Family, Friends & Fellow Officers Remember...

Police Officer Rodney Fredderick Pocceschi

Virginia Beach Police Department, Virginia

End of Watch Monday, June 23, 2003

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Reflections for Police Officer Rodney Fredderick Pocceschi

Christmas is over and 2006 is here. Boy what a handsome son you have there Rod. He is going to be so tall. I don't know when he will be told about you though. He doesn't even know about you because he was too young to know and your wife doesn't want to confuse him. There will come a day though because we are there to help her and your son.

Days are not hard anymore. I still think about you constantly but it isn't upsetting anymore. It will be upsetting when the two people that went to jail for the robbery will get released. I know that is going to come up soon and I cannot believe that scum like that will be released again to the streets to cause more terror.

Rod I see all the pain these families endure when the killer of their officer survives. The justice system seems to have too many loopholes and "Get out of Jail" cards. I'm glad your killer is gone.

Rod we lost a local soldier to the war right before Christmas and it was the most heartbreaking thing to hear about for someone that was supposed to come home right after Christmas and get married. He didn't make it. He was only 24. I didn't know the people but I cried.

We have been sending our blue light candles to certain people asking them to remember their loved one this way. My lights still stay lit in my windows. I have two on right now and usually have more but with plastic on the windows, it isn't possible.

You have to know that the department has done well to provide for your wife and son. They are so helpful and your son will never have to want for anything with all of them around.

I'd like to thank the people for their genorousity when we visited on your son's birthday. They would never let us pay for a thing. Thank you guys for everything but it isn't necessary. I know how much you care and I care about all of you too.

Rod, help the rest of the family get through their pain. Mom is so empty inside and we hurt because sometimes we feel like she doesn't stop and realize that she has two living children.

Please give Dad a big hug and kiss from me. I miss him too.

Hey, can you send down some good basketball skills for your neice? Or how about some quickness in her step. Bet you get a kick out of her trying to play basketball. She does try but she only moves one speed, slow. Wish you were here to tell her the right way to do it because I know you would tell us that we are not teaching her right.

I miss you brother.

I want to thank everyone that comes to this site to read your reflections and especially those that write. I come here often to read them.

Love you dearly,
Big Sister Gina

Gina Pocceschi Boyle
Sister of Officer

January 9, 2006

To the family of Officer Pocceschi I offer my sincere condolences. I too am of Italian heritage and relate all too well to the sentiments expressed by the sister/s of this fine officer. I lost my NYS Trooper big brother in 1961 when he was 29 and I was 18. He was our family's pride and joy and although it will be 45 years since his passing, there is not a day that goes by that I do not think of him and recognize the impact his loss has had on our entire family. There are now not only nieces and nephews, but grandnieces and grandnephews that never had the privilege to know their fine uncle who would have been a most positive role model in their lives. My brother was still single so we had no child of his to reflect his wonderful traits. Be grateful that your loved one had a son that you can watch grow into a man that will, I am sure, be a tribute to your brother. This odmp was not available before 1996 and I only became aware of it a few years ago when my brother was sought out to be honored for his sacrifice to duty. It has now become a forum to not only honor those who have made the ultimate sacrifice but a link for families (that unfortunately are connected because of tragic circumstances) to support each other with prayers in their coping with their loss at these sad and difficult times. Your poem in memory of law enforcement officers is a fitting tribute to your brother's memory and I am sure he is very proud of his loving sister/s. May God's perpetual light continue to shine upon Officer Pocceschi and may he rest in His eternal peace. I will keep his family in my prayers as they carry on without his physical presence but know that he is only a thought away and is watching over them from a far better place. God bless you all.

Anita L. Culosi
sister of Tpr. S. J. Embarrato

January 2, 2006

HAPPY NEW YEAR RODNEY

January 1, 2006

Dec 25, 2005 (10:59 pm)

Merry Christmas in heaven little brother. You were missed so much today and yesterday especially. We went to the cemetary to visit and place some flowers at your stone.

I kept wondering what we would have been talking about, what would be new in your life, how you'd look, etc...

For those who are reading this,I can tell you that for most, time does not heal. Not when you loved someone with all your heart and they have been a part of your life for 33 years. There are not enough pictures, videos, cards, or any momentos from you that fill my emptiness. I've lost a father and a little brother and my heart aches. Only my faith in God helps me get thru each day, now more than 2 years ago.

We watched the video of you that was taken right after Memorial Day, the last day I ever saw you and spent time with you while you were alive. You were running around outside with the kids and playing and laughing and so full of life. Who knew that it was the last time that I'd see you alive. I want the girls to know and remember who you are and how very special you are. It still does not seem real; only that kind of stuff happens in the movies or unfortunately to someone else.

I pray for your Law Enforcement brothers and sisters everyday. I pray for peace and safety...theirs and ours.

If I had one wish for Christmas for something that I would want more than anything else, it would be to bring you back or make the whole tragedy just a very, very bad dream.

I am grateful for this sight. It's my way of staying connected.

Love you and miss you terribly.

Your Aunt had to cut back on the special Italian feast on Christmas Eve since you weren't hear to help eat it.

Life is just not the same and often it is very difficult to enjoy....but, we know that you would not have wanted it that way; so, we do our best.

Merry Christmas in Heaven and please know that we will never, ever stop missing you or hurting for you.

Please watch over Carson and Maria.

Help us make a difference like you would have continued to do.

All my love,

Jacci

sister
Fallen Officers Remembered

December 25, 2005

Dear Little Brother:

This was written by me for you and your brothers and sisters.

Love ya xoxoxo
Qua




Reality

Imagine how our world would be
If every police officer quit
Turned in their gun, turned in their badge,
Just finally had enough of it.

No respect, no loyalty,
No appreciation of all they do,
They’d give their lives for all of us,
These wonderful officers of “Blue”.

Kicked at, spit on,
Punched, stabbed and shot,
Everyday assaults on officers,
Done…without thinking a second thought!

Our laws are in favor of criminals,
There’s always some loophole in their case,
Out again to commit more crimes and murders
…creates pain, that we, the family and friends
…in time will never erase.

Why should they do it?
Why take the risk?
Why put their life on the line?
Subject their loved ones to endless suffering,
When their precious life is lost while fighting crime.

More murders, more kidnappings, more robberies and rapes,
Just to mention a few,
Please ask yourself how life would be,
If there were NO officers in Blue!

Would you do it? Could you do it?
And for how many…would YOU give it all?
Rewards are a 21 gun salute, a Medal of Honor,
And your name gets added to the Wall.

Think about it. Why are they here?
And why do some hate them so?
Because they enforce the laws that put convicts and murderers
In jail serving time, or on “Death Row”.

All give some and some give all,
It’s a risk they chose to take:
To put their heart and soul in it,
To put their lives at stake.

So, please take a moment,
Please give it deep thought,
Think of what “you can do”…

To help show respect,
To help follow the laws,
So we’d quit losing our Heroes in Blue!

Written by Jaclyn Pocceschi Mosley
Sister of Fallen Officer Rodney F. Pocceschi EOW 6/23/03.

sister

December 14, 2005

Dear Bro (as I used to call you)

Tomorrow will be 10 days before Christmas. This Christmas will be year 3 without you....and I keep telling myself to just focus on the years we had. While we have our traditional Italian Christmas Eve dinner, you will be on the mind of all. It won't be the same; no more fighting with you over the smelts and spahgetti. No more of your stories....we tell our own about you and your life. I miss your silly laugh and snicker and your cough...it amazes me that you made it thru the blood clots only to be killed in the line of duty.

I pray all the time for the safety of your law enforcement brothers and sisters. The prayer is permanent on my church bulletin.

We are launching our Second Annual "S.O.L.E." (Support Our Law Enforcement) Cultural Arts Contest, we are planning a band benefit concert, the next golf tournament, the Unity Tour, etc.... We are committed to the cause to increase respect and appreciation of Law Enforcement.

The day of the recent tournament, the sky got dark and it poured a river for approx. 20-30 mins.. We all said that you had something to do with it and that you were laughing at the soaked golfers.

Your nieces asked me what kinds of toys I used to get for Christmas...and I really couldn't remember many of mine, all I could remember was the gifts that you used to get like the "Rockim, Sockim Robots, sockem boppers and the evil knieval, etc... I remember when you rode your big wheel down the concrete steps (approx 10-12 of them) where we used to live. I miss you with all of my heart.

There is not a day, nor hour, nor minute that you are not on my mind.
Love you always and forever

Qua

sister

December 14, 2005

Rod, a couple of us from the 28th got together tonight! We had a few beers in your honor and talked about the good ol' times in the academy, (if you call them good times). Just want you and your family to know that you aren't forgotten by the 28th! ROD we love you!


P.S. Gina thank you for the honor of buying your dinner the other night at quads!

Det. 28th
VBPD

December 10, 2005

It is little under an hour before I turn 40 Rod. I keep wishing that you could send me down your funny birthday cards that you always sent me. You were always bringing up the old part because I was older than you.

Turning 40 hasn't made me happy but I know that your joking manner and smile would have made it all better.

I asked not to have a party because I just didn't want one if you couldn't physically be there. You were at my 30th birthday party and I couldn't enjoy myself turning the decade age without your laughter.

I'm so lucky because I started transferring my old videos to DVDS and I watch them as they transfer. I have so much of you on them and I cherish that.

I'm going to make one big DVD of all the parts you were in and save it for your son to have.

I really believe you sent your wife's boyfriend to her after you died to help her from being lonely. He is truly wonderful to your son.

Captain Smith is wonderful to your son. He is truly a blessing for that boy. And that goes for Mrs. Smith too. They help your wife out alot.

So Rod, I'm sending you a big hug up to heaven. I know you and Dad are hugging me back on my birthday.

Love you and always missing you.

Gina Pocceschi Boyle
Sister of Officer

November 14, 2005

Rod,

We just got back from the 5th annual football game. Some girls we met at the game saw your picture on our trailer and asked me where the cute guy in the yellow jacket was. We all miss you and love you so much buddy.

Tommy

Tommy

November 14, 2005

You are truly missed. I have never meet you or your wife but after reading several of your pages you were a wonderful brother to your sisters. It obvious how much they love you and cherish your memory. It's nice that they visit you often and leave impacting, loving letters to you. I wanted to attend your funeral service, but could not bear to feel the pain all over again. My husband was killed just a year and a-half before you. I know you both are having a great time patroling the crime free streets in heaven where there is no worry and there is no pain.
I think of you often and pray for your families. They say time heals all wounds. Not true. It never gets easier, it just gets easier to hide your pain in front of people. Rest in peace my friend, your sisters are holding the fort down. I know your shining down on your wife and sisters. God Bless you and your family. Although I never knew you, I felt a though I do now.

Tiffany Gilbert
Widow of Norfolk Officer James Gilbert

November 3, 2005

I remember sitting with you in the Hardees parking lot talking to you when you were in the 4th. You were on duty and so was I on the ambluance. You are missed by the whole community and you always will be remembered for what you have done for the city of Va Beach. Thanks Rodney.

Chris Parks EMT-B
Kempsville Volunteer Rescue Squad

November 3, 2005

Well I can now say that I received some distressing news yesterday as I was sitting at Virginia Beach General after dropping a patient off from a vehicle accident. The officer that was on the scene had just arrived and asked me if I had heard my radio or checked my computer. I had told him no, that I had just come from inside. He told me another officer had been shot and now had died from the injuries he had sustained. This is always the hardest part for any of us in this line of work. I have been a member of the emergency folks for 5 years now and I have put 4 officers into the ground. Now this one will be number 5. This is so unfair to all of us. We shouldn't have to be putting this many people out of our lives. I can say out of the 4 that I have had to mourn for I only truley knew 3. But then......I am working for 2 departments now. VBEMS and now CKPD. If only it got easier, but then again I dont believe god wanted things like this to be easy for us. May god bless all and take the burdon from your souls. We shall all cross paths again. Till then.....goodbye

Shock Trauma S.L. Talbert
Virginia Beach EMS

October 29, 2005

Rod,
We said goodbye to another hero today. He also made the ultimate sacrifice to keep our families safe from the evils of society. It seems like yesterday we were saying goodbye to you. I think of you often and wish you were still here to share our laughter. Keep watching over us and keep us safe. I’m sure you’re watching over your son and because of that, he’ll be just fine.

MPO C.E. Elliot
Virginia Beach Police

October 13, 2005

Dearest Rod, We celebrated your birthday on Sat 9/17 with a golf tournament in your honor. We had a nice turn out and we had fun. It wasn't the same without you there though. I can remember all the Memorial Days at your family golf tournaments. The minute you got out of the car at the golf course, you were always joking with your cousins about beating their golf scores. I could picture you on the golf course with us on Sat. I felt your presence. Ken brought up that you could really hit your driver on some of the holes. He really misses you so much, as we all do. I am waiting for the day when we will all be together golfing up in heaven and you out driving all of us. It was nice seeing your family again and reminescing. Hopefully we will be able to get together again soon. Well I must sign off for now. I love you and I miss you. Happy Birthday in heaven. Love, Yolanda (Mom) soon.

Yolanda Wielgopolski

September 19, 2005

Tomorrow is our first golf tournament in your name. It is the perfect day to hold this event because tomorrow you will be 36. We will be thinking of you all day as we share your day with friends and family.

You have left my dreams now. I think once I found my peace, you moved on to help those who haven't.

I miss your voice and laughter, your jokes and goofiness. But I really miss your hugs Rod.

Keep watching over us please. Happy Birthday in heaven little brother.

Gina Pocceschi Boyle
Sister of Officer

September 16, 2005

Rod,
I was shocked two years ago when I saw your photo on the news with the devastating news. I am from Nanticoke, Pa., attended Bloomsburg Univ. 1990-92 and then briefly met you when you and your partner responded to a call in my former Va. Beach neighborhood. You were unfairly taken from your family & friends, and even those of us who don't know you well, were touched by your loss. My thoughts & prayers are with your family. Rest in peace.

Kim N.

September 7, 2005

9/3/05
Dear Rod:

I can't sleep tonight...I keep remembering a very happy event for you and all of us, 6 years ago...your wedding to the girl of your dreams. I remember vividly how happy and how nervous you were on that day. You looked fabulous as always, and, you were glowing. I remember you dancing with props to YMCA and just having one of the best days of your life. I'm so glad that you achieved happiness.

It brings back memories of my wedding, when you would not let John get in the wedding circle. I remember you lifting him up by his legs and making him land on his elbows...was he "xxxxxx" at you.

We miss you terribly. The thought of a family picture on the holidays, just doesn't seem right without you...how can we smile? There could never be enough pictures, memories, stories, etc..for us to fill your void.

When I look at your pictures, I keep praying that all of this is only a bad dream. I know that you are the lucky one, for you are now in a much better place.

We have gotten very close to some of your close friends, and it has helped us get thru each day.

"My Influence"

My life shall touch a dozen lives
Before this day is done;
Leave countless marks for good or ill,
Ere sets the evening sun.

To this is the wish I always wish,
The rayer I always pray;
Lord, may my life help other lives
It touches by the way.

(author unknown)

God's Lent Child:

I'll lend you for a little while
A child of mine, God said --
For you to love the while he lives,
And mourn for when he's dead.

It may be one or two years
or forty two or three;
But will you, till I call him back,
Take care of him for me?

He'll bring his charms to gladden you
And -- should his stay be brief
You'll have his lovely memories
As a solace for your grief.

I cannot promise he will stay,
Since ALL from earth return;
But the lessons taught below
I want this child to learn.

I've looked the whole world over
In search for teachers true;
And from the things that crowd Life's lane --
I have chosen you.

Will you give him all your love?
Nor think the labor vain?
Nor hate me when I come to take
This lent child back again?

I fancied that I heard them say
"Dear Lord, thy will be done.
For joys thy child will bring
The risk of grief we'll run.

We will shelter him with tenderness,
We'll love him while we may--
And for the happiness we've known
Forever grateful stay.

But should thy angels call for him
Much sooner than we've planned,
We'll brave the grief that cometh,
And try to understand."

(author: Florence Correa, poem changed to male gender)

Love, hugs, and kisses little bro....
miss you every day, every hour, every minute.

Qua

sister of Fallen Officer Rodney F. Pocce

September 3, 2005

To the family of Officer Pocceschi I would like to say I'm sorry for your loss. I saw his picture along with a poem on another officer's memorial website that one of his sisters submitted, so I decided to look him up on here. I glad I did. I thought the story about blowing the horn at a cop while drinking a beer was funny. It reminded me of my brother, Keith when he was a teenager too. Keith was a Richland Co. Deputy Sheriff. He was killed in a car wreck while on duty in May of this year. We lived about 80 miles apart, but the Lord saw to it that I got to see him exactly one week before he died. He was my only sibling. To Officer Pocceschi's sisters - I know now your pain and I'm sorry that we have to be members of the same club. I personally found strength in Jesus Christ during my difficult time and even now. I pray that you'll trust in Him and that one day you'll see your brother again as I will mine. I will pray for you all. In the end, we all the same goal and that is to see our brothers again. God bless you all.

Kevin Cannon
Brother of Keith Cannon EOW 5/4/05

August 11, 2005

Rod, this has been a tough week for me. It was six years ago on 8-2-99 that we all started the academy together. Little did we know it would be the toughest 5 months of our lives, and little did we know we would find the best friends of our lives there. All week I have been reflecting on the good and tough times we had in the academy. Most of us from the 28th just put our MPO on, and I know you would have past the test with ease, but would have argued one or two questions that you missed to the end just like in the academy!! I love you brother RIP we have the watch now

Det. VBPD
28th Academy

August 8, 2005

Rod,

Six years ago today we began the 28th Virginia Beach Police Academy. It did not take long before the group of individuals soon became an extended family. Everytime I pass your memorial on Dam Neck Road, I stop and reflect on what you did that night and how honorably and valiantly you performed. I often told the 28th how proud I was of serving with them and I continue to feel that way every time I think of you and of them. I think about you everyday when I dress for work or put on your bracelet. I am going to the NLEOM Wall this week to see your name, and I will get an etching, but it is not the same as speaking with you.
We are continuing to "Stand the Watch", and we are better because of you.

"In Valor There Is Hope" - Tacitus

Officer Brian Ricardo
Virginia Beach Police Academy Class 28
"Honor, Above All but Integrity"

MPO Brian K. Ricardo
Virginia Beach Police

August 2, 2005

I think of Rodney often. I knew him in his early teen years as we stayed in Mountain Top with Fred, Jeanette,Jaqui, and Gina for summer vacations. I remember how "tough" he was and I always respected that. He was a free spirit..Jeanette and Fred always had great stories about him..
It kills me that a good soul was taken, but he is looking over everyone for a reason.
Say hello to Uncle Art, another good soul!!
Hello to your family as I will always remember the great times....
Bless you and your family
Carrie

Carrie Rinker

July 25, 2005

Rod, I think of you and the sacrifice you made everyday. Things will never be the same without you here, but I want you to know you will never be forgotten. Every time I ride by the spot on Dam Neck rd. tears come to my eyes, as I remember the good and hard times we had in the academy. Rod we have the watch now, rest in peace my brother!

Detective VBPD
28th Academy

July 23, 2005

Rod,

As I sit here in front of my computer and remember you, tears roll down my face. There is not a day that goes by that Tiffany and I dont think of the ultimate sacrafice made by you. Im not sure that we will ever be the same. I look at you and the pictures on the fridge of Carson and wonder why...I still dont have any answers...We miss you pal..

MPO R.S. Franklin
Virginia Beach PD

July 18, 2005

You are constantly on my mind Rod. On June 23rd, Devon, Lauren, and I went to your gravesite to say hello. We stopped and saw Aunt Lucy too. Tell Dad we will always watch over her.

On June 24th (friday), mom, Fred, and I met at your gravesite. Joe Delucca stopped by also. I cleaned off your stone and made it look beautiful. We have wreaths, picture collage, flowers, and cards near it. Afterward we headed over to what has become our place to go to talk about you. It is called the Tipsy Turtle and so far we have gone there for the past two June 23rd rememberances and for your birthdays, September 17th.

I made a toast to your mother and father-in-law, Yolanda and Ken, for their anniversary. We toasted you. The crowd gets bigger and bigger. This year we had Elaine, Donna, Michael, Glenna (these are cousins); Yolanda, Ken, Mark (brother-in-law), Jack (Carson's godfather), Mom and Fred, Eddie (your best friend), and Tom and myself.

Eddie was telling us the one story that I have to allow people to hear because it is so funny.

Eddie told us how during your teenage years, a police officer pulled in front of you and you slammed on the horn at the officer. He was now pulling you over. You had beer in the car and told Eddie to pour out all the cans onto Dad's car floor. You got arrested and had to have mom come bail you out. You then went back to get the car and told Eddie to spray hairspray all over the floor to cover up the smell. The next morning dad approached Eddie and told him that you wouldn't say anything and he would like to know how his whole car floor got sticky. I never laughed so hard. Only you would blow your horn, while drinking, at a police car.

I'm glad to hear that you never did anything bad with my firebird, when you borrowed it.

Each day after June 23rd, I kept picturing what we were doing 2 years ago and how everything played out. It just kept coming back to me. I remembered June 30th (the day of your service in VA Beach). I remmembered July 1st (the evening that we gathered at Good Old Days with all the VA officers that traveled). I remember July 2nd when we said our final goodbyes here in Pittston, PA.

Everyone is taking care of Maria and I know that people were worried about her but she seems to be doing well. We talk more now and things don't seem to hurt as much.

I will always wonder though what life would be like right now if you were here.

I miss you, little brother. I feel your presence. Until next time, big hugs and kisses to you and Dad.

Gina Pocceschi Boyle
Sister of Officer

July 7, 2005

Thank you to all of you who continue to remember our brother, Rod, even 2 years later.

It still seems like yesterday to us.

It has been rehabilitating to us to read your reflections and see how loved he was. This is all that we have left of him.

Sometimes it is still difficult to accept that he is no longer alive.

We are truly appreciative of this website as a communucation to help get us through each day.

May God Bless you all.

Thank you

Jaclyn Pocceschi Mosley
sister

June 26, 2005

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