Family, Friends & Fellow Officers Remember...

Police Officer Rodney Fredderick Pocceschi

Virginia Beach Police Department, Virginia

End of Watch Monday, June 23, 2003

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Reflections for Police Officer Rodney Fredderick Pocceschi

I was so saddened when i read about Police Office Rodney F. Pocceschi, he was so young! I feel for his wife and child.

It disgusts me to think that this kind aof thing goes on every day in our world!

I would like to thank all of the police officers for helping to mak ethe world a sfae place and for all the hard work that they do. Keep up the excellent work guys!

Kind regards

Josephine McGowan. Columbia, Missouri. (Previously of Va Beach)

April 22, 2004

To the men and women of Virginia Beach Police Department - please know that your anguish is felt by many. The support you have shown to Maria, Carson and his family through this tragedy is truly special!

To Maria - your strength has amazed me still to this day! Please know that you and Carson are in my thoughts and prayers daily! I'm sorry, I never explained why I presented you with my badge....at that time I didn't have the strength. I wanted to give back what Rod gave to me....my career in law enforcement. Know that the badge I gave you was the one that was given to me the day I was sworn in as a police officer.

To Carson - your father IS the bravest man I have ever had the privilege of knowing!!!

Rod - There is not a day that goes by that I don't think of you!!! Everyday, when I pin my badge on my uniform, I am reminded of you and our long talks about pursuing a career in law enforcement. I would not be where I am today, had it not been for you! I am truly honored to have been able to call you my friend!!! Thank you!

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I read in the previous reflections, where Rod's sister had requested that his friends leave some funny memories where Rod has touched their lives, so here are a few:

* "Rob do you know what my middle initial stands for? "Fun", Rod "FUN" Pocceschi! Because people have a good time around me!!!"

* "BULL-MOOSE!!!"

* "Big Jokes!"

* Having to do push ups when losing to Rod in pool or darts (which was all the time)

Ptlm. Robert A. Neiderhiser II
Berwick Police Department (Pennsylvania)

February 29, 2004

Your memory lives within me as I think of you every day. I will proudly ride for you this May as a member of the Police Unit Tour. You are a true hero in my eyes and will never be forgotten. Thank you brother.

Officer - 3rd Pct
VBPD

February 22, 2004

I found this online and it reminded me of Rondey and the whole family.......

Incase you're wondering,
God's taken him home.
Given him a halo and wings,
Even his own personal throne.

He loved his family,
And loves us still.
We loved him too,
And always will.

To everyone he knew,
He was kind and good.
He held on as long
As he possibly could.

He's carrying us through,
Wherever we go.
Even holding our hands,
For all we know.

He's an angel now,
Smiling from above.
And even when it rains,
He's showering us with love.

His trip was safe,
To Heaven from Earth.
He was held by angels, Wrapped in their wings,
It's sure what he deserved.

Whatever God's reason
For coming to get him.
It was surely as sweet,
As a heavenly hymn.

Even though he's gone,
We're never far apart.
For everytime we miss him,
He's right here in our hearts.

As all the seasons
Continue to change,
His love for us
Will remain the same.

Stars will continue to shine,
Days will continue to pass.
But his infinite love for us,
Will always and forever last.

He loves us very much,
As we all see.
He's our heavenly angel,
Rodney F. Pocceschi

Ashley Cardamone

February 11, 2004

This morning I found out that I will have the incredible honor of riding the 2004 Police Unity Tour in honor and memory of Rod Pocceschi. Each officer on the Tour will have an officer killed in the line of duty in 2003 to ride for, and mine was Rod. In my quest to find out what kind of officer and man Rod was, I read the many, many reflections left here by friends, family, co-workers and citizens. Ironically Rod was the kind of police officer that I strive to be, hard-working and dedicated, who loved his job and took pride in his work. But more than that, I was brought to tears with the descriptions of him as a friend, father, husband and relative. I don't know if I could ever do enough to honor his memory, but know that he will be with me every mile of the 250 mile journey we will make in May. I will not complain if the sun is too hot, and if the hills just don't stop; I do not know the meaning of sacrifice the way that Rod's family does.
To Maria, Carson, Gina, and the rest of Rod's family, You are now a member of the family in blue. We will not forget Rod's life, but we will also not forget your lives as well. You can call on any one of us if you are ever in need of anything. My thoughts and prayers and love are with you always

Police Ofiicer Jennifer Hardwich
Syracuse Police Dept. (NY)

January 13, 2004

Special thanks to the Officer who protected our streets and our lives as he roamed our streets of virginia beach. pain and tears goes out to his wife and child. he was a hero in all he did.

Vabeach native
R Mirto
Special Memorial Located on Damneck Road. Saluted and visted Each time pasted !

SEMPER FI!

January 2, 2004

It saddens me to see the list of fallen officers. I recently became aware of this page thru tragedy of my own. My boyfriend also died in the line of duty. There is nothing that can take away our pain. We can only stand around and hold each other up in time of pain. I feel for your loss. My children and I lost a special part of our lives on November 21st 2003. We will not be the last.

For all those that put their lives on the line each day, I want to say thank you. For those who have lost their lives we know you are watching over us all. Thanks

Sandi Weiss
John Samras Girlfriend eow 11-21-03

December 30, 2003

I can't believe it's almost been 6 months since Rod was taken from the world. Yet, no matter how much time passes, I can never forget the pain and sorrow I felt on that June day.

Rod still remains in my every-day thoughts and prayers. His pictures rest in my home in rememberance. I never understood when people talked about "feeling" deceased around them until now. There are times when I'll talk to him or acknowledge that he's laughing at me from heaven when I do something that he would bust me about. There are so many times when I can feel his presence and it comforts me to know he can hear.

Since Rod's passing, I have made so many changes. His death has taught me to stop taking things for granted and to be sure to value the little time I have here. We all learned the hard way that it can be taken away so quickly.

When I think of Rod's death, I ease the pain by remembering how much he truly lived life to the fullest and died doing the job he loved and lived for. He enstilled so many values into my life, but that was one that I never realized until recently. So now, even after his passing, he is influencing me and silently continues to guide me in the right direction. An angel's work is never complete I guess.

I miss him every day. I can't stop beating myself up for not keeping in closer touch when he went to VA. He was my hero, the man that I wanted to be. Still is. I dont' know why it's so hard for us to express our true feelings to one another. I wish I had gotten over that, so that I could truly know that he understood how much I respect him.

I was lucky to have the greatest group of people around me when we lost him. His funeral was the worst day in my 27 yrs of life. I have never felt so proud, yet so sad ever before. I was never a person for goodbyes, so saying the ultimate goodbye was something I wasn't prepared for. All of us helped each other by offering a shoulder to cry on, a funny story or a simple hug. We shared his life and the pain of losing him.

On his birthday, I searched the cemetary for his grave, to feel a bit of closeness, to let him know I hadn't forgotten him. It was a beautiful sunny day, as I got out of the car to search for his name, it suddenly began to pour rain. I just looked up and knew it was a sign from him telling me that he knew I was out looking for him. I never knew that I could find comfort in rain. I did that day.

I'm sure i'm not the only one who still gets teary eyed now and then. I pray God never takes my memories away from me. Now that the holidays are around, I pray for Maria and Carson and his entire family, knowing they have to face this "joyous" season without him. I pray for everyone who felt a loss when Rod was killed.

He will always be alive in my memories. His pictures will always remain in their frames and I love telling the stories of our friendship when people ask who he is. He will always be alive to me, not that far away, and still cracking jokes. I can still hear him telling me "I got your back". I just have to listen a little harder to hear it all.

"Who can say for certain, maybe you're still here...
I feel you all around me, your memory is so clear
Deep in the stillness, I can hear you speak....
You're still an inspiration"

I wish for peace and comfort to all of you who share this pain.

Jeff Kovalchik
Blakely, PA

December 8, 2003

It is almost 4 months and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of my little brother. It has become hard to understand and deal with the loss that should have never happened. I've gained lots of friends but most of them won't mention Rod's name. So many people are afraid to talk about him. People have to know that it is worse to ignore a friend for fear of saying something to get them upset than to talk with them and lend them your ear. I haven't found that. Don't be afraid to speak up. My ears are open to anyone that wants to talk about my brother. I miss him so very much.

GINA POCCESCHI BOYLE
OLDEST SISTER

October 18, 2003

Brother Rod-

Here it is...Two years to the day that I experienced my first local Officer's LODD when our Brother Officer Gilbert was killed in Norfolk. I couldn't help but think about both of you, and all the sacrifices you made making our cities a safer place. I had the pleasure of meeting Tiffany Gilbert, James' widow, last night while at dinner. I want you to know that Maria and Carson are and always will be in my thoughts and prayers. Rod, you will never be forgotten.

Watch over us James and Rodney, as we carry on the watch. Tiffany, Logan, Maria, and Carson- You and your families are in our hearts....

See you on the softball diamond of Heaven!

PO J Menago
VBPD 4th Pct.

September 28, 2003

Friend, this is what I truly miss. Rod was a man that gave so much of himself to others. Always there to listen and give his insight to problems. I shall never forget him, I still feel like he is not gone, or this is a bad dream that I can't wake up from. Maybe one day I will realize he is not coming back, but I shall never forget Rod.

Anonymous

September 27, 2003

Although I have never met Officer Pocceschi, my thoughts and prayers are with his wife, son, family, co-workers, and friends. I know how hard it is because my daughter lost her husband earlier this year.

Cynthia McKusick
Mother-in-law of Officer Ryan Cappelletty
Chesterfield P.D.
EOW 5-28-2003

September 7, 2003

Officer, you will be missed greatly!

Deputy P.R. McCrea
VBSO

August 24, 2003

Reading back on all of these reflections, I just want to say that the grief tied to the loss of Rod Pocceschi are great, indeed. As great as the memories are strong, fond and full of love. I have seen Internet... "Quilts of Love" made for termianlly ill children, and though I dont know how to make a "Quilt of Love" I would with all my heart like to see a "Quilt of Love" made for Carson. To keep the memories of his father strong, so that he may know what a hero his father is. Please someone, Can we do this for Carson? A place where memories can be stored, Pictures, and all the love everyone has can be compiled, so that Carson can go and see how much his daddy was loved, and what a hero he is....Can we pool our thoughts and journal our love and provide our pictures for Carson?? Think of how much this would mean to him as he learns more and goes from an infant to a young boy and then a man...
Maria, hugs, to you....I have more....
Mom and family hugs to you all too....
May God bless and keep each one of you in his light and love!
"Forever youre a part of me, forever in the heart of me!"
"Every soul if filled with light, it doenst end here if I am right!...Our love can even reach across eternity!"
Diamond Rio!
Love and Light,
Angels1
I BELIEVE

Jeanene

You Will Forever Be In My Thoughts Rod. I'll Never Forget All The Good Times We Had When You Where In Bloomsburg. Though I Only Got To Be Around You For A Small Portion Of Your Short Life, You've Left An Ever Lasting Impression That Will Never Be Forgotten. "God Bless You Rod Pocceschi" ,You Will Live On In All The Lives That You Have Touched. God Bless You Maria And Carson, I Know Rod Is Watching Over You.

David
Friend From Bloomsburg Pa.

We never forget those who have fallen to preserve this great nation, God bless...

Officer M. A Cooper
Newport News Police Dept.

When I was awakened that early morning June 23, 2003 by a phone call from a friend of mine saying that Rod had been shot and killed I felt such deep despair. I had worked with Rod at the 4th precinct for a yeer and I can not say enough times how wonderful, friendly, and a competent Police Officer he was. I used to tease him whenever anyone called the Precinct asking for him and would really really mess up on how to pronounce his last name. I feel very fortunate to have known him and also for meeting his wife and son when they visited at the precinct. Rod, Maria, and Carson, you will always be in my thoughts and prayers!

Elizabeth Rehpelz; Precinct Desk Officer
Virginia Beach Police Department

I heard of the tradegy in Va. Beach the day it happened. We lost a brother in our agency earlier this year and we all understand the pain that your family and fellow officers are feeling. May God be with them during this time of grief and attempt to give some type of understanding of why this happened.

I was on vacation in Va. Beach the week after 4th of July and was driving down Dam Neck Rd. I saw a roadside memorial that was tremendous and amazing. My kids (age 4 and 6) asked me what it was and I told them. They couldn't understand why I had tears in my eyes while I was talking. It hits so close to home when we hear of a fellow officer being taken in such a senseless way. They asked me to stop and we prayed for you, your family, and for your fellow officers. My kids have been able to put two and two together and realize daddy is in a dangerous type of work, but that policeman are putting bad guys away. They both always tell me to be careful and that they love me, just like your son loves you. My family supports me every day in the career that I have selected.

I can only pray that you and the rest of our fallen comrads and God are watching over us everyday to keep us safe and I know you will. I was impressed with the way your city came together to support your wife and son. Citizens, busineses and the best of all Smithfield Foods all came together as a team to make sure your wife and son are taken care for their future. They will be taken care of, so don't worry. Rest in peace my brother and I will see you one day when you are waiting at the gates to meet all of us.

A.J. Gordon, Police Officer
Henrico Police Dept. - Virginia

I truly feel for you and your family in this time of grief.
My son was six weeks old when his father was gunned down and from that moment on life changed for us. It is now a year and a half later and when the news broke of your husband my pain was brought right back and memories of our time resurfaced. I pray for you and your son and your families. It's like a movie it is so unreal when this happens and it takes time to get threw all of the emotions that you go threw. God will guide you and help you threw.
Although his reason's aren't clear our husband's died heros doing what they loved to do. God will bless them in heaven.

Carol Furlong and son Craig Ryan Furlon-
Survivors of a fallen officer

DATE 6/22/03 12:22 A.M. IT IS COMING UP ON A MONTH WHERE I REMEMBER THE HORRIBLE UPSETTING CALL AS I HAD JUST STARTED MY VACATION IN NEW MEXICO. EVEN THOUGH MY HUSBAND WAS WITH ME, I FELT SO ALONE AND FAR FROM EVERYONE. I DIDN'T KNOW WHICH DIRECTION TO GO.

I CANNOT HELP BUT THINK OF HOW ROD STRUGGLED WITH ILLNESS AS A CHILD AND TEENAGER AND HAD CONQUERED IT ALL. HE WAS ALWAYS BUSY AND I WOULD ALWAYS TELL HIM TO SLOW DOWN AND ENJOY LIFE AROUND HIM BECAUSE LIFE IS TOO SHORT! I DIDN'T THINK IT WAS THIS SHORT. I THINK OF HOW HIS SON STRUGGLED WITH HIS LIFE WHEN HE WAS BORN AND BELIEVED ROD WOULD HAVE TRADED PLACES TO MAKE THAT BOY WELL.

BUT EVERYTHING WAS FINE THEN AND ROD AND FAMILY WERE HEALTHY AND AT THEIR HAPPIEST. THEN THIS TRAGIC EVENT COMES CRASHING DOWN UPON ALL OF US. I'M SURE EVERYONE, LIKE MYSELF, LIES IN BED WONDERING ABOUT THE "WHAT IFS" AND "WHYS". IF THERE COULD BE ONE PERSON IN LIFE THAT COULD ANSWER OUR QUESTIONS, WE COULD FEEL SO EASE.

I CRY EVERY NIGHT BECAUSE I KNEW HOW MUCH ROD LOVED LIFE. I CRY FOR THE OFFICER'S SPOUSES' WHO LIVE IN FEAR OF THE SAME HAPPENING TO THEM. AS I CRY, I ALSO PRAY AND ASK GOD TO KEEP EVERYONE OF YOU SAFE. I PRAY FOR TIME TO MOVE ON SO THE PAIN CAN GO AWAY AND THE MEMORIES WON'T BE UPSETTING. I KNOW ALOT OF PEOPLE THAT KNEW ROD ARE PROBABLY FEELING THE SAME WAY. WE WILL NEVER UNDERSTAND IT. IT SEEMS THAT GOD GIVES US A GOOD REALITY CHECK ONCE IN A WHILE WHEN WE TEND TO LET OUR GUARD DOWN. BUT IT IS BETTER TO BE BRAVE AND POSSIBLY LIVE A SHORT LIFE THEN TO BE CAUTIOUS BECAUSE THEN YOU NEVER REALLY LIVE AT ALL. DON'T LET FEAR KEEP YOU FROM LIVING YOUR LIFE.

I'M PROUD OF MY BROTHER, OFFICER RODNEY POCCESCHI, AND I'M PROUD OF MARIA, HIS WIFE, FOR HER STRENGTH. I'M PROUD OF THE POLICE OFFICERS THAT PROTECT US FROM HARM. I'M PROUD OF THE SPOUSES WHO SUPPORT THE OFFICERS. I'M PROUD OF MY MOTHER FOR GIVING HIM NERVE, STRENGTH, AND GOOD LOOKS.

I ASK THAT YOU POSSIBLY READ THESE AND WRITE A REFLECTION OF RODNEY. ONE THAT WAS FUNNY AND MAKES YOU REMEMBER HIM. I WOULD LOVE TO READ THEM.

My story is:

When Rod was in high school and age 16, he hardly worked because most jobs required working on the weekends and I remember Rod telling me that he couldn't work weekends because that was his social time. I used to tell him that he would get a reality check when he got out in the real world. I laugh thinking about this.

THANK YOU FOR WHOMEVER STARTED THIS PAGE. IT HELPS EASE PAIN.

Forever, Gina Pocceschi Boyle
Sister of one of the bravest men to have lived and proud to call him little brother.

GINA POCCESCHI BOYLE
OLDEST SISTER

ROD,

AS WE GO ON OUR DAILY ROUTINE THAT WE CALL LIFE, WE AS OFFICRES NEVER THINK THAT ANYTHING AS TRAGIC AS 6-23-03 WOULD EVER HAPPEN TO US. YOU HAVE MADE THE ULTIMATE SACRIFICE THAT ANY OF US COULD POSSIBLE HAVE TO MAKE WHILE IN PERFORMANCE OF OUR JOB. YOU WILL ALWAYS BE IN HERO IN MY HEART AS WELL AS EVER OTHER BROTHER IN BLUE.

CARSON YOU WERE AND STILL ARE THE APPLE IN YOUR DADDYS EYE. HIS ENTIRE LIFE REVOLVED AROUND YOU AND YOUR MOMMY. YOUR DADDY WAS SO PROUD TO HAVE YOU IN HIS LIFE. EVERY TIME HE SPOKE OF YOU HIS FACE WOULD JUST SHINE WITH SUCH PRIDE. ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT YOUR DADDY GAVE HIS LIFE TO PROTECT ALL OF US.

MPO E.A. VANDERHEIDEN
VBPD

It has almost been two weeks since our Brother Rod made that fateful traffic stop, that has now forever changed so many lives. Some say it was his destiny, some say it was Gods plan, some say it was just terrible luck(being in the wrong place at the wrong time), yet others are still struggling with the reason or reasons why. We each have to come to terms with these feelings, these frustrations and with the deep sadness and emptiness we all feel, after losing one of our own. Its also our responsibility to try to help those around us that are having trouble coping with these feelings.

Before this tragedy, I did not know Rod Pocceschi very well, but I can truly say that I feel like I had known Rod for a lifetime after hearing and seeing all the stories of how Rod lived his life, not just from other police officers, family and friends that knew him, but from so many people who’s life he may have only touched for a short period of time. When you see someone who has made such an impact on so many lives in such a short period of time, it seems even more unjust that he was taken away from us so quickly.

To Maria you are an amazingly strong woman and there are no words that I can write, that would truly express my sympathies to you, to Carson, to your family and to all Rod’s close friends. I only know that from what I have seen over the past two weeks, Carson will know his Dad well and he will be so very proud of him. He truly was a Hero long before June 23, 2003, maybe some of us just didn’t realize it yet.

To all Rod’s friends, especially those on our Department, my heart goes out to each and everyone of you. Take your time grieving, remember Rod in your own way, but please don’t forget that Rod’s memory will live on, in this Department through you. Those of us who were not as close to him as you, will tend to forget too fast, we will get back to our normal day-to-day lives too quickly. So don’t hesitate to remind us what a dedicated officer Rod Pocceschi was and what an extraordinary life he lived. THAT WILL BE HIS LEGACY!!

That is every officers legacy, after making the ultimate sacrifice for what they believed in.

Sergeant Chip Condon
Virginia Beach Police Department

MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND WATCH OVER YOUR WONDERFUL FAMILY. I WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER THE OFFICER WHO ALWAYS CHECKED ON US AT THE WAWA STORE.

elaine

To the family of Officer Rodney F Pocceschi, It is sad he lost his life. I was in Law Enforcment in the US Navy for 20 years. I look at police officers as the true hero, not ball players, singers or actors. When I heard of this sad incident my heart broke, I was driving home from work in Norfolk, I just started crying. This man gave his life for me and everyone around him to keep us safe. I wil lpray for Officer Rodney F Pocceshi and his family, as well has the other Police officer in VA Beach. They are all hero's and I sure they would have done the same thing Officer Rodney F Pocceshi did. to all the Police Officer's "Stay safe on watch".

Thank you for serving the city I still call home. We will continue the fight with you in our hearts. God Bless you and your family, Bro.

Deputy Billy Strickland
Polk County Sheriff's Office

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