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Police Officer Stephan Gene Gray

Merced Police Department, California

End of Watch Thursday, April 15, 2004

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Reflections for Police Officer Stephan Gene Gray

Memorial day has passed and I remember Michelle saying that you loved to barbe-que on Memorial day weekend. I was thinking about you and the rest of the officers that have given the ultimate sacrifice. Hoping that Michelle and the kids have some peace and comfort with the memories of their beloved husband and father during this past holiday and always.
I was so glad to hear that your murderer was given the death penalty. May your rest in peace.
Michelle I am thinking about you today and always. We love you.

Family friend

May 29, 2007

Officer Stephan Gray's killer was sentenced to Death on May 22,2007.

As of today, formal sentencing will be held on June 21, 2007 at 1300 in the Colusa California county courthouse.

May 23, 2007

Your murderer was sentenced to death today, may you and your family now have peace and justice. We love you and miss you very much.

May 23, 2007


Now with the penalty phase complete and "Tao" on his way to death row, I hope you can rest. Now we just have to wait 20-25 years for the appeals for final justice.

I pray that even though Michelle said there will never be closure for her, that she can at least find peace in the recommendation by the jury.

Like I always post here, you'd be so proud of Michelle. In public she is so strong, I don't know how she does it.

Former Brother in Blue

May 23, 2007


With the trial coming to an, I sit here trying to think of a way to put into words the emotion, dedication, perserverance and true love for you that I have witnessed from your family and friends. Testifying at your trial was hard for me and I felt nervous, and scared. Speaking at the memorial in Sacramento, I was nervous and scared. Witnessing your family speak so eloquently about there love and admiration for you, and the devestating effect your murder has had on them I realized that my feelings paled in comparison. I realized, and felt some shame for feeling any pity for myself, that I can never truly imagine what Michelle has gone through, what your children have lost. Stephan, everyone did so well. Tony misses you so much and spoke so highly of you. Your mother was so strong and proud to talk about you. I can see why you were so strong and dog gone good looking, she's a beautiful woman. And, as I'm sure you know, you're lovely wife and daughter were so impressive. Chris did a fantastic job too, and I know he really misses you a lot. He has matured quite a bit, he is a good leader and he said he followed your lead, and he was motivated by you. I have followed your lead too, but not just at work, but at home. You have made me a better father, and a better husband. I am glad that I was able to witness you with your family, especially your interaction with your kids. You are a special father, one we can all learn from.

I will be there tomorrow, and I feel in my heart that we will see justice done. The DA's office has done right by you, they did a wonderful job. I imagine that if you could see the trial, if you could hear your family, I know you are looking down with that terrific smile and you are should be proud...your time on this earth affected so many people in such a positive way. Thank you Stephan.

Your friend,


Officer Colin T. Smith
Half Moon Bay PD, Former MPD

May 21, 2007


Deputy Davis
Pittsylvania County Sheriffs Office

May 13, 2007

We are with you and yours in thought and prayer. Ever, JoJo and the Bear

John "Bear" and JoJo Medrano
Merced County S.O.

May 8, 2007

Hello Stephan,
The verdict came in and they found the monster guilty of first degree murder, guilty on all the enhancements and 2 out of 3 special circumstances to be true. I hope that you can finally have some peace Stephan. You paid the ultimate sacrifice and probably saved many others from being shot at or murdered by this monster who selfishly took you away from the family that loves you so much, friends too. But, no one can know the truth depth of pain that Michelle, your children, your mother and your siblings still face today; three years later. I look at Michelle and all that she has gone through and indeed has “soldiered” on but, her pain is still there. The girls and I were over a couple of weeks ago and I was thinking that it would be nice if we were visiting and things were as they should be you and Colin at work because by now we would have become closer friends. We were all just beginning to really get to know each other before you were taken. Our regret is that we weren’t closer friends while you were still here. Your children are so beautiful and smart. I know you look down on them and know this. We think about you, Stephan, and Michelle and the kids all the time. We can’t wait until Michelle and the kids can make a trip up to see us.
Michelle has had great support from Jackie and Chris through the trial and some police support including members of the DA’s office and DOJ. Colin spoke at the candlelight vigil this year for the annual Cal. Peace Officer’s Memorial and he wore a pair of your black dress shoes for good luck. I know you must of been there with him through his nervousness. It is a great reminder to all of us the jobs that peace officer’s do each day to protect their community and often times the most thankless one. You touched many peoples’ lives and you will never be forgotten. Thank You Stephan for all your years of service.


May 7, 2007

I can only hope that you have been granted a little peace. As I sat in that courtroom looking at your wedding ring on my hand and heard the verdict "guilty first degree murder" and guilty on all enhancements and guilty on 2 of the 3 special circumstances, I could only thank God. At least this time we won. It is so very hard, I thought somehow it would feel better. The verdict I am eternally grateful for, but its so bittersweet because it can't bring you home. Just the fact that they found premeditation to your murder is such justice.
I miss you so much and pray to God for your soul to rest.
Now we will soldier on for the penality phase for you and hopefully once again justice will be ours. I love you my angel....michelle

michelle gray

May 4, 2007

The first steps of final justice have been taken. Although years of appeals are next in line, I know justice will be served. Too many people demand it. I hope you can find some peace. I think of your family often and pray for them to find some comfort.

We carry on in your honor.....

Detective Greg Yotsuya
Ceres Police Department

May 4, 2007

The jury has found your killer guilty on all counts with 2 of the 3 special circumstances. The penalty phase starts in weeks. Finally we have some justice, now we just wait for the punishment life or death.

Hope you are resting a little better now.

Former Brother in Blue

May 4, 2007

We just arrived home from the California Peace Officers Memorial and you were often on our mind and in our prayers. We waited with bated breath to hear the just verdict in the case and we along with so many others stop, reflect, rejoice in knowing that God is on our side and justice has been served. Peace to you and your family.

Merrily Rapozo Wilson
spouse of James Rapozo EOW 1-9-98

May 3, 2007

Today, Justice!!! Rest in peace brother... You will not be forgotten.

Tom Melden
California highway Patrol, Los Banos

May 3, 2007

They just found your murder guilty on all 7 counts.
may you rest now.

May 3, 2007

We are always thinking about your beautiful family. We know
that these years have been so very hard on them. Michell is truely a gift. We know you are so proud of her! I pray
for your family everyday. Stay close to them and let them know how mush you love and miss them. Tell them you will see them again in perfect love. I know there is no heart ache where you are, let them feel your love comforting them as they walk through eachday. Though they can not see
you in our world, you can see them, watch over them and keep them close!
Michell call me if you need anything. love kathy

kathy stevenson
wife howard stevenson EOW1/9/2005

April 30, 2007

Officer Gray: Dearest Hero, Husband, Father, Son, Grandson, fine person and true friend to many...never to be forgotten.
With eternal gratitude, JoJo and John (Bear)

JoJo and John (Bear) Medrano
wife of LEO and LEO

April 27, 2007

Three years and the pain continues. Just want to let you know I am thinking about you.

Carol Espinoza, Mother of
Officer Isaac Espinoza
EOW 4/10/04

April 24, 2007

Last night was a vigil for you, your youngest two were there and I was so impressed with them. When it was time for the candles to be lit, they along with Michelle stood between your photo's and the wreath. Everyone lined up and slowly walked past, lighting their candles from your families. I hope they come to look back on that moment with the same pride that others had for them. I think Cameron was just thrilled to be holding something on fire, getting to light other people's candles must have been icing on the cake for her! Each year the ceremonny gets better, but what a tragic event to get good at. The Chief spoke eloquently as did Bimley, almost two sides to a coin. This year it was rather low key, the trial keeping it more "in-house" than last year. It's amazing what the defense has brought up in court so maybe low key was best. The trial has brought so many emotions to the surface, last night was a reminder that no matter what the results of the trial are, every year we'll be doing the same thing on April 15th: Remembering a Son, a Brother, Relative, Husband, Father, Friend, Co-worker and Partner.

Never Forget

April 16, 2007

I cannot believe it has been three years since your were stolen from us. It seems like just yesterday. There was a beautiful service tonight for you. I asked tay tay last night if he wanted to come and he said yes, I was so suprised, he usually wants nothing to do with it, but I guess as you see he really is growing up into a wonderful young man, just like his daddy. He looks SO much like you now, so does Cha cha. Sometimes when I look in her eyes she tells me "to not be sad mommy, I know I have Daddys eyes." I try to hide it but sometimes all I see is your eyes in them, such beautiful warm brown eyes. I am so sad for you that you are not here for the three of them, you are such a great Dad.
The trial started Friday and it just makes me sick to sit in the same room with that monster. It should of been him, not you, but there are some things I will never understand. I am praying that justice will be done, I want you to be able to rest a little, I want to bring you some peace. Lan has your strength she sat thru the whole first horrible day in court with me. I know you are so proud of her. I sat in court and felt like I was outside myself watching a movie or something. There are days I am still in disbelief. How did we get here? This CANNOT be our lives, but it is. I will continue to have strength for you and represent you and our family to the best of my ability. Tonight when I kissed the babies good night I remembered how three years ago this very night I watched them both sleep and cried and thought "My God how do I tell them in the morning there Daddy will never come home."
My heart aches tonight as it did three years ago. I miss you.

I love you....michelle

michelle gray

April 16, 2007

Tonight there was a candle light vigil for you. Your wife looked beautiful as always, as well as your children. They are very brave people as im sure you are proud of them. There was a warm wind tonight at the service, part of me wants to think it was your way of wrapping yourself in a big bear hug around all of us, and letting us know while you may be gone, you will never be forgotten.

April 15, 2007

Today is April 15th, 2007 at 7:08 pm

You and my husband worked together at the PD - I remember the time with the Explorer's at the training session you did with all of us. Especially with the cc and the door. You certainly received alot of joking comments on that from explorer's & officers.

Stephen, you had such an Awesome Impact on all the Explorer's- that 2 of the young men cut their hair very short in honor and rememberance of what they learned from YOU!!

Remeber sitting in the bus with your co-workers spouses.. and employees..., and as the bus drove to the location---witnessed the LOVE FOR YOU and the Loss the community felt!! People and children were standing along the route with signs and some saluted as you, Stephen, went by for One last drive down YOUR Community Streets.


I Pray Daily for Michelle and your children,and all family members, & Police Dept, friends that they find comfort in the memories of You.

Your brothers and sisters in blue will continue to watch over your Loved Ones.

b-45 wife

Merced Police Dept./Merced, CA /Police Officer wife (22)

April 15, 2007

Remembered today and always my friend. Rest in peace, you are a true hero.

Cpl/1 Steven Rizzo
Delaware State Police

April 15, 2007

Just from reading a few pages of these reflections I can
see how much you were loved by both your families. I
am sorry our society can be so violent and cruel. Of course you are hated by those who are intent on inflicting pain on others because you oppose them. I
hope your brothers carry on in your name and make you
proud. It is a very difficult and scary job that only a certain breed can do. Our hearts go out to them for
putting their lives on the line for strangers each and every day. May the good Lord protect them and watch
over your family. Thinking of you on the 3rd anniversary
of your EOW.
Lynn Kole
Washington State

April 15, 2007

Stephan, the trial for Rivera starts tomorrow. We are praying for the out come that will bring justice, and closure for Michelle, and your children, and the entire community of Merced.

I pray to God to give Michelle strength to get through this.

Rest well, you deserve it.

Former Brother in Blue

April 13, 2007

I just want you to know that we are praying for your loved ones. Some many people are trying to cope with you leaving this life. It has been three years and it seems like yesterday you were part of our family. I am your brother Tony's sister in law. I see his hurt everyday. He misses you so much. It is hard to see the good in a bad situation, but I do see the love that is displayed from Tony towards his family. I know you have influenced him with your family values and he is going to pattern his self after his baby brother. We just had Easter and I do remember the Easter we had at Lynda and Tony's house so many years ago. You, Michelle and the kids were there. We had so much fun watching the kids play musical chairs. That Tonilee is growing up to be a little Tony Gray. I am not too good at this type of stuff but I thought I would let you know how much you influenced so many peoples lives. Rest in Peace



April 10, 2007

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