we could share in the celebration with you, although making a big deal out of your birthday was never your style. We miss you more than you will ever know.
Love, Chris and Linda

January 18, 2006

Just wanted to wish you a Happy Birthday and to let you know I will be thinking about you today.
Mary Kay I know that this day will be hard as is so many, I will be praying for you and your family.

Connie Barker
Mother of Clint Walker E.O.W. 1-14-04

January 18, 2006

To the family, thank you so much for thinking of Clint and my family at this time. Jay you will always hold a special place in our hearts along with all other LEO's killed in the line of duty. We have our Blue candle that burns in our window all year. Thank you Special Agent Balchunas for your service to our country, I will never forget you.
Mary Kay and Linda you are in my prayers, Jay and Clint are watching over us, and having a grand time in Heaven.
Jay tell Clint that I love him the most, you will get a smile out of him.

Connie Barker
Mother of Clint Walker E.O.W. 1-14-04

January 11, 2006

To the family of Jay Balchunas,

Thank you for the kind reflection you left on my husband's site.

I wanted to take a moment to tell you that you are all in my thoughts and prayers. Your beloved Jay has not been forgotten. He is walking on Heaven's streets of gold, with my husband and all the other heroes who gave their lives in the performance of the jobs they loved so much.

Thank you, Agent Balchunas, for your service and supreme sacrifice. May God bless you and may you rest in peace, Blue Angel.

Carin E. Sollman
widow of Easton Police Officer Jesse E. Sollman EOW 3/25/05

January 9, 2006

God Bless you and your precious family as the first anniversary of your passing has come and gone. Rest assured that your heroic actions will never be forgotten my friend. Rest in peace.

Tim Lavery
Cousin to MPO Peter J. Lavery
EOW: 12/30/04

Tim Lavery

December 28, 2005

We lit two blue candles at your grave before Mass last night - one for you and all the officers who celebrate Christmas with you in God's arms, and one for Chris and all of the officers who continue to protect us here. We miss you so much. Christmas will never be the same again.
Blessed Christmas, my beloved son.

December 25, 2005

Merry Christmas Jay.
You are remembered today and everyday.

December 25, 2005

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