Family, Friends & Fellow Officers Remember...

Police Officer Brian Joe Ramey

Bladenboro Police Department, North Carolina

End of Watch Saturday, May 12, 2001

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Reflections for Police Officer Brian Joe Ramey

Brian, I miss you kind, gentle presence. I still wish you didn't have to go. Your dedication to what was right and just mirrors my own, and there's few people to understand that mindset. I wish we could have had yet another conversation before you left for heaven. Please watch over me as you talk quietly with Daddy, Mom, Granpa and Granma. I will see you when God takes me home.

Laura Ramey
Elder Sister- Retired Cardiac Nurse, Granma and Artist.

November 25, 2022

BJ another year has come and gone in life. Can not say it is any easier than the first. I love you and when the day comes I pray we can be joined in the heavens above and may we be able to sit and talk and laugh but this time not on the manure pile and not pulling the fly wings off like when I had you before you moved and I was six! God bless you and rest easy BJ! --mouse

Sister, Marika Ramey Hankins
Most awesome youngest sister

May 14, 2022

Roy yo probably deserved it LOL. One thing about my brother BJ I know for sure was if you got him it was game on! LOL he loved his job so much, he loved the little community that had adopted him as his own and He was a Patriot through and through.
He went to the Army when I was a small child, like 5 or 6, since he was so much older than me, but I remember his letters home, the packages we would send and the sheer joy I had when he would return! He planned a time home as a surprise when I was the Grinch in the school play and one of the times i went up the mountain to my house in the play there he was! He got me. I loved him beyond measure even with all his little quirks he was tough as nails on me as a kid and I once walked all the horses all afternoon and did all the chores at 8 for putting a horse back wet and dirty. I remember to never do it again!

A good patriots day to you all who serve us, to those who can no longer serve and the patriots who passed on! We got it from here Bro.

Thanks BJ for all the years of support and love too bad we lost you so soon I could use a brother right now!
See ya on the other side save me a good seat next to Mom you have had her long enough.

Markie Mouse

marika hankins

September 11, 2021

Brian was a fine American, Veteran, and Police Officer. Yes he had his quirks as we ALL do but he was ALWAYS serious about his job ( except when he put pepper spray on my patrol car door handle) and loved being there to protedt those who needed help. Rest in peace Brother. Chicken biscuit!

roy day

June 14, 2021

Rest in peace Officer Ramey.

Rabbi Lewis S. Davis

October 12, 2020

I come here often, not just when we lose another officer in town. This is, of sorts, our grave to visit of sorts. We left you with your people in Bladenboro to be taken care of as you loved them and we didnt have the heart to being you to a strange place you never lived. there Mike, Chrystal and so many others could say hi. Your blue family.
Everytime we lose an officer here close by it does seem to scratch open the scar we feel of your loss more than anything. Nathan Lyday is being put to rest on Saturday, it is his fifth wedding anniversary, we lost you on mothers day. He was a good guy too. Volunteered in the community died saving a fellow officer protecting the public from a madman who was out to kill.
Also during this time, thanks for being one of the good guys we can teach kids to run to and not away from.

Your biggest fan and youngest sister Marika

marika hankins

June 5, 2020

Rest in heavenly peace

Mark Mottola

May 12, 2020

My dearest Brother Brian. You were my best friend, Athos to my Dartagnon. I have been so lost without my best friend. My boys, fiance and friends hear about you often and laugh at the stories of our Shenanigans.

My late husband is with you and Daddy now. You're probably having a grand BBQ and swapping stories. You all are now spoken highly of by the South African family and the American family gives you great honor. We have hung your pictures in houses in the USA and in the lodge house near the Kruger National Park. The boys wish they could have spent our lifetimes, and adventures, together with you. You would have loved the places we would have taken you.
Miss your face.
Your Sister
Cass Holke (nee Ramey)

Cassidhe Holke

November 22, 2019

My friend lost his life trying to help me. Traumatic. I lost my hearing in my right ear because i fell on my knees in front of my Patrol car. Stays on my mind constantly. It was me chasing that car. I can't forgive myself for it. I drank coffeee with him the night before and thanked me for our friendship. I live in SC now but i try to keep his final resting place up..i put flowers on his head stone and put a couple of solar lights pointed to his head stone.

William Thompson

October 29, 2019

Ramey, you will remain in my heart for the rest of my days here on earth. The very first time our eyes met I knew you were a special person..time spent together proved that you were a great man, a wonderful positive Male role model for the children in your community. Our time spent together will forever be cherished. There will never be another person who touched my soul and my heart the way you did Brian!!! You were taken way too soon, but you shared with me one thing and that resonates with me every day!! Thank you for our memories and until we meet again! When I go through Bladenboro my heart sinks every time I see a squad car I just want to see you one more time!

Forever and Always

April 14, 2019

I miss my friend. Had coffee the night before. He was helping me. It will haunt my heart the rest of my days.

Trooper WB Thompson

March 13, 2019

Brian today an officer was killed in south salt lake and all of the memories came flooding back. My eyes leak the feelings of loss and missing your voice. Luckily I still can remember its sound. I wish i could not remember the officer confirming on my vacation you had passed, how police cars would flash their lights as my van with the yellow ribbon on the antenna sped through Idaho and home into UT just to confirm it was true with mamma. Packing , 1000's of officers in dress uniforms all the white gloves left the folded flags and the apology of a police force on behalf of a town a world away who could never repay for a brother who answered car questions (ps my check engine light is on- but you can't answer if i called),gave guy advice and mostly bossed me around. Lol. Everytime another officer dies its like the break in my heart hurts all over again. Another funeral a dinner tp deliver in a few weeks and a family who will slip into anonimity another name added to a wall and another senseless death committed by yet another bad guy who they "were waiting to meet to press charges for." Had he been charged another officer would be at work and a baby a dad and less hearts will be broke.
Be safe patrolling the streets of heaven brother.
Eternally your sister

Marika ,
most awesome youngest sister

November 26, 2018

BJ another year has come and gone do quickly. Your niece is driving almost and the other id a teenager. They have the mischievious Ramey smile. Your lsugh and love of hats and boots. H LOVES korean music and E loves to move like a white girl. We miss you tremendously and the girls hear about you often!

M hankins Sister

May 13, 2017

Time may have passed but you are not forgotten. I believe as long as someone remembers you or speaks your name, you are still with us.
Thank you for your heroism.
God Bless

Detention Officer A.Zambito

May 12, 2015

Happy Memorial Day in Heaven. Thank you for serving this country and for being one of the best men I've ever known. Today around my neck I am wearing your dog tags. I think about you always and will never forget!


May 26, 2014

Letter to my Brother Brian:
We lost you so many years ago, My Beautiful Boy. My Protector, My shield, My Brother, My Best friend. It still hurts that you are gone. I think of you whenever there are hard times. My only comfort is that you finally got to meet Eric on the Other Side. I hope you and Daddy, Grandpa, Gran, Rosie, Nessa and Frankie were nice to him and the boys at the meeting. I am sure you are all having a grand time fishing, singing Faire songs, drinking the best beer as you could only find and eating Eric's too spicy of food.

I miss our middle of the night talks when we both knew we needed each other's assurances that everything was going to be ok. That we had each other to lean on; not only because we had to, because we were family, but, because we WANTED to, we were that close of friends. I still remember the Army Sergeant who gave me his Medals to hang onto when ever he visited to "keep me safe". You were my safety net when I needed one. I only hope I was the same for you when you needed me.

Please take care of everyone there. Eric tends to get more mischievous than Dad when he's had a few; he tends to run around half naked screaming "The Truth is Naked!" and I can only imagine the trouble you and he will get up to with the children. Try not to find the Nymphs to get a Blue a Blue Ribbon tied, for I know you are wearing the kilt I gave you. I will get there eventually. I will be very late. Not like me, I know, but, I am doing what you wanted me to do and am trying to have fun and a good life.

Safe a spot for me Brother. I Love you.

Cassidhe O Holke

May 14, 2013

I went to BLET in Sanford, NC with Brian in 1994. That's when & where we started our law enforcement careers. It broke my heart when I heard what happened. Brian I only knew you for 16 weeks & then we went our separate ways, but you will never be forgotten.

Sgt. E.T. Suttles

November 30, 2012

I never met you but I was hired in your position at Bladenboro Police Dept. A few months after I started Chief Russ told me why he hired me being fresh out of BLET instead of other more qualified applicants. Chief Russ said he was asking, Lt. M. Hester about me and the Lt told Chief Russ that Chief had a picture of me on his desk. The Chief picked it up and it was my marriage announcment on the back of the news article of how you died (my photo behind yours). That story coming from Chief Russ made the hair on the back of my neck stand up. I still think of it to this day and of you and how fortunate I was to start my career with BPD. I work as a narcotic inv. with Elizabethtown PD now, and a couple of years ago I realized that your call number was 405 and my number is 105. All things happen for a reason, and I know that you are watching over us in the mother county. Rest in Peace Brother.

Det. Sgt. K. Hester
Elizabethtown PD

June 12, 2012

Brian,another year has passed. Hailey is 11 and Emily is 9 now. How the years have gone by so fast! We miss you so much. I am seperated from Brian now and getting a divorce. I know if this man hadn't taken your life and you were still here things may have ended differently... who knows. I think of you often every time i see a police car or the sirens in the distance, hear of a high speed chase or an officer down. Recently 6 officers got shot here in Utah and 1 died. It makes me think of you and what the days were like after you died. I hope they do well, we pray for them every day. We miss you and luv ya BJ. take care.

marika, most awesome youngest sister

January 15, 2012

Dear Uncle Brian,

Your death came as shock to me as I just Googled our family name. You may not remember me as much but I'm Kodee, your sister Leslie's daughter. I wish I got to know better and the rest of my family. I talked to Auntie Marika about you last Christmas when grandma died. I would like to use this as a way to come in contact with all my other relatives so if any of you read this please contact me through my email [email protected]



September 20, 2010

Brian, I am so proud of the choices you made in your life, you grew into a man of integrity,kindness and compassion. I miss you. I know you are with God, Dad and now Mom, and see all things with all understanding. Thank you for choosing to be my little brother. I love you.

Laura Ramey

August 27, 2010

It has been a long time since I have heard your voice, and still longer since I have felt your touch. If only I had known that would be our last phone call, I would have stayed on the line forever. I miss you more than words could ever say. You were my best friend, my one and only true love. I love you more now than ever, but then you could always read my thoughts, so you already know that. You loved your job, and you were good at it! I miss you, and need you soo much. Crystal


January 19, 2010

Your heroism and service is honored today, the 8th anniversary of your death. Your memory lives and you continue to inspire. Thank you for your service to my home state and the birthplace of my son. My cherished son Larry Lasater was a fellow police officer who was murdered in the line of duty on April 24, 2005 while serving as a Pittsburg, CA police officer.

Time never diminishes respect. Your memory will always be honored and revered.

Rest In Peace.

Phyllis Loya

Phyllis Loya
mother of fallen officer Larry Lasater

May 12, 2009

My Dearest Brother,

It has been 7 years since Steven and I lost you. We miss you terribly! We have again lost another loved one; he is with you and daddy on your extended fishing trip with G~d. Treat my husband Sgt. Eric Holke like a brother and occasionally allow him to beat you at poker please. He always wished he could have met you and daddy, I guess he got his wish.

Love ya always! Keep some cold ones for me bro! I will be fashionably late as usual!

Your sis,

Cassidhe Holke (aka Sara Ramey)

June 25, 2008

Whats up Brother Brian. I'm sorry to have missed the anniversity of your passing it's been 7yrs now. I have a hard time still thinking about it. I sure miss you and I talk about you often. We all miss you Mom, Grandma, AJ and myself. In the 18yrs I1ve been in law enforcement I have never found anyone else that I can trust as much as I trusted you. We were the true brothers in blue. We all still talk abot how you call my grandmother, grandma and my mother, mama. Brian since your passing I know you've seen that things just hasn't been the same and I guess it never will. We miss you Brian and Love You. When the day comes for me to come home as soon as I get settled in I'll look you up and we can do some catching up. Love You Brother.

Ptm. Michael Adkins
Chadbourn Police Department

May 17, 2008

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