Family, Friends & Fellow Officers Remember...

Corrections Officer Mylene G. Zalar

California Department of Corrections and Rehabilitation, California

End of Watch Thursday, September 11, 1997

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Reflections for Corrections Officer Mylene G. Zalar

Mylene, you were truly a joy to work with and exemplified CDC'S Finest. While you and Paul may be gone, you are not forgotten. Rest in Peace. #CIM'SBest#CDC'SFinest

Jesse Gogo
Correctional Sergeant
CIM-RCC (1997)

CCIII Jesse Gogo
California Department of Corrections

April 9, 2020

Rest In Peace Sister LEO. Thank you and your loved ones for your sacrifice and service.

Officer Mike Robinson (Ret.)
Upland Police Dept. CA

September 11, 2018

On the 21st anniversary of your tragic work-related death, I Googled: "The 5 Stages of Grief." The 5th and Final Stage of Grief is called "Acceptance." I now "Accept" your untimely death.

D. Caldwell, Jr., State Parole Agent
California Department of Corrections

September 11, 2018

Dear Mylene;

...21 "Memorial Days" earlier we saw each in person and ate supper together in Riverside, California...
...In less than 101 calendar days later you were killed in a tragic work related auto accident...
...Yet 21 "Memorial Days" later there's NOT a day that goes by without thinking about beautiful you...

Still Miss You And Love You So Much;

D. Caldwell, Jr.
California Parole Agent

D. Caldwell, State Parole Agent
California Department of Corrections

May 28, 2018

I remember like it was yesterday and I think of you today.

Officer Louie Ordaz-Retired
California Department of Corrections

May 25, 2018

...25 Valentine Days ago you introduced me to your biological mother and step-father...
...25 Valentine Days later I'm placing flowers on your grave site...
...In the Book of Proverbs, Chapter 10, Verse 6, it states in part that, ..."The memory of the righteous is blessed"...(and so it is STILL with you inside of me even a quarter of a century later)...

STILL MISS AND LOVE YOU SO MUCH;

D. Caldwell, Jr.
California State Parole Agent

D. Caldwell, Jr. , State Parole Agent
California Department of Corrections

February 14, 2018

Mylene,

Thank you for the wonderful memories of us working together at Press-Enterprise newspaper and our time in classes at RCC 1981-1982. I would not have had so much fun at RCC without you suggesting what classes I should take.

Sam Garrard
Friend

September 11, 2017

September 11-Monday-2017 @ about 03:45 a.m.

Dear Mylene;

...20 years ago today at about this time....
...20 years later today at about this time...
...I still MISS you and I still LOVE you...

Dean Caldwell, Jr.
Chino, California

D. Caldwell, Jr. , State Parole Agent
California Department of Corrections

September 11, 2017

May 29-"Memorial Day (Monday)"-2017

Dear Mylene;

20 years ago today you were kind enough to have invited me over to your parents home on "Memorial Day (Monday)."

As I left at around 6pm to go back home to get ready for my last week at work for my State of California job in Los Angeles before moving to another part of California (3 hours away) for a promotional opportunity that I had accepted about 2 week earlier with an effective date of June 02, 1997.

I "knew" that this would probably be the "last time" that I would "see you in person" for at least a year.

Less than 4 months later you and your co-worker had both died in a work related auto accident near Stockton, California which is about 6 hours north of where your parents lived at in Southern California.

Attending your funeral along with thousands of other of your co-workers, I cried as they did during your Eulogy in that Lutheran Church that you attended near your home. There was so many of your friends at your gravesite that I literally could NOT see when they lowered your casket into the ground.

Last February of 2016, I attended your biological mother's funeral as she was buried adjacent to you that your younger brother had organized along with his wife. That was the 2nd time that I visited your gravesite since September 11, 1997 when I had moved back to the Ontario, California area. Two days after your mother was buried, I drove back to your gravesite and took 21 photos of your metal grave marker. Once those photos were developed, I then mailed them out to your brother, and to some of yours and mine common co-workers, many of whom had since retired from their State jobs and moved out of California. That was my 3rd visit to your gravesite.

This morning I drove out to see for the 4th time now. I bought a floral arrangement of 7 pink Tulips from Walmart to place on your grave. Somebody else had just put 2 different potted flower plants onto your grave before I got there today at around 9 am. (I think they must have been placed by your only brother who also must STILL miss you like crazy as I do). Before I got out of my V.W. car, I told myself that I was NOT going to cry this time. And I didn't.
I took 21 more photos of today's visit and took the film afterwards to the CVS Pharmacy in Chino, California to get developed.

20 years later, Mylene, I don't know what else to say.

Except that you were a good Christian woman, a great State of California employee who was also going to be promoted after having just scored extremely well on a Statewide promotional exam and that you would have made some lucky person a wonderful Proverbs, Chapter 31 wife.

Mylene, I didn't CRY over you this morning not because I didn't want to. But instead because there are no more tears left inside of me after mourning your tragic death so many times in between this visible/invisible time gap of these last 20 consecutive years.

We first met in person in December of 1992. And we last met in person on "Memorial Day (Monday)" in 1997.

Yet I can still visualize very clearly your big smiles and your beautiful blue eyes set against the backdrop of your long, gorgeous red hair.

You were so perfect and I was so imperfect.

In closing, it was love at first sight for me back in December of 1992. And nearly 25 years later, I still think about you at least several times a day.

Love;

Dean Caldwell, Jr.
STATE PAROLE AGENT

D. Caldwell, Jr. , State Parole Agent
California Department of Corrections

May 29, 2017

Dear Mylene;

24 years ago this day (December 07, 2016) I first met you in person.
And 24 years later your memory is still a "blessing" for me.
My only regret about our 3 1/2 year friendship that followed starting on December 07, 1992 is that you and I never married each other as we should have.

Love you eternally;

D. Caldwell, Jr; State Parole Agent
California Department of Corrections
December 07-Wednesday-2016

D. Caldwell, Jr. , State Parole Agent
California Department of Corrections

December 7, 2016

Dear Mylene G. Zalar;

Here it is 19 years later to the day of your last day here on this Earth as a beautiful woman and on your first day in Heaven as a beautiful angel.
There has not been a day since September 11, 1997 that I have not thought about you, Mylene.
Thank you, thank you, and thank you for having created so many blessed memories of you STILL 19 years later.
Love;

D. Caldwell, Jr. State Parole Agent
California Dept. of Corrections
September 11-Sunday-2016

D. Caldwell, Jr. , State Parole Agent
California Department of Corrections

September 11, 2016

Dear Mylene;

Today would have been your 54th birthday here on Earth.
Yet, instead it's now your 54th birthday up in Heaven.
You have know idea, MiMi, how much I still deeply regret that you and I never got married in 1997 like we should have.
My life would have been so much more happier and so much more better with you in it as my beautiful wife.
Love;
D. Caldwell, Jr.

D. Caldwell, Jr. , State Parole Agent
California Department of Corrections

July 8, 2016

Dear Mylene;

Almost 19 years later, I still miss you.

Love;

D. Caldwell, Jr.

D. Caldwell, Jr. , State Parole Agent
California Department of Corrections

May 18, 2016

"When a good man is hurt, all who would be called good must suffer with him.”

Euripides

Marshal Chris Di Gerolamo
Federal Air Marshal Service

September 18, 2015

Mylene, I feel comfort you were there with my Dad and he was there for you at that final moment. Thank you Mylene, I mourn both of you each and every day. I'm sad every day and never a day goes by that I don't think about you and my Dad. I salute you both.

Friend / P. Beridon's Daughter
Retired Huntington Park PD

February 8, 2015

...Nearly 17 and half years later, I still think of you every single day...
...And I still miss you like crazy...
...My life, since you're death has been okay, but it would have been so more better with you in it...
...Remember when I mailed you 14 Valentine's Day cards in February of 1993???...You're mom thought I was nuts!
...God, you were so beautiful and so smart, and so humble...Very few people knew that you also spoke fluent German, let alone, that you were born in Berlin, Germany...
...In closing, I still love you and I still miss you...(1/9/2015)

D. Caldwell, Jr.; State Parole Agent
California Dept. of Corrections

January 9, 2015

Rest in peace Sister. You will never be forgotten. Thank you so much for your service. The TU will always remember you.

H.J. Montoya Jr. Correctional Officer
Ca. Dept.of Corrections Southern Transportation Unit

October 2, 2014

Officer Zalar, you were a angel in a cesspool of hate and violence. Your smile , will be forever burned in my memory. You were the most happy , positive person I have encountered in 23 years. Your demeanolr was such a posive light on such a sorrowful place. Your family must be so proud to have raised such a wonderful women. rip and respect

parole agent II former cim
california department of corrections

May 4, 2013

Your heroism and service is honored today, the 12th anniversary of your death. Your memory lives and you continue to inspire. Thank you for your service. My cherished son Larry Lasater was a fellow police officer murdered in the line of duty on April 24, 2005 while serving as a Pittsburg, CA police officer.

Rest In Peace

Phyllis Loya

Anonymous

September 19, 2009

Rest in Peace, Officer Zalar. Your sacrifice is not forgotten.

Officer 11169

June 8, 2009

I knew little Mylee! She was a flower in a barbed wire mudhole! I'll never forget her enthusiasm and cheerful demeaner. She always complimented me, and her smiling face was refreshing! I was broken hearted when I heard the news of her untimely demise. So unfair! I'll always remember my little Mylee with great affection and sadness, too! God bless you forever, sweetheart! You were one of CDC's absolute best!

CC-I (ret) J. Schick
CDCR (CIM)

February 25, 2009

You are a true hero and have not been forgotten. Continue to keep watch over your loved ones and protect them from harm. Thank you for your dedicated service.

Bob Gordon
Father of Chicago Officer: Michael P. Gordon, EOW: 8/8/04

September 9, 2008

Thank you for your service, sister. We will never forget your sacrifice.

#71091
California Department of Corrections

April 9, 2008

Zalar, I know this reflection is a little late but nevertheless I remember you as if it was yesterday. I remember working the RC West yard with you when I was the R&R officer and you were an S&E. I remember your face, your smile, that great smile that would lift us all up. Man did you have energy, I remeber once you displayed a karate high kick that came up to my face, wow you were the best. With Paul, Gonzo, and yourself up there, heaven has some of our finest. God bless you and your family.

Sgt F. Quezada
CIM - California Dept. of Corrections

March 11, 2007

Rest in peace, Mam. You are not forgotten.

Police Officer

February 20, 2007

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