Family, Friends & Fellow Officers Remember...

Corporal Dyke "A. J." Coursen

Beaufort County Sheriff's Office, South Carolina

End of Watch Tuesday, January 8, 2002

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Reflections for Corporal Dyke "A. J." Coursen

Dyke I have been thinking about you the last few weeks. Was back in Elyria last week for my nephew who was killed in a car accident. I caught myself again going through LA looking for your truck. Keep an eye on Joe for me he is a good kid.

Jim Eggeman
Columbus Police Dept

October 25, 2006

Dyke, I worked with you briefly at LaGrange PD. I was an 18 yr old Auxiliary and you changed my career forever. 5 years later, I'm a Deputy and I respond to a call in the northern part of the county. Myself and 3 other Deputies show up and 26 seconds later, we are being shot at. We returned fire and subdued the suspect. I know you were looking down on us and making sure we were ok. My partner was shot in the neck, but was released from the hospital the next day. Thank you for keeping me safe.

With Love,

Deputy T Michalak
Medina County Sheriffs Office

October 20, 2006

Dyke, I have been visiting your site each day, just have not left anything for a long time. Was thinking of you as I watched a slide show of the Deputy in Florida that joined you on the streets of Heaven. In a few short months we will be at the 5 year mark. Seems like yesterday I heard the news. Keep an eye on everyone down here.

Miss you

Jim Eggeman
Columbus Police

October 6, 2006

Watched the funeral of another "A.J." today.
Detective Jonathan(A.J.)Schroeder of Cleveland Pd. Couldn't help but to drift back to your funeral, and thoughts of our days as young cops... You are missed and we think of you often...


September 6, 2006

AJ I did not know you but my very close friend was your wife. Thank you for sacraficing yourself for the citizens you protected. You are a hero in my eyes as well as everyone elses. I know you are watching over DJ.

Sincerely, Sgt II Ann V Pickering

Los Angeles Police Department

July 24, 2006

We express our deepest sympathy to the family, friends and all the members of the Beaufort County Sheriff's Department. We were made safer by his service and we all suffer their tragic loss. The family of Corporal Coursen deserves our appreciation and gratitude for their sacrifice. No greater love has a man than the will to give his life for another. In the days to follow, may you be strengthened by the fact that Corporal Coursen is a man distinguished by exceptional courage and will always be admired for his brave deeds and noble qualities. You, your family and your sacrifice will never be forgotten.

Thomas Doyle
Cary Police Department, North Carolina

July 7, 2006

It has been so long, but not a day goes by that you don't cross my mind. You were always a PAL to me and helped me in more ways then anyone will ever know. It is are gone from this earth, but you continue to be that PAL by giving me your wife, DJ, to have a special friendship in my life. She has took over where you left off and I know you have a hand in that.
Thank you for watching over Derek and Derel as they perform their duties as U.S. Marines. I can still remember your last phone conversation with them. "Stay out of trouble, do good in school, and listen to your Mom".
I am positive you continue to be Abbie's gaurdian angel. You would love her spunk and "attitude".
Charlie and I have the twins, Adam and Nathan. If you were here with us you would grin and say "What the heck is going on up there?" I remember you saying that many times. I laugh each time I think about it.
Can't wait for the "Girls weekend" with DJ. I never get tired of her and I sharing memories of you.
I know you have a hand in DJ's present happiness and I think that is something special for her. She deserves it.
I miss you and look forward to seeing you again someday.

Jill Michalak
Your "PAL"

May 24, 2006


Today, I meet someone that understands me. YOU. I had been in Washington, D.C. to honor my husband, Sgt. Roy Gonzalez, Jr. of the Franklin Parish Sheriff's Office in Winnsboro, LA. After boarding the plane in D.C., I noticed a very attractive lady sitting one seat behind me to the side. Immediately, I noticed her red rose from NPW.

I began talking to her. Through her grief and her wisdom, I felt so much better about my husbands death. Just talking to someone that has walked a mile in my shoes means so very much. People say that they understand our loss but until you have lost a husband or wife in the line of duty, you have no idea ! I just had to tell you thank you for taking your time today and talking to me like you did. You will never know how much you helped me. May others find comfort and peace through you.

Thanks C.J.

Cpl Coursen, you are an angel for us always but your wife was my angel today.

Find my husband and the two of you can walk a beat on Heaven's street.

Rest in peace Cpl. Coursen.

Shelley Gonzalez

Wife of Fallen Officer, Sgt. Roy Gonzalez, Jr.

May 17, 2006

I was a rookie on Jan. 8th. Such a rookie that I hadn't even been issued a uniform from Hartley. I was riding with (now) Sgt. Heany on HHI when we headed north. Heany and I were on a perimeter (which actually stopped us from running into loser guy). Heany had to give me a traffic vest to wear to identify myself. I never knew you or Tate, but my prayers are with your family.

L. Cpl. Rhett Parnell

February 16, 2006

Dyke, just wanted to stop by. I have been thinking about you the last few days. We had an officer shot, but she was wearing her vest and the vest stopped the round. I am sure you and everyone else was keeping an eye on her that day.

Keep us safe down here, I miss you

Jim Eggeman
Columbus Police Department

February 2, 2006

Dyke, I can't believe it has been four years now. Just want to say I miss and think about you. Well brother I just wanted to say hi. Keep watching over all of us and god bless.

Officer Bob Swope #5609
Olmsted Falls Police Dept. Ohio

January 15, 2006

Another year has past without you. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about you, I miss you so much.

I will always love you,DJ

January 8, 2006


Another year without you, it doesnt seem like 4 years yet it seems you have been away forever, I miss you and everything about you, I still ask why but yet I guess the answer to that will never be the right one for me.
You are watching over our men like that is your first priority, thank you for keeping the men in Lorain County safe, we bless you and know your help is the thing that gets us all through, I love you Dyke, and that wont ever change, and missing you never ends.

love forever,

January 8, 2006


Just wanted to stop by to wish you a Merry Christmas. I have been thinking about you this holday. Keep an eye on us down here.

Miss you Dyke

Jim Eggeman
Columbus Ohio Police Dept

December 23, 2005

AJ, Just thinking of you today and thought i would drop in. Miss you everyday. Thank you for watching over us.

Lacey Wilburn

September 17, 2005


Just thinking of you and thought I would drop in. Realy miss talking to you.

Columbus Ohio Police Department

August 4, 2005

My fiancé, Dennis McElderry, was the first law enforcement casualty of 2003. Dennis was a Deputy Sheriff with the Davis County Sheriff's Office in SE Iowa. Dennis died doing a job he loved, just as I'm sure AJ did. It saddens me to know that Dennis was not the first to die in the line of duty, nor will he and AJ be the last to die this way.

Having gone through the pain of losing Dennis I can truly understand and feel the pain that Corporal Coursen's family, friends, and co-workers must have gone through in losing him. My heart goes out to you all,especially to his wife. No one can truly understand the pain of our loss until they've walked in our shoes. Please know that my thoughts are with you and that you are not alone in your "journey". Should you ever need anything please do not hesitate to contact me. (Dennis' department will also always know how to reach me.)

As a fallen officer "survivor" and a friend, please accept my condolences on behalf of myself and the McElderry family. I never got the opportunity to know AJ but from reading these reflections I am certain AJ was well respected and well loved. AJ will live on in the hearts of all the lives he touched. You were all blessed to have had him be a part of your lives, even for a short time. I'm sure AJ continues to watch over us all as only he can.

Thank you Corporal Coursen for a job well done and for helping to make this world a safer place for us all. Please say "hello" to my fiancé Dennis for me.

Wishing you brighter and better days,

Jocelyne :)

Jocelyne Brar (Winnipeg, MB Canada)
Fiancée of Deputy Sheriff Dennis Ray McElderry (EOW: 01/03/03)

July 10, 2005

I think of you often. I watched the Peace Officers Memorial on CNN this weekend and it brought back alot of memories. Keep watching over us.


May 16, 2005

To a friend and Brother, It's been three years now and I think of you all the time. I know when I go to work, that you are watching over me. You are a true hero. God bless you and your family in SC and Ohio.

Officer Bob Swope #5609
Olmsted Falls Police Dept. Ohio

May 12, 2005

Dyke, I remember you at the strangest times, like this evening, a snowy Saturday in April. I don't know why, but I hope it happens to other people too, so your memory will live on. Of course, I remember you when I go to locations where we went on calls together and everytime I hear "knockin' on heavens door". I remember you as a fellow firefighter too, each time the pager goes off at 3 in the morning. But it is times like this that affect me the most, because I remember you for no reason. I know it's because you are watching over me. My silent partner forever, Thanks A.J.

Ptl. Steve Chapman
Oberlin PD

April 23, 2005

Everytime I come here and see your picture a chill comes over me. Dyke, we miss you so much and wish you were here to see the changes in our lives. You are in our hearts daily and even though you couldn't be at our wedding, you were there beside us during the toast to you and you were watching as the mention of your name brought tears throughout the room. We know you were there through the night partying with all of your friends. A big hug from both of us till we see you again.

Dan and Roberta
LaGrange, OH

March 10, 2005

I still remember you dressed up as a biker hoodlum. I didn't get to know you as well as I should have. A lesson learned. Like I said to Dana, I think you were watching over me and Parnell that day. Thanks.
Rest easy, my brother, we got it from here.

Sergeant Kevin Heany
Beaufort County Sheriff's Office

March 2, 2005

I cant believe its been so long. I still sit here and tears stream down my face. You are the reason I do my job and try to protect as many officers as I can. I always call an officer to check 10-61 and hold my breath until they answer, when they don't I sometimes get angry but then I think of how easy the situation can turn worse. And then they answer "dispatch i am 10-61" and I feel so relieved. AJ I miss your funny stores and your great sense of humor,even your Kermit the frog Voice on the radio, and I truely miss you. You are forever in my heart, God Bless you for everything you sacrificed on that terrible day. I will never forget Jan 8th, 2002.

Lacey Wilburn
Beaufort County Dispatch

February 28, 2005

We miss you today as much as we missed & hurt for you 1/8/2002.
Our sons,Derek and Derel,will be at Parris Island for Marine Boot Camp in September. Having them so far away during this time will be very hard. Knowing they will have DJ and your parents so close if they need them makes us feel so much better.
They are looking forward to being in Beaufort near your family and near you.
We know you will be watching over them and protecting them as you did in LaGrange when they were kids. Please take care of them.

Charlie,Jill, and Abbie
Ohio Friends

February 1, 2005

Dyke buddy. It has been 3 years. Man I miss you. Everytime I drive home for a visit and go thru LA Grange I still look over at the fire station looking for your truck. 2 of my co workers have joined you on the streets of heven. Officer Melissa Foster and Officer Bryan Hurst. You three now watch over all of us.

Dyke I miss talking to you, I miss when we worked together.

You are a True Hero

Columbus Ohio Police Department

January 13, 2005

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