Family, Friends & Fellow Officers Remember...

Deputy Sheriff Brian Edward Hayden

Choctaw County Sheriff's Office, Oklahoma

End of Watch Thursday, April 19, 2012

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Reflections for Deputy Sheriff Brian Edward Hayden

Hey Brother it’s still hard to believe it’s been 6 years, time just can’t seem to get easier I will always remember your help when I needed it your words of wisdom bits of advice the occasional butt chewing when I made a mistake how I would give for those days again you will always be in my thoughts and prayers till we meet again

Patrolman Shane Mustard
Carney police department Carney,Oklahoma

April 19, 2018

Hey brother, Happy Thanksgiving in heaven. Miss you so much, miss all the great times we had together. Finally have decided to go hunting again. It's going to be odd and sad at the same time. I'll miss the laughs and times we had together in the woods as much as anything. It's been tough dealing with you being gone all these years brother. I still find myself breaking down in tears at the thought of it. There has been so many changes you would love it. Anyhow I miss and love you brother. I'll see you when I get there. You keep the beer cold and the stool open for me and we will have a cold one when that time comes.

Investigator J. Greene
Nicoma Park Police Department

November 23, 2017

Still missing you brother!!!!

Logan Niles

April 19, 2017

Another year has passed brother and I miss you even more. Wish you could see the great things that have happened and the many changes that have taken place. I'll see you when I get there, love and miss you.

Sgt John Greene
Nicoma Park Police Department

April 19, 2017

Love and miss you brother. We shall have a toast to you tonight. See you when I get there.

Sgt John Greene
Nicoma Park Police Department

April 19, 2016

Not ready for tomorrow? It doesn't seem possible that it has been 4 years. Not a day goes by that you are not in my thoughts. Still remember our last conversation at the PD like it was yesterday. Rest in peace.

Friend/Former Dispatcher

April 19, 2016

Well brother I'm sorry it has been so long since I have left a reflection on here. I've tried two other ones here and they have yet to pop up. Miss and love you brother. It's so had to believe it has been four years in just a few days. I miss all the great times we had and even the arguments we had. I miss our times riding, hunting and fishing or just simply hanging together. It took me a long time to find a brother and I just wish I could have had many more years with you. It's still so hard to sit and talk about things you used to do out here. I'll listen as a person talks or tells a experience about you and I find even though I love hearing it I have to get up and walk away to hide the tears in my eyes. The pain has not faded much I four years but I imagine it may never. I still have your phone number in my phone and I find from time to time I look at it just wishing I could call you. To those that read this I'm sorry if this is in one of my other reflections or I repeat myself in a couple post. The other ones have not popped up yet and it has been two days. So just talking with my brother the only way I know how. Brian I miss and love you a ton. I'll see you when I get there.

Sgt. John Greene
Nicoma park police Department

April 17, 2016

Hello brother I sure miss you

Sgt. John Greene
Nicoma park police Department

April 17, 2016

Hello brother, it has been far to long since I left you a reflection on here. I come visit often and shed my tears in silence. Still miss you everyday, still have your number in my phone and look at it often wishing I could just call you to say hello. This time of year still gets very tough for me and I'm sure I'm not alone in that. You was and still are a very important person in many people's lives. You left an imprint on so many people's lives. I can only hope that when I get to sit with you again that I have touch half the lives that you did. That I inspired half as many people as you did and still do. It is so hard to believe it has been four long years. It is been four long years since I was able to laugh with you, hug you and just say love ya brother be safe out there. So many changes have taken place since you was taken from us, some good some bad. But I know you already know this because your are watching over us from up above. It's odd how I sit and find chatter from some of our old friends and we talk about the great memories you brought to them. Stacy Davis and I laugh and I still keep it alive about shaking the glass of ice and clinging the silver wear on our dishes to get her to fill that glass up for me. The funniest thing was just yesterday I found myself walking past a rookie officers patrol car out of Choctaw PD and I soul
T in my hand and rubbed it all over my hand and slapped my big handprint right on her windshield. She had no clue what it meant but as I walked away I mumbled that's from Brian. Brother I miss and will always love you. I'll see you when I get there.

Sgt. John Greene
Nicoma park police Department

April 16, 2016

Love and miss you brother, I wish you was standing next to me today. I always miss hearing your voice and being able to laugh and joke with you. See you when I get there brother, love you.

Sgt. John Greene
Nicoma Park Police Department

August 6, 2015

Hey Brother, sorry I couldn't get on here on the 19th and leave a reflection. I was honoring you in other ways. Brother life has changed in so many ways around here. I know you are up there looking down here just laughing and asking what the hell are yall crazy people doing.
Wish you was still here and we was able to just sit back and toss a few cold ones back and laugh about some of this crazy stuff. Even though you are not here in body we still get to have that drink from time to time just not how we used to. Miss and love you so much brother. Keep a spot open for me a the beer on ice. Ill see ya when I get there.

Sgt. John Greene
Nicoma Park PD, Brother

May 18, 2015


You were always such a great friend to me, you was my mentor you was always there to help me when I called. At times you was more a father figure to me than a brother. I am sorry I haven't wrote much, it still gets to me. I was told last week that as of the first of may, I will be getting promoted to the dank of Sergeant, I know I could not have done it with the strive and knowledge I gained from have working and most of all, knowing you. You always had faith in what I did and I will never forget that. Thank you so much for everything you did to help me.

patrolman Shane mustard
town of amber police dept

April 19, 2015

Brian I didn't know. We had gone to that OBN class then I never heard from you. You were an awesome person. I'm very glad that I had met you. We were from the first CLEET class in 2007. RIP Brother. You'll be missed.

Senior Officer Jack Hammons
Pawnee Police Department

January 22, 2015

Big Brian
Hey brother, it's Christmas and you've been in my thoughts and prayers a lot lately. I finally took your advice, I'm leaving for the police academy in a few weeks. I landed a job as a game warden back home. I wish you were here to talk to, but I know you're looking down, patrol cap on the back of your head just grinning. I imagine you saying, "About damn time." You'll never be forgotten brother.

SSgt Jeremy Ausmus

December 26, 2014

Holly, I know your dad is so very proud of you. You kids are all he ever talked about. I remember so many times when we would be going to the woods to hunt on those long cold morning drives. He would talk about his kiddos and break into such a big smile. Or when we would have down time on the job, he would brag about what one of you kids had done. The pain of his loss is as strong as it was the day 04-19-2012. I miss him so much. He was just like my brother I never had. I know he is in heaven and not alone. My mother and my pop are both with him now and I know he would be up there giving them both grief over something they had done. lol...... Brian I miss you brother please watch over us and protect us. I'll see you when I get there brother.

Sgt. John Greene
Nicoma Park Police Department

September 16, 2014

Moving into college in a week daddy! I wish more than anything that you could be there to move me in, but I know you're always with me in spirit. I miss you more everyday and mom keeps telling me how much I am like you in certain ways. I just hope you're resting easy and I am making you proud. Love you forever & always, your little princess.

Holly Hayden

August 24, 2014

Not a week goes by that I don't think about calling or texting you about some silly shit that's happened up north. Watts, Boles, Beuke, and I got together last month and told all sorts of Hayden stories. We're all doing well, you'd be proud. I miss you brother.

SSgt Jeremy Ausmus

April 19, 2014

Hey Buddy, It has been awhile. I am sorry for that. Brother I miss you everyday. I miss getting to work with you, getting to sit those long night and talk about everything that is going on in our city and about our lives. I miss going out in the woods and setting up for a great season of hunting. Just to spend all my time helping you drag out all the deer you would shoot, while I set in the stand falling a sleep and missing the deer. Most of all brother I miss getting to hug you and listen to you tell some crazy story. Love You Brother see you when I get there.

Sgt. John Greene
Nicoma Park Police Department

September 7, 2013

Officer Michael Schwarz, You are a wonderful Officer. Your reflection means a lot to him and to those that knew him well. I knew Brian for many years and loved him like he was my very own brother. Brian was and wonderful brother to have. I want to THANK YOU....

Sgt. John Greene
Nicoma Park Police Department

September 7, 2013

Hey, dude, I just came back from a visit with my uncle in Virginia. My brother and sister were also visiting and we decided to go sightseeing in Washington. I told them that we had to go to the National Law Enforcement Memorial because I knew that your name was on it and I had to see it. I told them all about you and we all found your name together. You are, and always will be, missed.

Sgt. Alan Davidofsky
Warr Acres Police/USAF Security Police

August 19, 2013

Sheriff Hayden, My name is Officer Michael Schwarz from the Edison Police Department in New Jersey. I will have the honor of riding in the Police Unity this week in your honor, with your patch on my Jacket and memorial bracelet on my wrist... you will not be forgotten!!!
We depart this friday from north jersey and begin a 3 day bike ride to Washington DC. You and tour family will continue to be in my thoughts.
"We ride for those that have died"

Edison nj

May 6, 2013

I'll be heading to Police Week in a few days to hear your name called out as it's added to the wall. I've been there before, but this time it's very different... you'll be a part of it, which just ain't right. I'll bring back stencils of your name so others may have them to remember you by. Looking forward to it, but not in a good way. See ya there bro.

Ofc Scheidemantel
Nicoma Park Police Dept.

April 29, 2013

You have touched so many people Brian. Your family is with you today and thank you for all the great memories. Ausmus, what a beautiful story and so true. God bless to all Brian's comrades!

MSgt Katherine Mahana
U.S. Air Forces, Security Forces

April 19, 2013

Big Brian,
I can’t believe it’s been a year. It’s so vivid it seems like last week but the amount of times I’ve started to call or text you make it feel like a lifetime. I’ve been here a few times since you left, reading and re-reading all the beautiful comments and memories. It’s taken a while but I think I’ve finally figured out what I wanted to say. 10 years, 1 month and 1 day ago would have been our 10 year anniversary in Egypt, in support of OIF; self-dubbed “Hayden’s Heroes.” You rolled the dice and took a rag-tag bunch of jeep Airmen to a “not involved” county in direct support of a full-fledged war effort. I remember finding out I was on your “bucket” and talking to MSgt Lindsey about how I was scared to have you as a Team Leader, since you had all that experience and were very direct (?). I’d never been your troop before but had a few Hayden ass-chewings in passing, which was enough for a lifetime. However I soldiered on and remember all your impromptu briefings about foreign weapons and lectures about Hussein’s history and family story. I was captivated, we all were, and from then on I knew I’d follow you anywhere, ass-chewings be damned. As the deployment evolved so did the learning. You never let us drop our guard (Forced ruck marches as a show of force) and were constantly teaching and showing us new things (You cut hair and play the guitar, among other things). Eventually at some smoke-pit far far away we became friends. There was a huge mutual respect formed between you and I. From then on we were confidants and dear friends. I’ve got so many memories from then, the Harley’s, the career development, the professional arguments at staff meetings. Some lessons were free, others you allowed me to learn the hard way and reminded me why you were the SNCO. You signed my paperwork as my trainer for my motorcycle endorsement since we’d rode hundreds of miles together and I’ve still got a nice burn spot on my pipes from that scar on your right calf. I deployed then PCS’d while you retired but even from far away you ‘d be there by phone or e-mail to help me out personally or professionally. Once I became a civilian dispatcher and you were an officer we’d talk often about trends and recent events bouncing ideas and theories off each other. You were always there when I needed a sounding board or to vent. Every time I was in OKC you were always good for dinner at the Dixe Dinner and that’s that last place I ever saw you. I remember the last phone call we had, you told me about a pursuit, Sampson, switching departments, and we talked about your daughter’s visit to you and Tabby which you were so excited of. Beuke and Lindy were the first to text me about the accident, they were making sure I was okay, looking out for each other just like you taught us. They were the first I’d heard of it but we went through the phone tree to make sure no one heard from an outside source and to ensure we all had each other to lean on. You cut a path wider than any natural disaster I’ve heard of, we gathered from all over to be there when you were laid to rest. My group gathered the night before and we drank and laughed and cried and hugged till damn near dawn. Stories you can’t fit in a library were passed around. You are our Paul Bunion, the tales larger than life itself, except they’re all true (Trout line at Fam Camp?). It was a somber but light mood at the visitation, you’d have approved. Hugs and catching-ups all around. Point and laugh at everyone’s “uniforms” in their new careers. We held each other and cried during the service, passing tissues, tight squeezes, reassuring glances and a flask for some. Just when we think it’s over and leave town, there’s a stranded motorist. It seemed like a test. Everything you ever taught us boiled down to regulations and treating everyone equally and with respect. Well your boys jumped out in uniform and pushed two ladies in a one-ton flatbed pick-up off to the side of highway. Good thing since all Law Enforcement in the Tri-State area was already in the procession. We left with jet-lag from traveling, eyes red from crying, bellies hurting from laughing, and heads aching from drinking but our hearts were healing. Our hearts are still healing. You’re unforgettable and this will never be an easy day for us. However, I know you’re up there watching and critiquing ensuring our safety and well-being.
I love and miss you brother,

(SSgt) Jeremy Ausmus, Telecommunicator I
METCAD, Champaign County, Illinois

April 19, 2013

I miss you Brian, my heart goes out to your family but know that they are supported by those you love. When I hear this song it reminds me of you when we were married and how we stayed the best of friends. My thoughts are always with you my dear beloved friend.

Well you and I
We're buddies
And we've been since we first met
Me and you
Well we've sure been through
Our share of laughter and regret

Lord knows we've had our bad days
And more than once we've disagreed
But you've always been a friend to me

You can be so stubborn
There's times I think you just like to fight
And I hope and pray
I live to see a day
When you say I might be right

And there's times I'd rather kill you
Than listen to your honesty
But you've always been a friend to me

You've always been
Time and again
The one to take my hand
And show to me it's okay to be
Just the way I am
With no apology

Oh you've always been
And you will 'til God knows when
Yes you've always been a friend to me

MSgt Katherine Mahana
Air Force

March 29, 2013

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