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Police Officer Stephan Gene Gray

Merced Police Department, California

End of Watch Thursday, April 15, 2004

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Reflections for Police Officer Stephan Gene Gray

To Officer Stephan Gray,
We are keeping your beautiful family in our daily prayers as they pass through yet another day without you here. Tomorrow marks a 6th anniversary and I know it is hard for those that know and love you. I have truly found wonderful comfort through Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, the one who gave His own life, so that there will be a day that you will be reunited with all of them in perfect love, for eternity! Thank you for your selfless service and sacrifice. Please know that you are NEVER forgotten. May GOD bless your family as they continue to on their road to Heaven

Kathy stevenson wife of
Sgt. Howard K. Stevenson EOW 1/9/05

April 15, 2010

It's the month, almost the week and almost the day we all dread. It doesn't matter how many days or years pass, there has never been a day I don't think of you. I am so grateful for the time we got spend right before you were killed. I feel so lucky for that and will always cherish that conversation. I haven't seen Michelle or the kids in a while but I'm sure they are making you proud as always. I know heaven has made a special place for you and you are continuing to watch over all of us. I miss you. RIP

Kimberly Madayag

April 8, 2010

I can hardly believe today is our 15 year wedding anniversary...on this very day 15 years ago the beautiful sunshine came out and we had a wonderful wedding...there is not a day that goes by that I am not thankful for the time we did have although it was not long enough...i miss you and couldn't help but wish for you to be here but I will carry on like i know you want me to. Just know I am thinking of you, of us and of our good times

michelle gray

January 21, 2010

Merry Christmas Officer Gray,
I just wanted to say Thank You once again for your bravery and for keeping us safe while you were here. Your sacrifice is not nor ever will be forgotten. Your beautiful family remain in my prayers always. I know our Great God is watching over them and will give all of us a wonderful reunion someday.

Kathy stevenson wife of
Sgt. Howard K. Stevenson EOW 1/9/05

December 26, 2009



December 20, 2009


Maria P. Escobedo

November 14, 2009

I have days that seem to drag on with sad thoughts of the friend and brother I've lost. I am one of many that miss you so much. So many moments that we could've shared these past 5 years with the growth that we've had here. Those days that drag on are overshadowed by the fond memories of you and your love of life. Always Richard


September 5, 2009

I just wanted to be able to get out some of the sadness I feel today. I am looking at your beautiful smile as I write this and still in shock, I have come to realize your mind only lets you take true heartbreak in little steps or it would break a persons spirit for good. So I guess that is how we heal, if you want to call it that, more like DEAL than heal some days.
We went and got fireworks today...and as much as you loved to do fireworks and the 4th of July it is impossible not to miss you. The kids asked more questions about the "man who killed daddy" and I answered them the best I know how. Obviously they are thinking about you too. I know you see the "special" display the kids and I do for you but how I wish for us to have just one more 4th with you. You were always so excited for the day, like a little kid, you and tay tay running around just waiting for it to get dark so you could blow up stuff. Thank you for the memories you did leave with me. :) I promise to continue to share them and answer all the questions that come up with the babies so that they always remember what a special dad you were. We will send up your special display on the 4th and know you will always be in our and miss

michelle gray

June 29, 2009


It's been way too long. I wanted you to know that I still think of you and your family often and I was thinking about you and your beautiful children even more so this Father's Day. You really were an amazing father.


Colin T. Smith
Friend HMB PD/Former Merced PD

June 23, 2009

I only knew you by working on the investigation in the unrelenting attempt to catch the individual responsible for that horrible act on 15 April 04. I deliberately blocked out what had happened so that I may best serve in the manhunt with a clear and sharp mind, so that I may best serve you. Now it's different. CSPD Officer 3640 is my life, always will be. I cannot, and will not, fathom what Michelle has gone through. In the end, justice really wasn't served. Unfortunately, the efforts we put into the investigation and apprehension of that murderer has not assuaged the indescribable pain many feel over your loss. Please watch over CSPD Officer 3640, and those that are as fervent and dedicated as you were to serve and protect.

Michelle, I cannot imagine what you must feel. And I have no words of comfort for you. We tried our best, our hardest to seek justice. Yet, has justice really beeen served? I am honored to have known who Officer Stephan Gray was to his collegues and family. His life was not lived in vain. Thank you for, Michelle, for allowing us to be a part of his life.


June 16, 2009

I know you were loved by many people. To your family, all I can do is offer my thoughts and prayers. Rest in peace, My Brother. We will meet someday.......

AZ Narc

May 25, 2009

Just stopping by to let you know your in our hearts and thoughts. Your family will never be forgotten, nor will you.

Prayers and thoughts,
Los Banos CHP


May 12, 2009

I met Stephan late the year before his death in Sears. I was buying some tires and he was doing what I dont know. A conversation struck up because in his conversation he said he worked with at-risk teens and I had one at the time. He gave me his card and told me to call him. That was the last time I saw him till his face appeared on the news in this situation.

My best to the family, friends, and co-workers who knew, lived with,and worked with Stephan.
He was a great guy and will be deeply missed.

Debra H
Just a friend

May 4, 2009

Stephan it's unreal to think it has been 5 years. So many changes but one thing remains, the love your family has for you. Your children are beautiful and so sweet. Michelle has done such a great job. I know you know that. Isaiah looks so much like you. It was an honor to have known you. I told Michelle it seemed liked yesterday I saw you driving Colin to H&R block to sign our taxes the day before that dreadful day and you had that huge smile on your face, so happy and boisterous. It's a shame and such a tremendous loss that you were taken. We love you and your family. Denise


April 17, 2009

I know how proud you are of your beautiful family, may God Bless them with comfort and love as they wait to see you again! Heaven will be a place where there is no more tears and no more sorrow...You and your family are in our prayers daily... Hero's are NEVER FORGOTTEN

Kathy Stevenson wife of
Sgt. Howard King Stevenson EOW 1/9/2005

April 16, 2009

It is now after nine and I am thinking about being at the hospital with you 5 years ago at this time and wanting so desperately to have it all be a nightmare and to wake you up and bring you home. I can hardly imagine that five years have gone by without you, we truly miss you everyday. Every mile stone moment that I have with the children and you not there hurts my heart for us all. For you the super Daddy that you were to have your choice taken from you when you never missed time with your babies or anything they were involved in still seems so horribly unreal ...there are somethings I will never understand but know that I love you eternally and that we miss you. Your light continues to shine on us and I am grateful for the time that I did have with you. I love

michelle gray

April 15, 2009

Though we are miles apart, we are bound by this Thin Blue Line. Our family is praying for your family today and every day. God Bless you Officer Gray.

You will never be forgotten.

Sterling Heights PD, Michigan

April 15, 2009

I am thinking about you today!!


April 15, 2009

Thinking of you and all of your loved ones on this day. I know every day is a struggle for all of those who love you go get through, especially today. You are always in their thoughts and will never be forgotten. Continue to keep watch over all of them.

Bob Gordon
Father of Chicago Officer: Michael P. Gordon, EOW: 8/8/04

April 15, 2009

Thinking of your loved ones today and everyday. I know the daily struggles they face without you and the terrible pain within their hearts. God, wrap your loving arms around them and help them with their grief and let them feel your presence.
Your sacrifice has not been forgotten.

Brenda Lucas
Mother of Chief Anthony D. Lucas, EOW 2-4-2005

April 15, 2009

Yesterday was our COPS motorcycle run and it was such a beautiful day we had over 550 riders and I couldn't help but think you were watching it all amazed as we were. I just can't believe in April it will be 5 years since you were stolen from us. It sounds so long to say 5 years, somedays it feels like an eternity since I had your arms around me and saw you smile and somedays the sadness is so much it seems like you left yesterday. Odd how grief works and just never seems to stop even though life goes on we still stay frozen in times with somethings. Your baby girl is graduating from high school and has grown into an amazing young woman. I am not sure how to handle her graduating and you not being there. It is so unfair to all involved. You never leave my mind and I just needed to say hello and that I love you....

michelle gray

March 22, 2009

Stephan, I have attempted many times to say something but my tears have always gotten the best of me, but tonight I just needed to let you know that even if its been a few years it still seems like yesterday that you were taken away. I see your mom,brothers and sister and Ross.. "Cantrice" is just not the same without you, she miss you so much! She tries to be stong for your mom and brothers but she just can't let you go, another year has came and gone yet she remebers everything about you. Your uncle and grandmother have past away and all she does is think about how you are there waiting for them. I can still remeber the last time we had a conversation together we were at your moms house Ross... was so proud to have you stop by and say Hi! Your mom with that proud smile on her face...things are just so diffrent know. I try to be there for Ross.. Tony and Anthony but they miss you! Your are the missing peace in there lives...please watch over them and give them peace.. please comfort your sister.....she miss you so much! She has attempted like I to leave you a message but she says its to hard for her she still waits for you to come home or call and just say Hi! and its been how many years? Just thought you'd want to know about your sis...she is my best friend and she miss you so...


February 7, 2009

Dear Officer Stephan Gray,
I just want to let you know that we have kept your beautiful family in our thoughts and prayers...we know you are truly proud of them and will see them again! We pray that 2009 will bring happiness to your family. may God Bless and keep all safe. you will never be forgotten!!

kathy stevenson

January 4, 2009

my nephew was not only a great officer but a wonderful human being I used to babysit anthony,tony,cantirce and stephan I love them all and his wonderful wife I grew up in tulare ca. where all of his aunts and uncles on his father and mother side grew up. and as cousins my sons david,joseph,peter,justin and donald played with them a lot when they were younger is will always be deeply missed thank you nephew for standing up for what was right.auntie elinor

minister elinor wells
aunt my brother is andrew gray

December 18, 2008

Stephan:Your cheerful attitude, openness and kindness were a real asset to the students and teachers of Hanford High. I know you motivated so many in your short life. All of us touched by your overall goodness need to pay it forward as a tribute to you.

Frank Mann
Former Teacher of Stephan

December 17, 2008

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