Family, Friends & Fellow Officers Remember...

Police Officer Ralph J. Stanchi

New York City Police Department, New York

End of Watch Sunday, June 17, 1973

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Reflections for Police Officer Ralph J. Stanchi

As a member of the TPF i remember being sent to the scene across from Harlem Hospital. The tragedy of Ralph's death was made worse because He died on Father's Day!. Ralph may you rest in peace

Ptl. Michael Stapleton

June 17, 2022

I served with Ralph in Viet-nam in 1967, we were both sergeants, but he was like my older brother. He was a really good soldier, really good friend and a really good person. I have thought of him often over all these years and miss him tremendously. RIP Stanch.

Jack Maxwell
Good friend from Viet-Nam

June 17, 2018

Ralph came to the 32 after a stint in Vietnam as an APC driver.
(armored personnel carrier). I flew helicopters in Vietnam so we were close. Ralph helped me panel my new home in Freeport. I was at summer camp with the New York Guard when Ralph died.
Rudy Guiliani was a first cousin of Ralph's. Ralph was dedicated to the people of Harlem who he served and protected. He is missed greatly by his brother officers.

PTL Tom Minerva

December 21, 2016

Time may have passed but you are not forgotten. I believe as long as someone remembers you or speaks your name, you are still with us.
Thank you for your heroism.
GOD Bless

Detention Officer A.Zambito

June 17, 2015

We worked together many times back in the 32 Pct. You were always a gentleman Ralph. May God keep you safe now...

Det Rodney Roncaglio
Retired NYPD

April 12, 2014

Ralph, miss you very much. You deserved the name CAPTAIN AMERICA.

Det. Brian Dubecky

June 17, 2013

Never forget our officers that have made the ultimate sacrifice .


June 15, 2013

40 Years. Not forgotten.
RIP Ralph


May 24, 2013

a real tragedy. a fine cop i was a sgt on patrol in 26 that day

lt bill weber

May 22, 2013

On June 17th, 2013 a 40 year memorial service will be held for Ralph at the 32 pct. I do not yet have a time for the service. I
am working with the PBA ON THIS.
Please let's try to have a big turn out to honor this great cop,
soldier, patriot, husband & father.
I think of him every day!! I miss him so!!!

N.Y.P.D. ----- Partner

April 10, 2013

To fully appreciate the heroes of the present, we must recognize our heroes of the past. Your heroism and service is honored today, the 39th anniversary year of your death. Your memory lives and you continue to inspire. Thank you for your service. My cherished son Larry Lasater was a fellow police officer who was murdered in the line of duty on April 24, 2005 while serving as a Pittsburg, CA police officer.

Time never diminishes respect. Your memory will always be honored and revered. Rest In Peace.

I pray for the solace of all those that love and remember you for I know both the pain and prie are forever.

Phyllis Loya
Mom of fallen California Officer Larry Lasater, Pittsburg PD, eow 4/24/05

November 24, 2012

My father Eddie always spoke about my uncle Butchy. Ralph was clearly the reason my father entered the force. I miss my father Eddie tremendously even after ten years, but i know he's with his mother, father, and brother in heaven, a family reunited.

Danielle Stanchi

August 3, 2011

I also worked with Ralphs BROTHER Eddie in the 83 and never had to worry about my back when he was there. RIP RALPH AND EDDIE.

You will never be forgotten.

Det. Bob Porter

July 16, 2011

RIP brother , gone but not forgotten

ret Det. louis Failla

June 18, 2011

I remember the day and facts that lead to your death. You are a true hero. God bless you. You are not forgotten.


February 10, 2010

I said a little prayer today for Police Officer Stanchi and his family. He may be gone but never forgotten. He will always be a New York HERO.

Robyn Wilkes

June 12, 2009



September 8, 2008

Met and became friends with Ralph while assigned to 6 ND office in 32 Pct. He was a great cop and a real gentlemen. Helped me on a few occasions get my car started with a jump start. He used to wait for me to leave to make sure I got going. I believe he was killed on Father's Day. To know what the job is about they should have new recruits look at wall of honor in 32 Pct.

Ret. Det JP Walsh

February 16, 2008

"The Badge"

He starts his shift each day
To respond to calls unknown.
He drives a marked patrol car.
A police officer he is known.

He's paid by the citizens' taxes
To make it safe on the streets.
But he usually has a second job
'Cause a waitress has his salary beat.

Now he doesn't know a holiday
'Cause he works all year round.
And when Thanksgiving and Christmas finally arrive
At his home he cannot be found.

He's cursed and assaulted often,
The one whos blood runs blue.
He seldom ever gets a thanks,
To some he's just a fool.

His friends are always other cops
'Cause people just don't understand
That underneath his badge and gun,
He's just another man.

He knows there might not be a tomorrow
In this world of drugs and crime.
And he gets so mad at the court system
'Cause the crooks don't get any time.

And each day when he leaves for work,
He prays to God above.
Please bring me home after my shift
So I can see the ones I love.

But tonight he stops a speeding car,
He's alone down this ole' highway.
It's just a little traffic infraction.
He does it everyday.

Well, he walks up to the driver's window,
And his badge is shining bright.
He asked the guy for a driver's license,
When a shot rang through the night.

Yes, the bullet hit its mark,
Striking the officer in the chest.
But the Department's budget didn't buy
Each officer a bullet-proof vest.

So he lay on the ground bleeding.
His blood wasn't blue - His blood was red.
And briefly he thought of his loved ones
'Cause in a moment the officer was dead.

In the news they told the story
Of how this officer had died.
And some who listened cared less,
But those who loved him cried.

Well, they buried him in uniform
With his badge pinned on his chest.
He even had his revolver,
He died doing his best.

Written By:
David L. Bell
Richland County Sheriff's Department
Columbia, South Carolina
Used with Special Permission of the Author
Copyright © 1999 - All Rights Reserved
and may not be duplicated without permission

Investigator David L Bell
Richland County Sheriff's Dept., Columbia, SC

December 20, 2007

I worked with Ralph's brother Eddie at the 83 Precinct in Brooklyn. Eddie was a level headed guy and a stand up cop. We all knew about his older brother Ralph and of course respected his honor and sacrafice. The news of Eddie's passing was tough on all. God bless Eddie....

K Mac

December 3, 2007

this hero should have more than one reflection assigned to him. r.i.p. PO Ralph Stanchi!


April 29, 2007

This officer's brother, Edward Stanchi was assigned to the 83rd precinct in Bushwick and tragically died of a heart attack in his 19th year of service in the year 2000.


April 16, 2004

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