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Deputy Sheriff Dennis Ray McElderry

Davis County Sheriff's Department, Iowa

End of Watch Friday, January 3, 2003

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Reflections for Deputy Sheriff Dennis Ray McElderry

16 years to day that you have missed with all of us. Not a single day gets any easier. We recently moved into your house and i'd be lying if I said it wasn't hard at times. Tyce... oh where to start with him. You two would have been the best of friends! He kept asking when we moved where grandpa was and that was a hard thing for him to grasp.
We love and miss you every day dad.

Taylor McElderry
Youngest Daughter

January 3, 2019

"Blessed are the peacemakers: for they shall be called the children of God."
Matthew 5:9

Marshal Chris Di Gerolamo
Federal Air Marshal Service

March 14, 2018

15 years today and it seems to never get easier. Tyce is growing into such a smart, witty, handsome little boy and I want nothing more than for you to be here to watch him grow. I know you have a front row seat up there and you watch everyday. Emersyn is quite the little ham and I believe she would have you wrapped around her finger in no time. I love you forever and always, miss you everyday Dad!

Taylor McElderry
Youngest Daughter

January 3, 2018

To Dennis family,

I still think of you on the loss of your dad, and know he would be proud of you all.
God gained an angel but you still gained one angel in blue watching you all from the gates of heaven.

Tonya Stephenson
Citizen, Des Moines, Iowa

June 14, 2017

I just want to tell you how proud of you I am and how glad I am that I was raised in the law enforcement community. With what's going on in today's world I'm glad you chose the blue family. A thank you to you and all the officers serving in the past and present. Your lives matter and I back the blue.

Taylor McElderry

July 8, 2016

Just stopping in to tell you I was thinking about you a lot tonight. Miss you so much and I wish you were here to meet your grandson. He is something else and never fails to put a smile on my face. I love you Dad

Taylor McElderry

March 11, 2016

Well last time I was writing you I found out I was pregnant and now I have an almost 5 month old! It's crazy how time flys. Wish you could be here to see Tyce grow but I know you are watching over him everyday! Tyce and I love you very much ❤️❤️❤️

Taylor McElderry
Youngest daughter

September 29, 2015

God Bless you Deputy Sheriff McElderry, and your growing and loving family, and all those who serve and protect us, here and from up in Heaven.

another grateful citizen

August 30, 2015

Boy oh boy dad, I have some news for you. Couple weeks ago I found out that I'm going to be a mamma. Although I'm sure if you we're here I would get the "I'm not mad I'm disappointed speech." Don't worry I already played out how that would have went. Crazy thing was, I would have been more nervous for grandma and grandpas reaction. Which surprisingly wasn't as bad as I imagined. Which means there's no way you could be upset, I'm giving you your first grandbaby. Kind of weird to say it sucks that you won't be around to watch he or she grow. But as you already know, I'll talk to world of you and often so it will be like they already know you. Don't worry, I will jeep you update every step of the way and be sure to drop off some pictures for you. I love and miss you everyday.

Taylor McElderry
youngest daughter

September 27, 2014

RIP, HERO! You will not be forgotten!

Fmr Sheriff's Deputy
Marion County Sheriff, Indiana

June 7, 2014

Sir, your service and sacrifice is not forgotten. Thank you for both...

Very Respectfully,

Commander Ron Bayne #559
Scottsdale PD

June 2, 2014


Eleven years later and there really aren't a lot of tears but every once in a while things bring you back. I heard Savage Garden's "I Knew I Loved You" right around your EOW and it brought back memories of a time that seems like only yesterday but was over a decade ago.

You and I driving in that truck of yours. The kids were with us and I wasn't paying attention to the radio. I remember you saying, "You should listen to this song. It's a good one." I remember this because I remember thinking at the time how that comment was really weird coming from you because this was not the type of music you listened to at all. Looking back, it was a "good one."

I used to ask you what it was about me that would make you travel hundreds of miles just for a chance to meet me and you used to say you didn't know exactly what it was or how it happened, it just WAS. You knew that you loved me and that it felt right and that was all you needed. Hearing this song after all these years, I now see how this song was OUR story. I miss living that story. More importantly I miss YOU. That's where the tears are. At the same time I feel so incredibly blessed that I was even able to be a part of that story. How can someone feel sad and blessed at the same time?

Having said that, you are a blessing. I thank you Dennis for the incredible love you gave me in our short time together and the love you continue to give. As life goes on know that OUR story will always be one of the most beautiful chapters in my life. You will always be missed and will always have a huge part of my heart.

Sending lots of hugs & lots of love,

Joss :)


Savage Garden: "I Knew I Loved You"

Maybe it's intuition
But some things you just don't question
Like in your eyes
I see my future in an instant
and there it goes
I think I've found my best friend
I know that it might sound more than
a little crazy but I believe

I knew I loved you before I met you
I think I dreamed you into life
I knew I loved you before I met you
I have been waiting all my life

There's just no rhyme or reason
only this sense of completion
and in your eyes
I see the missing pieces
I'm searching for
I think I found my way home
I know that it might sound more than
a little crazy but I believe

A thousand angels dance around you
I am complete now that I found you

Jocelyne Brar
Dennis' fiance

January 8, 2014

It is just one of those days dad. One of those days that i wish i could just sit and talk about whats going on. One of those days where i just want to ball my eyes out and pull out all my hair. One of those days that i just wish i could have you here. Although you aren't here physically i know you are in my heart and always watching over me.I guess i just need to realize It just isn't the same and i know it never will be. Just know i need you now more than ever and am always thinking about you. I'm sure this week will get worse and i will stop by and have a visit. then we can have a nice chat. Just remember i love you forever and always! i miss you dad.

Taylor McElderry
youngest daughter

July 7, 2013

Well Dad, this is the 10th Father's Day without you and let me tell you it doesn't get any easier. I'll give you an update of my life even though i know you're watching. I recently moved into a house with Trevor and two of my friends, it's working out great! I'm taking some summer classes at IHCC. I'm still working on my Criminal Justice degree along with my Psychology degree. Trevor and I are doing great and happier tan ever. Blake's doing good for the most part, hopefully getting his own house soon! Jennifer just left for her fourwheeler trip and will be back Thursday so watch over her so she doesn't get too crazy! I'm also working at the daycare now and i love it! Definitely a switch from the restaurant. well as of now that's all i really know.
Happy Father's Day, Dad!
I love you.

Taylor McElderry

June 16, 2013


Yesterday, out of nowhere, something reminded me of how it felt to hold your hand. Somehow our hands just fit perfectly together. It was a good feeling but at the same time it made me realize just how much I still miss you, even after all these years. *sigh* Know that I always carry you in my heart. I pray that even though I can't always feel it you are still holding my hand as I walk through this life. Miss you!

Love you lots,

Joss *HUGS*

Dennis' fiancee

June 5, 2013

Rest in Peace, Deputy McElderry. Your sacrifice is not forgotten.

Officer 11169

May 23, 2013

Missing you! Not a day goes by I don't think of you! <3

Jen Shively

December 6, 2012

Dennis, You're not forgotten Brother.

Fmr. Deputy 26-6

August 29, 2012

Rest in Peace Dennis, you will always be remembered.

Robert Murry
Davis County Sheriff's Office/Reserve Deputy

July 17, 2012

Deputy McElderry,

Thoughts and prayers to you and your family. Although I never knew you, I am beginning a career in law enforcement and I do so to honor your sacrafice. Each and every day I go out to protect and serve, I take a moment to remember each and every officer that made the ultimate sacrifice.
"In The Line of Duty"

What is the meaning of "In The Line Of Duty"
It means that an officer made the Ultimate sacrifice.
It means that someone took an officer's life.
A hero has fallen.

Officers who gave their all
To protect and serve
Have been killed by someone whom they swore
To protect and serve.

It means that their badge will no longer be on their chest
And they will join
"The Best Of The Best"

It means that family and friends are left behind
To deal with the lost of a loved one.
Only having the memories of that loved one
Close to their hearts.
Something no one can ever take away.

It means that family members will stand at the officers grave
And wonder why ...
Why would someone take an officer's life
And leave them there to die?
If we only knew.

Today an officer will place their badge on their chest
To fulfill the dreams of heroes killed
"In The Line Of Duty"

Rest well brother

Kevin Guck-Reserve Deputy 70-41
Muscatine County Sheriff's Office

June 14, 2012

I wanted to write to you on your EOW but I decided to wait, it's not that one particular day that I miss you the most.. it's the days like Taylor's up coming graduation that really hit home. I know you have been up there watching over us, so many things have happened and changed over the years, I really wish you could have been here with us. I can hardly believe that Taylor, not only turned 18 a couple of months ago but is now going to be graduating high school. You would be so proud of the person she has became. She is like you in so many ways, she has that laid back personality and the temper when she needs it! I know you will be with her when she walks across the stage to get her diploma Sunday! Today is grandma and grandpas 60th wedding anniversary, can you believe it?!?! 60 years is a long time! Blake is looking more and more like you every day, he is the one that would give you grey hair. Such a ball of fire, maybe his red hair fits him :) He may be ornery but deep down he is a big teddy bear just like you. I saw that Joss posted about Taylor and I going to the capital on the behalf of survivors. Taylor did a great job speaking in front of everyone. I wish every day you could be here to see our accomplishments and be here to guide us when we need it. Continue what you are doing up there... I miss you, and love you!

Jennifer Shively

May 17, 2012


Jennifer and Taylor spoke today, along with other children of fallen officer survivors, with the Iowa House of Representatives subcommittee to discuss a bill that will offer health insurance to children and spouses of police, fire, and EMS killed in the line of duty. I wasn’t there but I heard through the grapevine that they did a great job. Blake wasn’t there but I’m sure he was there in spirit. I’m so proud of them for speaking up - I know you’d be proud too. You always were. The kid’s lives are moving forward in a lot of ways but know they will always miss you and are doing what they can to honor your memory. Have no doubt about that.

I know I don’t write a lot but I still miss you too and not a day goes by that I don’t think about you. As long as I live you will always live on in my heart.

Love you,

Joss *HUGS*

Jocelyne Brar (Winnipeg, MB Canada)
Dennis' Fiancee

February 1, 2012

Your heroism and service is honored today, the ninth anniversary of your death. Your memory lives and you continue to inspire. Thank you for your service. My cherished son Larry Lasater was a fellow police officer murdered in the line of duty on April 24, 2005 while serving as a Pittsburg, CA police officer.

Time never diminishes respect and your memory will always be honored and revered. I pray for solace for all those who love and miss you for I know the pain and pride are forever.

Phyllis Loya
Mom of fallen California Officer Larry Lasater, Pittsburg PD, eow 4/24/05

January 3, 2012

Another year passes Dennis - I did not know you , but have got to know Jocelyne via Facebook. Your police brothers and sisters will never forget you. RIP my friend - your job is done.

My best wishes to all your family and may they be forever proud of you sir.

D/C Colin Davies #6745 (Ret)
Toronto Police Service

January 3, 2012

Well tomorrow marks 9 years and honestly this has been the toughest year so far. Just one thing after another happening. Last night i sat at your grave for four hours bawling my eyes out and im here again. Its my senior year and its really rough without you. These last couple days i really needed you and i know your always in my heart but it's definitely not the same. Thinking about the future and realizing how much your missing out on kills me everytime i think about it. Jennifer has been very helpful these last few days like she always is. I hope Blake is doing okay i know he misses you alot even though he doesn't talk about it. We all miss you very much. I love you dad. I'd give anything to have you back.

Taylor McElderry
Youngest daughter

January 2, 2012

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