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Lieutenant Monica Carey

Clayton Police Department, North Carolina

End of Watch Friday, September 14, 2001

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Reflections for Lieutenant Monica Carey

Rest In Peace Sister in Blue. Thank you and your family for your sacrifice and service.

Officer Mike Robinson (Ret.)
Upland Police Dept. CA

September 14, 2018

"Hey Girl"
Hard to believe that 16 years ago tomorrow I was sitting at your table eating supper and it was the last time I would ever see you on this earth. I will see you again and tell you that you have been missed.

Lt. Owens

September 11, 2017

I don't get to Clayton much these days, not since I moved. I see the memorial at Bojangles and my heart aches. It aches because she lost her life a couple weeks after finding my infant son who had been kidnapped. Thank you heavenly father for people like her. She assured me that everything was going to be alright and it was. My son is now 15 and a wonderful person. (He does not know about this).

She was born to make a different in people's lives. Thank you Clayton PD.

A Mother
A Friend

June 8, 2016

Hey momma it's been 13 years now. Doesnt really seem like it though. I'm doing well. I'm still on the same squad on patrol and still have the best Sgt. I think about you everyday. I just wanted to say I love you and miss you.

Your son

Deputy Justin Shingleton
New Hanover Sheriff's Office

September 14, 2014

RIP Warrior. My prayers for your family and your brother and sister officers.

Jerry Boyd Chief of Police-Retired
Martinez, CA

September 14, 2014

Time goes by so fast! I remember Monica or LT Carey when she first got hired at the Wilmington Police Department. She did everything. I went down into the property section to get evidence to go to court, and of course, I had been at the PD for 10 yrs. I didn't have my stuff together, and she told me when you get the paperwork right, I will give it to you. She put me in my place. To Justin, Meghan, I retired last year from the WPD, you have a special Mom in heaven. And to your grandma and grandpa, they raised a angel in heaven that was taken from us too soon. It was a privilege to know Monica. May the Lord Bless you all and keep you.
Remember this.
"There is no greater love but to put your life down for others".
LT Carey went above and beyond the call for duty.
We, Fellow Law Enforcement Officers will always keep her and yours in our memories

SGT Jason R. Tyson (Retired)
Wilmington Police Department Wilmington NC

January 10, 2014

The years may pass on but I never forget that day. It was the worst day of my life and all I had to go through. You lost your life and gained a Heavenly one. I'm forever grateful for our friendship and your family over the years. Please keep watch until we all meet again one day.
Thank you for your service my friend.

Crissy O
former Cya Dispatcher

September 15, 2013

Thinking of you and all of your loved ones today. Continue to keep watch over all of them. You are a true hero and heroes never die.

Bob Gordon
Father of Fallen Chicago Officer: Michael P. Gordon, EOW: 8/8/04

September 14, 2013

I sure miss you my friend. Days like today knowing we had to say good bye to another dear friend and loved Clayton Officer I worked with makes it no easier for anyone. I know you and Joe are happy together again and when this Joe meets you at those pearly gates tell him we love him and will miss all 3 of you dearly ever so much. Heaven sure has some great officers guarding those gates cause Lord knows ya'll 3 did a wonderful job down here.

Crissy O
former dispatcher cpd

June 10, 2013

From a brother at WPD.

Frank Kienast
Gunnery Sergeant, USMC (Retired)

February 1, 2013

Here we are another year gone by, this is always such a tough week. I think of you and the kids often and pause in front of your old house all the time. Good thoughts and God bless.

Deputy S.P.Lapsley
Wake County Sheriffs Office

September 17, 2012

Your heroism and service is honored today, the 11th anniversary of your death. Your memory lives and you continue to inspire. Thank you for your service. My cherished son Larry Lasater was a fellow police officer who was murdered in the the line of duty on April 24, 2005 while serving as a Pittsburg, CA police officer.

Time never diminishes respect. Your memory will always be honored and revered. I pray for solace for all those who called you beloved for I know both the pain and pride are forever.

Rest In Peace.

Phyllis Loya
Mom of fallen California Officer Larry Lasater, Pittsburg PD, eow 4/24/05

September 14, 2012

Hey Momma,
Only a couple days till your birthday. Im at work today and I just wanted you to know that I think about you every day. I know you are with me on every call. i am on the best squad and have the best supervisors. There are two female deputies on my squad (my sgt and a deputy) and they remind me of you and how you would put people in their place no matter how big they were. You are loved and missed every day. I just hope that I can be half the officer that you were. I have only been on patrol for 6 months and I still have a lot to learn. I still talk to some of your guys at Clayton. Most of then turned into old farts and retired. JG is still there, he is a Capt. T is a Sgt. But all of them are doing well and they are think about you every day too. Well I got to get back to work. I love you and tell Joe “If you can’t kill the turkey, you kill the turkey” he will know what you mean.

Love you,
your son

Deputy Sheriff Justin Shingleton
New Hanover Sheriff's Office

August 5, 2012

Dear Monica, it doesn't seem like it's been 10 years ago. More like yesterday. I only new you for a short while. But I can still remember you face and smile. Shortley after you came to Clayton Police Depart. I was forced to take early retirement due to my health. So srry, I wasn't there with you that day. But it will always be a day not forgotten. And you want be forgotten. My prayers are with your family everyday. RIP Sister. I know your in a safer place.

D.A.R.E. Sergeant Bonnie J. Oliver
Retired - Clayton Police Department

March 9, 2012

Hi Monica! A word from your mountain briend, to remind you that you will never be forgotten. You were a heckuva cop! RIP sister!

Chief John Millan (RET)

March 5, 2012

Hello my sweet baby girl... Can't believe this is the 10th. anniversary since you left us...The good Lord only knows how much you are still missed..But you know what Monnie? Its a little better knowing that you and Joe are together again.. He had missed and mourned you so much for so long. We all miss him just as much.. Joe and I had lots of talks together. I tried to have suppers for him when he'd come back from Fla. or Kinston..He will ALWAYS be a part of this family. Daddy & I went to the cemetery yesterday and cleaned up and put a bud vase of pink roses.Today Meghan & I spent the day together and had lunch and then went to the cemetery to meet Justin when he got off work. We carried another bouquet of roses and daisies.. Just missed Missy Justin said. I guess you know she still comes by and has coffee on Friday mornings with you.What a wonderful friend you have there and from all over thinking of you today.Your kids are so grown up now..Justin is trying hard to get in ERT.I pray that he will. He's always wanted to be in SWAT. Meghan is continuing her education and wanting to get into medical profession. We still try to look after them like their still young..Were so proud of the way they have become such fine young persons. Please watch over all of us and the officers in Clayton and everywhere else. Until we meet again my sweet little girl know that we love and still miss you terribly. I know you and Joe are very happy now. With all our love, Momma & Daddy

Bill & Kitty Williams
Mom & Dad

September 14, 2011

Well today is 10 years. I didn't think it would come this fast. I spent the day with Nana and we went to visit you today and put out gorgeous roses. Justin met us there when he got off. You'd be so proud of him. I know I am. He is one great brother and has followed your foot steps in persuing law enforcement. For me well I can't do law enforcement, too scary and just heartbreaking. I am in school to get my RN degree. It has been tremendously hard today because not only have I not been able to have my momma for 10 years, I lost daddy 7 months ago. I know you are having the time of yur life with him. I try and stay in contact with Jon Gerrell ( my long time love as you would always say :) ) and others at the department as well. When I go to Clayton I always make it necessary that I stop at the department and see everyone and spend time with Jon. Yes he is still my favorite. I love you momma and till we meet again, rest in peace and have fun in heaven with daddy having the time of yalls lives. I LOVE YOU!

Love, your one and only Monkey <3

Meghan Shingleton

September 14, 2011

Ten years seems like such a long time, but feels like yesterday. Missing you.

Angela Lee
Clayton PD

September 14, 2011

We'll here I go again the same sore sad reminder I get every year about this time. I will never get over it. I am thankful for all the times we shared as friends on and off duty it meant alot to me and you taught me alot. I'm sticking with my schooling just as you did. I try to keep contact with Meg and Justin they have grown up great you would be so proud I know I am. I know you and Joe have had alot of catching up to do and he doesn't miss you because he is right beside of you now.

I hope you know how much I miss you and I worked so hard that day alone when you left us. I did not forget what you said to me that morning and all I can say is thanks and I did.


Crissy Oravits
Former TC of Clayton PD/Family Friend

September 13, 2011

Oh Monica you are still so missed and thought of. I can't believe you have been gone from us for a decade, that morning will live with me forever. Your kids have grown into adults and are both wonderful, I am am sure because you have been there looking over them. I miss you and it is a lesser world without you here. Til we meet again my friend.

Deputy S.P.Lapsley
Wake County Sheriff's Office

September 13, 2011

Hugged Meghan (aka Monkey) and shook Justin's hand yesterday at Capt. Carey's funeral service in Kinston. You would be proud of those kids (young adults). They are so respectful. They are doing well.


February 12, 2011

Finding comfort today...Sad to hear of Joe's passing , but comforted to know that you and Joe are together in heaven.

Clayton PD Animal Control Officer/Friend

February 9, 2011

Sad news to report about Monica's husband, Joe Carey. We have received word that he has passed away, and will soon be buried next to Monica. I will post funeral service information when it is received.


February 8, 2011

"Hey Girl"
Who knew that those two words would set you on fire that day long long ago! I thank God every day that you found it in your heart to forgive me and give me a chance. How many people have a letter that starts off "Thanks for your application to this department...." and then turn around and get hired after all! I know it turned into a joke between us but trust me, I got the message! I never got around to saying it... Thank You.
I saw Megan the other day at the PD, She stopped by and talked with Jon G and I for a long time. She has grown into you...not quite as tall but she sure does have your fire!
I wonder every day just how different life would be around here if you were still here. Lots of new faces and a bunch still the same.
We miss you.

Lieutenant J.L. Owens
Clayton Police Department

January 21, 2011

Thinking of you and all of your loved ones today. Continue to keep watch over all of them, protect them from harm. You have not been forgotten.

"When someone you love becomes a memory, the memory becomes a treasure." Author Unknown

Bob Gordon
Father of Chicago Officer: Michael P. Gordon, EOW: 8/8/04

September 14, 2010

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